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Discussion The Unapologetic
« on: March 15, 2019, 02:51:00 AM »
I came across this article today and found it very apt.

Wasn't sure where to put it so started a new thread.

This tells us a lot about the crazy making lies of the MLCer. But I think it also tells us a lot about some of the things we see with everyday people.

Food for thought.  :)
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Re: The Unapologetic
« Reply #1 on: March 15, 2019, 03:11:41 AM »
Good article, I'm sending this one to my sister.  Her H is never wrong and never apologizes for anything.

I laughed at this:
“Someone must have, because I checked, and there was milk,” as though some phantom broke into the house, finished the milk and left without a trace.  lol
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"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."

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Re: The Unapologetic
« Reply #2 on: March 15, 2019, 03:23:06 AM »
I was surprised NOT to see a couple of pictures of people I know/knew as poster children for this.... FIL(RIP) being one of them... and STBX IS her fathers Daughter...
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Re: The Unapologetic
« Reply #3 on: March 15, 2019, 03:38:16 AM »
Interesting Morte, thanks for that. I remember totally believing without any doubt that me H would NEVER have the capability to return home and say he was wrong, he made a mistake and he was very sorry . I had ZERO faith that his ego or pride ( distorted) would allow him to turn around and try to fix what he broke. This belief did force me to take GAL more seriously because he would never be able to undo what he had done. He is a man that has a had time with being "wrong".

But,,,he did. It still feels "un-real". But he certainly did not do it easily . He ended up in an ambulance and days in hospital same day he returned . I could see that the pain he was experiencing outside of his home and marriage was greater than the pain of admitting he made a huge mistake.It is all "ego"related I suspect and maybe more so for men. I really have no difficulty being wrong ...I never feel all that invested in something, that I can't be wrong. I find it very fluent and easy to apologize and the sooner the better. MLC has lots of ego disruptions .

Many women have written that they do not believe their spouse has the capability to admit they were wrong and try to fix their marriage. But they could be completely wrong.  I was.  But he will struggle with "feeling" wrong because his childhood experience ALWAYS made him feel like he was "wrong" no matter what.
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Re: The Unapologetic
« Reply #4 on: March 15, 2019, 07:15:23 AM »
That’s a very interesting article. I’ll probably find myself rereading it!

I think in my case H is hit and miss with admitting he’s wrong. In some cases he can and in others he’ll just move past it and act like it never happened so I can’t tell how this whole thing will affect him really. I guess time will tell. But as my mother always says

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