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Off-Topic PLEASE HELP!
« on: February 14, 2019, 09:27:53 AM »
Note to HS:

Can someone re-post that poem written by a former MLC'er?  It went something like, "I wanted him to get away from me, etc. - TIME - I wish he were here next to me, etc."

I forget where it came from and who wrote it, but I think it would be enormously helpful for MM to see.....plus I want to see it again, too!

Sorry for going off of my thread.  I don't know how to find it.

Offline BrenM

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Re: PLEASE HELP!
« Reply #1 on: February 14, 2019, 11:01:03 AM »
Sorry MG I am not familiar with this one.  Have you messaged Old Pilot?  He would know for sure.

Hope all is well xx
Me 47
Him 47
OW 32
Married - 20 years
Together - 28 years
BD - Nov 2014 - reason for affair said I controlled his life, wore flannelette pyjama pants to bed and drove our family car 🤔
Moved in with Young OW and her 2 kids Jan 2015
Total Vanisher
Divorced Sept 2016
S21, S17, S16 (autism), D14

🌹🌹Let's be real...Bren is the only one who can do Bren. I'm the best Bren on the planet. Trying to turn a skank into a Bren? That will surely end in disappointment, if it hasn't already.🌹🌹

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Re: PLEASE HELP!
« Reply #2 on: February 14, 2019, 11:02:28 AM »
Search for "him to hold my hand"

Also use the quotation marks to search for the exact phrase.
It will pop-up under numerous topics.

Not quite a poem, but it does give you hope reading it. It also never left my mind

cheers
M 39
W 37
D12 D5
15Y Marriage

08-2016/12-2016 OM1 EA with 21y old client (he turns her down)
10-2016 MiniBD - Wants to leave but changes her mind. I just saw it like she being angry and calming down again
08-2017 BD1 - ILYBINILWY speech, OM2 which she knew for 1 week and had seen for just 1 hour
11-2017 - Moved back in
05-2018 BD2 - Seeing OM2 again.
06-2018 - I leave the house
08-2018 - OM2 out of the picture
08-2018/11-2018 - Goes on 8 Tinder dates sleeps with one. (OM3)
12-2018 - Wants to reconnect.
xmas 2018 - BD3 says she can't do it and confesses to OM4
05-2019 - D filed
06-2019 - D Final

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Re: PLEASE HELP!
« Reply #3 on: February 14, 2019, 11:04:29 AM »
Sorry MG I am not familiar with this one.  Have you messaged Old Pilot?  He would know for sure.

Hope all is well xx

Haha that's strange since your reply was the first one to hit the search results quoting the original poster Busy_Bee
M 39
W 37
D12 D5
15Y Marriage

08-2016/12-2016 OM1 EA with 21y old client (he turns her down)
10-2016 MiniBD - Wants to leave but changes her mind. I just saw it like she being angry and calming down again
08-2017 BD1 - ILYBINILWY speech, OM2 which she knew for 1 week and had seen for just 1 hour
11-2017 - Moved back in
05-2018 BD2 - Seeing OM2 again.
06-2018 - I leave the house
08-2018 - OM2 out of the picture
08-2018/11-2018 - Goes on 8 Tinder dates sleeps with one. (OM3)
12-2018 - Wants to reconnect.
xmas 2018 - BD3 says she can't do it and confesses to OM4
05-2019 - D filed
06-2019 - D Final

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Re: PLEASE HELP!
« Reply #4 on: February 14, 2019, 11:07:42 AM »
Really?  Haha my memory is very foggy at times....as most LBS’s.  I do love and follow Busy Bee’s posts....sounds like I need to search it myself 😳
Me 47
Him 47
OW 32
Married - 20 years
Together - 28 years
BD - Nov 2014 - reason for affair said I controlled his life, wore flannelette pyjama pants to bed and drove our family car 🤔
Moved in with Young OW and her 2 kids Jan 2015
Total Vanisher
Divorced Sept 2016
S21, S17, S16 (autism), D14

🌹🌹Let's be real...Bren is the only one who can do Bren. I'm the best Bren on the planet. Trying to turn a skank into a Bren? That will surely end in disappointment, if it hasn't already.🌹🌹

❤❤Family isn't an important thing.  IT IS EVERYTHING!! ❤❤



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Re: PLEASE HELP!
« Reply #5 on: February 14, 2019, 11:18:40 AM »
FromAbroad....I can’t find it lol...searching as you said...i will try again later on a PC.   You have me intrigued.
Me 47
Him 47
OW 32
Married - 20 years
Together - 28 years
BD - Nov 2014 - reason for affair said I controlled his life, wore flannelette pyjama pants to bed and drove our family car 🤔
Moved in with Young OW and her 2 kids Jan 2015
Total Vanisher
Divorced Sept 2016
S21, S17, S16 (autism), D14

🌹🌹Let's be real...Bren is the only one who can do Bren. I'm the best Bren on the planet. Trying to turn a skank into a Bren? That will surely end in disappointment, if it hasn't already.🌹🌹

❤❤Family isn't an important thing.  IT IS EVERYTHING!! ❤❤



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Re: PLEASE HELP!
« Reply #6 on: February 14, 2019, 11:29:46 AM »
What if I tell you that I felt NOTHING for my husband?
I wanted him to disappear
I wanted him to leave me alone
I wanted him to just go away and don't bother me
I didn't love him anymore and I was SURE i never will

Time.....

After 5 year
I'd give everything just for him to hold my hand
I'd give anything for him just to be with me
I'd give anything to get his attention

When the FOG was gone I knew he is the only one i want to spend my life with
Difficult to explain MLC, as you can't comprehend that sudden " unlove" , sudden personality change. There is no such thing as ILVYBIMNILWY nonsense.

For some MLCers their other life will work well, so they won't come back. Others will regret but still won't come back
But there are others who would like to come back, but LBS are already gone...

That is why you need to let her go first completely. Find yourself.
As you can't replace her,  she won't be able to replace you as well. She will try her best. Most probably she will fail.
Many ifss and buts ...

I guess TIME will fix all those MLCers, will you wait?
M 39
W 37
D12 D5
15Y Marriage

08-2016/12-2016 OM1 EA with 21y old client (he turns her down)
10-2016 MiniBD - Wants to leave but changes her mind. I just saw it like she being angry and calming down again
08-2017 BD1 - ILYBINILWY speech, OM2 which she knew for 1 week and had seen for just 1 hour
11-2017 - Moved back in
05-2018 BD2 - Seeing OM2 again.
06-2018 - I leave the house
08-2018 - OM2 out of the picture
08-2018/11-2018 - Goes on 8 Tinder dates sleeps with one. (OM3)
12-2018 - Wants to reconnect.
xmas 2018 - BD3 says she can't do it and confesses to OM4
05-2019 - D filed
06-2019 - D Final

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Re: PLEASE HELP!
« Reply #7 on: February 14, 2019, 11:34:23 AM »
Oh yes...I do know this one so well!  Thankyou very much!
Me 47
Him 47
OW 32
Married - 20 years
Together - 28 years
BD - Nov 2014 - reason for affair said I controlled his life, wore flannelette pyjama pants to bed and drove our family car 🤔
Moved in with Young OW and her 2 kids Jan 2015
Total Vanisher
Divorced Sept 2016
S21, S17, S16 (autism), D14

🌹🌹Let's be real...Bren is the only one who can do Bren. I'm the best Bren on the planet. Trying to turn a skank into a Bren? That will surely end in disappointment, if it hasn't already.🌹🌹

❤❤Family isn't an important thing.  IT IS EVERYTHING!! ❤❤



Vanished Return Stories Thread #1 - https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=9088.0;all
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Re: PLEASE HELP!
« Reply #8 on: February 14, 2019, 11:40:04 AM »
I’m not sure it’s the best idea to show this to your husband.  In fact I’m positive it will hurt more than help your cause.
H: 44
M: 45
M: 2003, T: 2001, Friends: 1996
No kids
2 dogs, 2 cats
BD1 (Summer 2014) "We aren't happy, I should move out, we should divorce"  Nothing happened.
Nov 2014 we moved across the country for H's job
BD2 (July 2015) "I'm not happy.  I want a divorce"  H moves out for 2 weeks.
BD3 (Nov 2017) H takes a new job 2 hours away and moves out.
BD4 (September 2018) OW2 discovered despite claims there has never been one.  She outs MOW1 and discloses that H filed for Divorce, but has not served me.  OW2 dumps him.

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Re: PLEASE HELP!
« Reply #9 on: February 14, 2019, 11:45:56 AM »
Thank you so much for posting that!

No it's not a poem, but I just didn't know what else to call it (thoughts?)

Well whatever it is, I think it puts MLC into its simplest form.  And it never left my brain.

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« Reply #10 on: February 14, 2019, 12:21:28 PM »
I’m not sure it’s the best idea to show this to your husband.  In fact I’m positive it will hurt more than help your cause.

Strawberry it is not for Mego’s husband but for another LBS poster on HS.
Me 47
Him 47
OW 32
Married - 20 years
Together - 28 years
BD - Nov 2014 - reason for affair said I controlled his life, wore flannelette pyjama pants to bed and drove our family car 🤔
Moved in with Young OW and her 2 kids Jan 2015
Total Vanisher
Divorced Sept 2016
S21, S17, S16 (autism), D14

🌹🌹Let's be real...Bren is the only one who can do Bren. I'm the best Bren on the planet. Trying to turn a skank into a Bren? That will surely end in disappointment, if it hasn't already.🌹🌹

❤❤Family isn't an important thing.  IT IS EVERYTHING!! ❤❤



Vanished Return Stories Thread #1 - https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=9088.0;all
Vanisher Return Stories Link Thread #2 - https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=9378.new#new

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Re: PLEASE HELP!
« Reply #11 on: February 14, 2019, 12:24:14 PM »
Well that’s good.  I thought she was referring to Mr. Mego.
H: 44
M: 45
M: 2003, T: 2001, Friends: 1996
No kids
2 dogs, 2 cats
BD1 (Summer 2014) "We aren't happy, I should move out, we should divorce"  Nothing happened.
Nov 2014 we moved across the country for H's job
BD2 (July 2015) "I'm not happy.  I want a divorce"  H moves out for 2 weeks.
BD3 (Nov 2017) H takes a new job 2 hours away and moves out.
BD4 (September 2018) OW2 discovered despite claims there has never been one.  She outs MOW1 and discloses that H filed for Divorce, but has not served me.  OW2 dumps him.

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« Reply #12 on: February 14, 2019, 01:05:18 PM »
Oh hell no! LOL

Just trying to help a fellow poster......

 

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