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Offline Mrs.SmilingTopic starter

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My Story Re: When you let go...you are truly free
« Reply #100 on: August 13, 2019, 08:46:01 PM »
Thanks UM, the more you listen to what they say and take the personal out of it. The more you realize what they are trying to do. He is clearly in crisis
mode and projecting.
I feel bad for S22. But there isn't much I can do. Speaking of S22, tonight he made Asst Manager at his job. I'm a pretty proud mama!
This is such an achievement for a young adult with Asperger's. I'm very proud of him!.

As for me, I continue to hope the best for exh. I found myself today while I had made a comment about him, I called him my husband. Weird to know
that we aren't married anymore.
But no sad stories here. It is what it is. I've lost quite a bit the past 2 years, it's amazing the strength you find through out all the things you go through.

I continue to let go and let god. I also know that my sister is up there next to God helping exh find his way.
One day...
Be the best version of yourself... there is no other

You cant break my spirit, its my dreams you take - James Blunt

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Re: When you let go...you are truly free
« Reply #101 on: August 14, 2019, 12:01:26 PM »
Mrs.  I can so relate to some things you said:

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I do think about him, I really do hope that God helps him find his way through. My exh is a good man deep inside, it's his character that's not so good.
I will always Love my exh. No matter what. My gut tells me that he will be okay, he will get through this in his own time.

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I've lost quite a bit the past 2 years, it's amazing the strength you find through out all the things you go through.

I still remember the first time you reached out to me and what you said to me.  I am glad you have been here the last two years (almost in my case).  Friends like you make this journey much more tolerable.

Congrats to Son!  That is awesome!  You should be proud!  He should be too!

Take care of yourself!  Sam!
10.29.17 BD-Moved out to OW/A began in  6.17
3.5.18 OW moved away/H moved in with F
3.19.18  H moved home into spare room 
7.14.18  Moved to be with OW (another state)
9.4.18  Moved back-Living with Parents 
11.1.18  OW moved back.  H living w/her in D's basement room. 
11.18 - H started visiting on holidays
11.26.19 Call from H.  BIL died suddenly.
1.19 - H announced to my inner circle that he moved to sisters  inc all belongings
2.19  H volunteers to house and dog sit whenever.
Spring 19  H visiting house and doing chores on a regular basis

4.83 Started Dating
8.10.85  Married

D -29 Married with 2 children  Lives Local
S - 27 Engaged in Prof School across country
3 Dogs (he left them all behind - taking care of them but not really visiting or interacting with them yet)

Offline Mrs.SmilingTopic starter

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Re: When you let go...you are truly free
« Reply #102 on: August 15, 2019, 04:45:55 AM »
Thanks Sam! It has been a long time. But that's what we have right now is time. I learn every day. I have a coworker who's husband is having small tantrums over small things. She has a feeling that he is having an affair and is ready to play detective. She said his demeanor has changed and he doesn't act like the man she married 19 years ago.
I realized that when talking to her, how much I've grown and how much I've learned over this time and just gave her a few things to ponder and remember to continue taking care of herself. The journey I've been on has been exhausting, challenging and a constant battle it seems. But I have found strength inside to not only continue to move forward, but strength to help others in RL.

You have been a wonderful friend Sam. I don't know what I would have done if I didn't find this home and have so many people understand exactly what it was I was going through. My most challenging moments I have brought here and have had my eyes opened up beyond the crisis to be able to keep the focus on me and S22.

I hope that one day, as he works through his crisis and appears again that we will connect in a way that God intended. To be friends. To enjoy our S22 and all the trials he will go through in life and just be happy.

Hugs around the world.
Be the best version of yourself... there is no other

You cant break my spirit, its my dreams you take - James Blunt

 

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