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Discussion Re: Support and advice on the forum. Where do you draw the line???
« Reply #20 on: April 03, 2019, 12:14:09 PM »
I stand corrected, OP.
Thank you for the link.
It’s on the second page of Forum Information. 
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Re: Support and advice on the forum. Where do you draw the line???
« Reply #21 on: April 03, 2019, 12:22:51 PM »
It is still a good question Acorn, thank you for bringing it up  :)
I am sure you are not the only one who has been thinking of that, now the link is easier to find.

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Re: Support and advice on the forum. Where do you draw the line???
« Reply #22 on: April 05, 2019, 01:57:39 AM »
Information is just that...information.

It is up to each individual to decide if that information is relevant, useful, or even correct.

How does a person decide what to use on the internet? We find a reputable source. We cross check....compare information from many sources.

No matter what advice you receive on this website, it is ultimately up to YOU to decide what is best in the situation.

I don't think it should be a moderator or RCR job to police everything that looks like it might be legal or medical advice. Personally I found a lot of the information very helpful and it wasn't even about my situation. I think having people in medicine or law is actually VERY HELPFUL to people on here, because you can get some ''off the record'' tips, tricks, and ideas.

As a (single?) mom who may be facing the D word at some point, I will be looking to get all the legal ideas I can... (don't forget pensions, and custody arrangements, and health insurance and blah blah). I don't expect anyone on here to fight my case for me, or know the ins and outs of Scottish law...that is a lawyers job, but having those helpful reminders will save a lot of heartache.

Same goes for Medicine...I study Biology...have no formal qualification. But through my education, and research, have managed to solve at least 6 different health problems of various people (Me, My daughter, my husband) when the doctors here (NHS) had just flobbed them off. One of which was my own gallbladder that I had to FORCE them to check ''because I was to young for it to be that'' and by the time they gave in and agreed to the scan it was about to burst! Am I going to come on here and say ''Wowwee I think you got an inflamed gallbladder let me pop to the shed and take it out for you!''  :o no...but what is the harm in me saying ''Hey you know what happened to me....maybe you should have your doctor do a X scan''.

Think our world has gone a bit crazy over filtering information, and being super careful of what you say, because one outlier took it to far.

That is on the outlier not the information.


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Re: Support and advice on the forum. Where do you draw the line???
« Reply #23 on: April 05, 2019, 08:52:48 AM »
What she said☝️

So many sites are afraid of appearing to give expert advice and are terriefied.  But the thing is, not a single one of the changes I made for my thyroid that were effective were recommended by my doctor.  Knowing what has worked in practice for other people is often useful.
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Re: Support and advice on the forum. Where do you draw the line???
« Reply #24 on: April 05, 2019, 09:31:16 AM »
I don't think people are going to stop giving the type of advice they have been giving so far. The disclaimer exists to prevent HS and its member being liable, not to stop people giving the type of advice they do.

Indeed, information is just information, advice is just advice. Each person must think, compare and decide for themselves.
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Re: Support and advice on the forum. Where do you draw the line???
« Reply #25 on: April 05, 2019, 09:29:12 PM »
The legal disclaimer was previously shown on each page by using a global footer mod. After an upgrade that mod was giving me problems and I had to stop using it. I just tried it now and it is working.

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Re: Support and advice on the forum. Where do you draw the line???
« Reply #26 on: April 06, 2019, 03:27:50 AM »
The legal disclaimer was previously shown on each page by using a global footer mod. After an upgrade that mod was giving me problems and I had to stop using it. I just tried it now and it is working.

Oh cool,  I hope it keeps working without any issues

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Re: Support and advice on the forum. Where do you draw the line???
« Reply #27 on: April 06, 2019, 08:12:50 AM »
The legal disclaimer was previously shown on each page by using a global footer mod. After an upgrade that mod was giving me problems and I had to stop using it. I just tried it now and it is working.

Wonderful. Thank you!

Indeed, information is just information, advice is just advice. Each person must think, compare and decide for themselves.

Yes, what you have said is common sense. 
What is also common sense is recognizing that not everyone has common sense. 

I think it’s prudent to have the disclaimer displayed unambiguously.  It’s a bit like having an insurance for one’s house.  Not because there will be a devastating fire, but just in case. 
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Re: Support and advice on the forum. Where do you draw the line???
« Reply #28 on: April 06, 2019, 12:32:40 PM »
What is also common sense is recognizing that not everyone has common sense. 

Agree.

I think it’s prudent to have the disclaimer displayed unambiguously.  It’s a bit like having an insurance for one’s house.  Not because there will be a devastating fire, but just in case.

Indeed.
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