Author Topic: My Story The Light is Getting Brighter, and the Path is Getting Clearer  (Read 1539 times)

Offline Shining StarTopic starter

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My Story Re: The Light is Getting Brighter, and the Path is Getting Clearer
« Reply #80 on: May 15, 2019, 11:47:48 AM »
Oh Kit - that man is running - and running hard!  My hope is fading that he will ever look back.  It just isn't his style.  But, and this is huge, I do think I have had a brain shift and am starting to understand that I really need to focus on me - for real - not just going through the motions.  That is growth, which has been so turtle slow.  I am looking forward to meeting you in Italy so we can compare notes.  We will need lots of wine :)
H:56, I am 54
BD: March 2014, Left Sept 2014, Back Nov 2014
Left again in February 2015.  Asked for D on 9/22/15
Said he was "sure" he wanted a D in Dec 2015; 
Admitted long term affair - May 14, 2017 - says he is in love with the "symptom" but wants to build a relationship with me with "clear expectations" WHATEVER THAT MEANS!  Settlement Agreement signed 9/20/17.
Divorce final 3/14/18.
NC - by choice - 1/2018

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Re: The Light is Getting Brighter, and the Path is Getting Clearer
« Reply #81 on: May 15, 2019, 05:09:36 PM »
Umm,,, do you think I could get in on the 'comparing notes' meeting?   You know,,, the one with lots of wine?

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Re: The Light is Getting Brighter, and the Path is Getting Clearer
« Reply #82 on: May 16, 2019, 02:32:24 AM »
Anon:  Absolutely - now we have a party, and I see us belly laughing at the insane stories instead of tears...
H:56, I am 54
BD: March 2014, Left Sept 2014, Back Nov 2014
Left again in February 2015.  Asked for D on 9/22/15
Said he was "sure" he wanted a D in Dec 2015; 
Admitted long term affair - May 14, 2017 - says he is in love with the "symptom" but wants to build a relationship with me with "clear expectations" WHATEVER THAT MEANS!  Settlement Agreement signed 9/20/17.
Divorce final 3/14/18.
NC - by choice - 1/2018

Offline FaithWalker

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Re: The Light is Getting Brighter, and the Path is Getting Clearer
« Reply #83 on: May 20, 2019, 07:44:36 PM »
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M-40
H-43
S-18
D-16
S-13
Friends 7y before M
Married 14y
BD 12/14/15 - 2 weeks after 14th anniv.
Divorce final 4/13/16
EA - 9/15-4/16
New GF 12/16
Engaged 6/17 (I found out 8/10/17)
Moved to her State 4 States away - 7/13/17
Eng. off 8/20/17
Moved back to our State 8/24/17
Saw his POF the first month back
1.5y later no signs of anyone new - workaholic

Link to my journey: 
https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=10630.new#new

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass - it's about learning to dance in the rain."

"Don't become a container for bitterness.  It's a toxin that destroys what it's carried in."

"Sometimes - some things have to break apart so better things can be built."

"If we don't take time to heal, we will bleed on people who didn't cut us."

 

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