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Offline MortesbrideTopic starter

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My Story Beauty into Beast 10
« on: March 14, 2019, 07:35:56 AM »
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Well I just put a huge update on my last thread so nothing more to report at the moment. Simply creating my new thread for the furry thread police.  8)

I do find it interesting that today I was firm on a boundary with someone (not MLCer) and their response was basically a virtual foot stomp, followed by the silent treatment.

I think before I would have either allowed it from the beginning so as not to upset someone else, or if it had come out how I felt...and they responded this way..I would have chased the person up saying I was sorry, didn't mean it...it's okay...and give in.

So I guess in a personal development sort of way, I am not trying to fix anyone else's problems...or mould myself into what will make them happy.

Yay! :)
You know this is MLC when you have played emotional hot potato with a pair of crotch-less tights.

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Re: Beauty into Beast 10
« Reply #1 on: March 14, 2019, 07:43:33 AM »
Coming along mort xx
Me 50
H51
Married 20yrs
Together 29yr
BD 20/10/2014
Left first 12/12/2014
10 come backs and leaves again for same ow
Last left 7.03.17.
Ow 16 yrs younger, no children never been married. co worker. EA turned to PA and lives with ow
Divorce bomb drop by him 31/8/17 by solicitor letter after being caught by ow at lunch with me 3 wk earlier.
Crazy divorce started by him.
Clinging boomerang fir 3 yrs now Vanisher other twice a yr pops his head up. ow has balls in a vice!

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Re: Beauty into Beast 10
« Reply #2 on: March 14, 2019, 07:55:35 AM »
Coming alone for the ride, Mort.

Your last thread was seriously so interesting, I had to go back to the beginning and read the whole thing.  A lot of smart LBS's on this forum.   ;)

I was just got to the end and you had to start new thread.

I'll be following this one.   ;)
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Re: Beauty into Beast 10
« Reply #3 on: March 14, 2019, 08:02:12 AM »
Well, if it wouldn't have been me, it would have been someone else... <snort>

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MLC - 47
Together 20 years - Married for 17 at separation
S - 11
D - 8
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Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
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Re: Beauty into Beast 10
« Reply #4 on: March 14, 2019, 09:15:37 AM »
Following along Morte

I was the same with boundaries. I let people get away with murder. No more!!
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Re: Beauty into Beast 10
« Reply #5 on: March 14, 2019, 09:33:54 AM »
Following your H's antics with interest! I love your sense of humour!
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Re: Beauty into Beast 10
« Reply #6 on: March 14, 2019, 09:56:16 AM »
Mort--my H has mentioned the whole "wanting to die soon" thing too. So childish and immature. As if, as you pointed out, once the kids are 18 it's fine if Dad dies. Mine just wants to die now. So there's that. You are quite right in saying you have 3 children now. MLCers are in a category all their own, and they may differ a bit, but they are ALL immature, selfish beings.

You are doing great. I am pretty sure I wouldn't have maintained the composure you did. Which is probably why yours felt comfortable talking to you. So kudos to you!
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Re: Beauty into Beast 10
« Reply #7 on: March 14, 2019, 10:11:25 AM »
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Re: Beauty into Beast 10
« Reply #8 on: March 14, 2019, 10:54:54 AM »
Following along as we have similar timelines.  I don't post much but always try and keep up with ones that have the same timings.

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Re: Beauty into Beast 10
« Reply #9 on: March 14, 2019, 10:59:16 AM »
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Morte:  My H told me one time that he can not think about the future.  It upsets him.  He can only worry about now.   

Wow! 
2019 - 365 New Opportunities  Bring It On!

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I choose to be excited - I choose to be thankful
I CHOOSE to be HAPPY

BD 10 29 2017  Moved out to OW/A began in  7.17
3/5/18 OW moved/H moved in with F
3/19/18  H moved home into spare room 
7.14.18  Moved to be with OW in another State
9.4.18  Moved back...Living with Parents OW Out of State 
11.1.18  Moved in with sister  Part of H's belonging are boxed on parents side porch
Dec 18 - OW may be living locally but H not fully living with her
Jan 2019 - H announced to my inner circle that he moved to sisters  inc all belongings

Started Dating - Spring 1983
Married - August 1985
D29 - 2 children living locally
D -29 Married with 2 children
S - 27 Engaged in Prof School
3 Dogs

 

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