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My Story Where Do we fit? All Things New!
« on: April 14, 2019, 03:28:02 PM »
Well, I thought I was doing to my last chapter.  My ex has taken me down to the road of chaos as life didn’t really turn out the way he thought.  He hasn’t admitted it but he hasn’t been able to do his life very well.  Still playing the blame game because he just can’t look at himself. 

But...everything that was throw at me I was able to walk through.  God protected me.  He didn’t stop it but he kept me afloat. So now it’s me time.

Because of finances I had to move out of the apartment I had for the last 6 years after my ex moved me from 1 state to another.  I tried to hold on to it but it was time to move on, let go and start new.  I did all that while going through bankruptcy. Other then feeling humiliated by it all it turned out not to be to bad.  I just wished my bankruptcy was because of something I did rather than my ex losing his business and messing up his life but it’s done and I survived.

So, just before the move I found out that my full time job was going down to part time.  More chaos, my chaos.  So I panicked thinking I was going to be homeless.  My department found me a job 45 minutes from my home and I didn’t have a good feeling about it.  Placed some resumes out there and found a job within the company I’m working with.  It’s going to be a good fit.  It’s a buck less an hour and not sure how that is going to work for me but it’s close to home and I get to keep my benefits and time off.  I also just had an interview with a grocery store near me for a part time job but I’m sure it’s not going to pay well.  But, I will do what I need to do. 

So, everything is in order.  I still have 1 last thing to nail down.  The 2014 taxes he left me with and then there is nothing more.  He won’t pay me the alimony so there’s no need connecting with him to so I have been no contact for about almost 2 1/2 months.  I think this is the longest.

I’m still unpacking but my place is looking good. It’s not what I had but I can make it my home.

Thanks for reading and keeping me on track.

Here’s to another new thread!!!!

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« Last Edit: April 14, 2019, 03:29:47 PM by UnconditionalLove »
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Re: Where Do we fit? All Things New!
« Reply #1 on: April 15, 2019, 03:29:53 AM »
Following along on your new journey, UL.   :)
A quote from a recovered MLCer: 
"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."

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Re: Where Do we fit? All Things New!
« Reply #2 on: April 15, 2019, 04:14:40 AM »
Following along
Me - 27
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3 children together D2 D5 D7
Together - almost 8 years

BD & MLCer moved out - November 2017
OW discovered - December 2017

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Re: Where Do we fit? All Things New!
« Reply #3 on: April 24, 2019, 03:45:19 PM »
UL, good luck in the new place. And kudos to you for taking the bull by the horns regarding your job. They say one of the most stressful things in life is a long commute because the traffic is always different and you never get settled with a pattern. It was also brilliant that you get to keep your benefits and time off.  I would have taken a cut in pay too, to achieve all of that.
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Re: Where Do we fit? All Things New!
« Reply #4 on: April 26, 2019, 09:26:09 PM »
Seems like you're making the new place a lovely home for yourself.  At least its MLC free ;D
"And when they ask you about me and you find yourself thinking back on all of our memories,
I hope you ache in regret as the truth hits you like a bullet and you find yourself replying: ""She loved me more than anyone else in the entire world and I tried to destroy her."  He failed by the way. 
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Re: Where Do we fit? All Things New!
« Reply #5 on: April 30, 2019, 03:10:57 PM »
Well hello my people! LOL! 
So, I have gotten moved in.  Now for the occasional tweaking.  I wanted to have everything in place before I start my new job which is Monday so I was able to do that.  The job I have right now I had half a day on friday's off.  I will miss that but I was actually working a part time job anyhow so sometimes I had to go there from 2 to 5.  I just picked up an another new part time job.  A friend started a dog walking, training, groom business and I will be working night remotely at home doing invoices, and other office stuff so. For now finances should be in order.  I will still hold on to my other part time job which will make 3 jobs but I got this.  If my ex would just send me a wee bit of money I wouldn't have to do this but I'm not asking for anything from him.  I won't get it and I don't want to break no contact to hear I won't get it.  I'm going to live on faith! Next week it will be a full 3 months of no contact!  He will never look back!  I honestly think if and when the affair OW thing is over he might just leaving the US and head back to mom and dad's country to hide.  They could use his help and he can look like the good son.  Of course he's in debt and hasn't paid taxes so that would start the whole tax evasion thing.   Who really knows what he will do.

Thanks everyone for the support!  It feels good to be out of the old apartment but it also has made me more alone.  I don't know anyone here and at the other place I did.  So, I feel a little like all I did was make myself more alone. 

Hope you all have a great night!
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Re: Where Do we fit? All Things New!
« Reply #6 on: April 30, 2019, 03:37:21 PM »
It will only feel more lonely at first. Then, as you become accustomed to the new place, it will begin to feel like home and comfy. Are you able to take walks around the new neighborhood and possibly meet some people?
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Re: Where Do we fit? All Things New!
« Reply #7 on: May 01, 2019, 06:47:39 PM »
Learning, you are right I’m sure it will get better.  I haven’t gotten out yet because I just moved and wanted to get this packing done before I start my new job on Monday.  I use to have half a day on friday’s Off and now I’m working an 8 to 5 M thru F.  Part time evenings starting soon so I won’t have much time to myself.  I will start getting out here possibly this weekend.

In other news.  The 2014 joint taxes have been hanging over me.  If all goes well because I got disconnected from the IRS person I was talking to tonight.  If she follows through I am going to pay $50 a month for a year on those stupid taxes to get them off my back.  Then they want to raise it in a year.  Any other plan was going to put me in a lien situation with them and I’m tired of being humiliated by MLC’er stupidity.  They wouldn’t place him on a lien just me.  But, the lady I spoke to tonight was great. I prayed and prayed and prayed I would get a good person from the IRS and she was very understand and explain stuff well. I can’t let this go on any more. 

So, that was the last thing I needed to take care of.  I am also going to check into a Tax attorney to see if he knows of other options as well.  But this will buy me time. 

So, there you go!
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Re: Where Do we fit? All Things New!
« Reply #8 on: May 02, 2019, 12:44:25 PM »
Sounds like you got the perfect agent to help you with your dilemma. Glad to know the payment plan won't break the bank. I think you are wise to want to consult with an attorney.

I hope the unpacking goes well and you will be out and about dazzling your new neighbors.
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Re: Where Do we fit? All Things New!
« Reply #9 on: May 02, 2019, 03:29:43 PM »
Thanks learning!
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