Author Topic: My Story Learning How to Live Again with Gratitude  (Read 4230 times)

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My Story Re: Learning How to Live Again with Gratitude
« Reply #150 on: June 17, 2019, 07:13:26 AM »
Rose and Mego and Learning, Thanks for keeping me laughing.  It is all too easy to fall into the doldrums, but I do not want to go to that dark place.  I do love the thought of being a secret queen.

Thursday night after my chance sighting, I had a late text from H,  He was sorry I did not stop by the car as he wanted me to meet his friend.  So, on Sunday night he is all angst about settlement and documents and on Thursday he wants me to meet one of his friends.  (He could have rolled down the window, but Learning, I think you are right, I surprised him).  Times like this I see the confusion and the MLC world and think, this isn't me. 

He also heard from his mother that I am off on vacation today and wanted to wish me a nice time.  My MIL and SIL are going to visit my mother while I am away; she gets into trouble when she senses I am not close.  They do not want her to feel abandoned.  It is a long ride for the two of them, so I am very touched.

My mother and I had a nice moment this weekend.  We pulled her old travel journal from 30 years ago and read about her trip with my dad.  And I was able to see my little auntie and bring her peonies from her bush that we transplanted when she moved to the home for retired aunts.  One of my lessons during my journey is to slow down and see the joy and the blessings in every moment. 
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Re: Learning How to Live Again with Gratitude
« Reply #151 on: June 17, 2019, 01:30:26 PM »
And I was able to see my little auntie and bring her peonies from her bush that we transplanted when she moved to the home for retired aunts.  One of my lessons during my journey is to slow down and see the joy and the blessings in every moment. 


Yes--the blessings. But sometimes hard to see through some of the rubbish life throws at us--like a root canal. It is a challenge every day to find them, but they are there.  And peonies are my absolute favorite flower ever!

Sorry I did have a little chuckle at your expense though--about getting soaked from the puddle. And I only laughed b/c it is something I would do. 

 
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Re: Learning How to Live Again with Gratitude
« Reply #152 on: June 17, 2019, 04:31:46 PM »
I think it's wonderful that your MIL and SIL will look in on your mom. I am sure it will take a load off your mind and allow you to really enjoy your vacation.

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One of my lessons during my journey is to slow down and see the joy and the blessings in every moment. 

Indeed. The good times are just sweeter than they used to be. Definitely a Silver Lining to this mess.
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Re: Learning How to Live Again with Gratitude
« Reply #153 on: June 18, 2019, 12:04:48 AM »
The thread Police are here and it's time for a new Thread!




New Thread: https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=10959
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