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My Story Fancy New Slippers
« on: February 07, 2019, 12:26:08 PM »
Fancy New Slippers. LOL. Kind of a strange title. I mentioned in a prior post that my SIL (H's sister) bought me these really cool (and expensive!) slippers for Christmas. They are wine-colored (how appropriate) velvet loafers. So cute you can even wear them out. And I am NOT a flat shoe gal! Anyway, they remind me that these people are H's blood. And yet they are spoiling me on Christmas. We were not always so close. Both them and me were to blame for that. But, we've all softened a bit since BD. And now we are amazingly close. I spend holidays and vacations with them....without H! Who would have ever thought???

 I guess mostly these wine-colored slippers remind me that there is always a positive side to things, even though we cannot necessarily see it at first. And that we are surrounded by blessings that we forget about. This journey has not been easy, and I've fought tooth and nail against the "process." But still I can see so many blessings have been bestowed upon me. I have a beautiful S12, wonderful family, the most amazing friends, a lovely home, a fantastic career, my health is back to normal....I could go on. And hey writing all this brought a huge smile to my face.   

I do have a few funny updates about H. But I wanted to start this off on a most positive note. Because, I fully intend on taking the bull by the horns and retaking control of my life. Mostly though, I want to just be present and fully appreciate all of the blessings that surround me.  Thanks everyone for joining me once again. I must have said this a million times but, I honestly do not know what I would do without you all!!

Prior Thread: https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=10530.0;all
Me 47
H 46
S12
BD 5/16
H Moved out 6/16
OW--yes. Worked for H. EA turned into PA while I was in chemo. On again/off again like every high school romance

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Re: Fancy New Slippers
« Reply #1 on: February 07, 2019, 12:48:02 PM »
Joining your new thread KiT

Enjoy your [ruby] slippers!! They sound amazing!

Go you.
« Last Edit: February 07, 2019, 12:49:06 PM by Music45 »
Me: 50
H: 51
S:26 D:19 [both his but live with us - though D at Uni]
BD: April 2016
Many false returns.
Effectively moved out Nov 2017 [works away from home. Home occasional weekends]
Moved out full time: July 2018 after he renewed contact with OW.
OW: old school friend lives 200+ miles away. No idea of current status of this relationship.

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Re: Fancy New Slippers
« Reply #2 on: February 07, 2019, 01:05:47 PM »
Following along KIT - love the sound of the slippers! PG x

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Re: Fancy New Slippers
« Reply #3 on: February 07, 2019, 01:14:49 PM »
I am here for you as always KIT. Thank you for always reminding me to be grateful and kind. 
Married 1998
MLC H 48
LBS W 47
D16, S12
BD March, 2016
Left home Sept 4, 2016 - living with parents
H filed for D - July 24, 2017
D final March 14, 2018 - still living at parent's house

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Re: Fancy New Slippers
« Reply #4 on: February 07, 2019, 01:44:55 PM »
Another class of 2016 buddy here continuing on with you, KIT. 

You are rockin' it, girl!   :)
After all, tomorrow is another day.
Together 16 years - married 6
BD - 1/1/16
His divorce final 7/16
Married OW - 7/17
a consistent semi-vanisher in the same small town

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Re: Fancy New Slippers
« Reply #5 on: February 07, 2019, 02:16:47 PM »
Following along KIT. You're doing great!
"I'm slowly learning to expect nothing and appreciate everything."

Married 1991
S: 24, D: 21 both doing great.

BD #1: June, 2016 - discovered EA with co-worker
BD #2: November 2018 - discovered online relationship with dude she met playing video games; she has never met him in person.
5-day separation (she left), November, 2018
W is trying (a little), but has no remorse. Nowhere near fully-cooked.

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Re: Fancy New Slippers
« Reply #6 on: February 07, 2019, 02:20:55 PM »
Here with you, Kit, and rejoicing in all the great stuff that you have going on, S12, your health, lovely house, wonderful career, in laws loving you, and wine slippers! I will have the Prosecco all chilled and ready for your arrival in Tuscany!
Married 1989, together since 1984 
BD May 2014,
D24, D21, S14
OW Physical Affair. He and she said she turned 34 the month of BD. She turned 50 last year.

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Re: Fancy New Slippers
« Reply #7 on: February 07, 2019, 03:18:31 PM »
Still here with you KIT!
“In the end, you’ve got to be your own hero because everyone’s busy trying to save themselves.”

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Re: Fancy New Slippers
« Reply #8 on: February 07, 2019, 03:41:09 PM »
Coming along with you kit xx
Me 50
H51
Married 20yrs
Together 29yr
BD 20/10/2014
Left first 12/12/2014
10 come backs and leaves again for same ow
Last left 7.03.17.
Ow 16 yrs younger, no children never been married. co worker. EA turned to PA and lives with ow
Divorce bomb drop by him 31/8/17 by solicitor letter after being caught by ow at lunch with me 3 wk earlier.
Crazy divorce started by him.
Clinging boomerang fir 3 yrs now Vanisher other twice a yr pops his head up. ow has balls in a vice!

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Re: Fancy New Slippers
« Reply #9 on: February 07, 2019, 04:09:59 PM »
Attaching, KIT.

Love the idea of what the fancy new slippers represent. Keep looking for the small (and big) blessings.
“Lighthouses don’t go running all over an island looking for boats to save; they just stand there shining.” -Anne Lamott

 

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