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Offline UrsaMajor

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My Story Re: When you let go...you are truly free
« Reply #10 on: January 24, 2019, 04:22:32 AM »
UM - hahahaha Holding it? No way - lol Drop Stomp Squish and squish again!!

Ah, I didn't realize that "holding the furry spider" was a euphemism for ... uhmmmmm ... NO! BAD BEAR! NOT gonna go there.... <snort>
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Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation
S - 12
D - 8
2 Dogs (1 each)
BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Mid-Lifer filed for D
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Re: When you let go...you are truly free
« Reply #11 on: January 24, 2019, 06:01:51 AM »
Sitting here giggling.  You two are funny!  You two should start a thread and banter back and forth for some comic relief to all us LBS.   Thanks for the chuckles this am.
10.29.17 BD-Moved out to OW/A began in  6.17
3.5.18 OW moved away/H moved in with F
3.19.18  H moved home into spare room 
7.14.18  Moved to be with OW (another state)
9.4.18  Moved back-Living with Parents 
11.1.18  OW moved back.  H living w/her in D's basement room. 
11.18 - H started visiting on holidays
11.26.19 Call from H.  BIL died suddenly.
1.19 - H announced to my inner circle that he moved to sisters  inc all belongings
2.19  H volunteers to house and dog sit whenever.
Spring 19  H visiting house and doing chores on a regular basis

4.83 Started Dating
8.10.85  Married

D -29 Married with 2 children  Lives Local
S - 27 Engaged in Prof School across country
3 Dogs (he left them all behind - taking care of them but not really visiting or interacting with them yet)

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Re: When you let go...you are truly free
« Reply #12 on: January 24, 2019, 06:33:10 AM »
Sitting here giggling.  You two are funny!  You two should start a thread and banter back and forth for some comic relief to all us LBS.   Thanks for the chuckles this am.

Actually Sam, it is 3 of us at least because WhyUs took me to task for posting the original spider GIF.... You are certainly welcome to join us though.. .Maybe we can fill up Mrs. Smilings current thread by the end of next week?
Me - 56
STBXW - 48
Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation
S - 12
D - 8
2 Dogs (1 each)
BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Mid-Lifer filed for D
Waiting for final decree

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Re: When you let go...you are truly free
« Reply #13 on: January 24, 2019, 07:23:03 AM »
Tempting and she is so busy she may not notice for another week!  LOL!
10.29.17 BD-Moved out to OW/A began in  6.17
3.5.18 OW moved away/H moved in with F
3.19.18  H moved home into spare room 
7.14.18  Moved to be with OW (another state)
9.4.18  Moved back-Living with Parents 
11.1.18  OW moved back.  H living w/her in D's basement room. 
11.18 - H started visiting on holidays
11.26.19 Call from H.  BIL died suddenly.
1.19 - H announced to my inner circle that he moved to sisters  inc all belongings
2.19  H volunteers to house and dog sit whenever.
Spring 19  H visiting house and doing chores on a regular basis

4.83 Started Dating
8.10.85  Married

D -29 Married with 2 children  Lives Local
S - 27 Engaged in Prof School across country
3 Dogs (he left them all behind - taking care of them but not really visiting or interacting with them yet)

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Re: When you let go...you are truly free
« Reply #14 on: January 24, 2019, 03:15:02 PM »
HAHAHA...I am here!

I think that's a challenge! I like challenges, sheesh I was married for 23 years! lol

As for Bad bear bad bear what do you see...oh wait isn't that brown bear brown bear....lol
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Re: When you let go...you are truly free
« Reply #15 on: January 24, 2019, 06:26:28 PM »
Number 15....only 135 to go.  8) 8)
10.29.17 BD-Moved out to OW/A began in  6.17
3.5.18 OW moved away/H moved in with F
3.19.18  H moved home into spare room 
7.14.18  Moved to be with OW (another state)
9.4.18  Moved back-Living with Parents 
11.1.18  OW moved back.  H living w/her in D's basement room. 
11.18 - H started visiting on holidays
11.26.19 Call from H.  BIL died suddenly.
1.19 - H announced to my inner circle that he moved to sisters  inc all belongings
2.19  H volunteers to house and dog sit whenever.
Spring 19  H visiting house and doing chores on a regular basis

4.83 Started Dating
8.10.85  Married

D -29 Married with 2 children  Lives Local
S - 27 Engaged in Prof School across country
3 Dogs (he left them all behind - taking care of them but not really visiting or interacting with them yet)

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Re: When you let go...you are truly free
« Reply #16 on: January 24, 2019, 08:10:53 PM »
lol well let's see what UM has in him....

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Re: When you let go...you are truly free
« Reply #17 on: January 25, 2019, 04:16:37 AM »
I see a Red Bird Looking at me.....

Yes, I have that book too..... D8 loved it.....
Me - 56
STBXW - 48
Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation
S - 12
D - 8
2 Dogs (1 each)
BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Mid-Lifer filed for D
Waiting for final decree

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A "friend" will not "stand by you" no matter what you do. That is NOT a friend. That is an enabler. That is an accomplice.
A REAL friend will sit you down and tell you to your face to stop being a firetrucking idiot before you ruin your life and the lives of those around you.

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Re: When you let go...you are truly free
« Reply #18 on: January 25, 2019, 08:34:35 AM »
Good morning,

I just have a question or two that someone might be able to help me with.
I've heard from H this morning through text.
H told me that he didn't want me to have any "surprises" but wanted to let me know that he
filled out the "paperwork" at the courthouse and I should receive it saturday. That he paid the cost
for the both of us.? I didn't ask for the divorce. So how can he pay the cost for the both of us?

That he wanted me to just put in "What I want" and then sign it. (really) H tried to sound like he knows what he is doing.
But clearly he does not.
Doesn't a processor have to serve the papers to make it a legal document from a court?
I have a list of things that he is uaware of that comes with a 23 year marriage. Where do these get included in this
paperwork? Do I just attach them or what?

I'm chuckling inside...But on a serious note need to get my ducks in a row.
H doesn't surprise me anymore. This is just stuff I know needs to be done.
As I said to H in response to his text . "I'm glad you filled them out, however, I won't be signing anything until the lawyer sees it first.".
I'm a little smarter than he thinks - see, I know when to drop the spider and stomp!

Thanks for any answers!
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Re: When you let go...you are truly free
« Reply #19 on: January 25, 2019, 10:59:09 AM »
Hey Mrs. Smiling - I'm not a lawyer but I have recently been through a divorce.  I wouldn't get too stressed about it.  Just take whatever paperwork he gives you and bring it to a lawyer to look over it with you.  Something that people don't realize is that anyone can file anything with a court - it doesn't give it some kind of special significance just because it's been filed.

I suspect every state is different but in my state it only takes one spouse to file for divorce.  You both have to sign it for it to mean something and in my state you are still required to appear before a judge.  In my personal case we went with a dissolution so there were no lawyers involved other than a single session for each of us to have someone look over the paperwork.
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