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My Story Re: Happy 3rd (BD) Anniversary to Me!
« Reply #10 on: May 01, 2019, 12:00:02 AM »
Staying with you KIT. I also love you lost. Whilst we don’t “enjoy” MLC we definitely enjoy the silver linings to that cloud!
Me - 27
H - 34
3 children together D2 D5 D7
Together - almost 8 years

BD & MLCer moved out - November 2017
OW discovered - December 2017

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Re: Happy 3rd (BD) Anniversary to Me!
« Reply #11 on: May 01, 2019, 12:18:36 AM »
Hello KIT. Following your story. The pain and disappointment in your last post was so very obvious. So glad you’re feeling stronger today.
M: 48
H: 51
Married 20yrs, together 23yrs
D: 20
D: 18
BD 9th Sep 2018
OW (44) - he met her in the pub a week before BD, told me about her a week after BD. Thinks 'their planets have collided' because 'their eyes met across the room' and they had an 'instant connection'. Is now pressuring family to meet her.
Moved in with OW 'by stealth' Dec18-Jan19? (just started staying over and not staying at 'home' anymore (caravan at his brothers))

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Re: Happy 3rd (BD) Anniversary to Me!
« Reply #12 on: May 01, 2019, 12:37:39 AM »
I’m so sorry your H is doing what’s easiest for him in the moment.  I do believe he is likely to feel
Very sorry one day.  I think you  have done well to get  out of despondency so quickly and even better to keep yourself and S doing so well under the hardest of circumstances. 

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Re: Happy 3rd (BD) Anniversary to Me!
« Reply #13 on: May 01, 2019, 02:35:42 AM »
KIT

I loved your response to H’s e-mail about not picking up S atm. ‘Sure. Hope all is ok’. Underestimated in how hard that would have been to do and also how brilliant a response it was.

Also love your list. So glad you have a handyman to help, good for you. I am in similar situation (without a handyman) being on my own with the children and making sure I somehow get lightbulbs changed and gates fixed. I know how it feels being ‘in charge’ and how satisfying it is getting these things ticked off the to do list!

I do hate that he didn’t turn round and even acknowledge you though. It hurts doesn’t it.

Rose 🌹
Married 15+ years with 2 children
BD1 - 2016
BD2 - 2017
PA with MOW Mar 2016-Jan 2017 then EA
H left home Oct 2017 to stay with his parents
Bought a family Puppy mid 2018 - referred to as ‘P’

Link to advice by my mentor, Phoenix, on what to tell the children about H leaving - reply #33 (it had a glitch)
https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=9313.30

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Re: Happy 3rd (BD) Anniversary to Me!
« Reply #14 on: May 01, 2019, 11:29:28 AM »
What a great list that is KIT and you are daggone straight you are kicking a$$ all the way around.
Me 52
H 51
AD 22 from previous R
Known H since 1993
Together since 2000
BD 06/21/2017
OW High School Sweetheart lives 4 hrs away

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Re: Happy 3rd (BD) Anniversary to Me!
« Reply #15 on: May 01, 2019, 05:52:39 PM »
KIT - you are headed into year four with a great outlook.  It's going to bode well for you! 
After all, tomorrow is another day.
Together 16 years - married 6
BD - 1/1/16
His divorce final 7/16
Married OW - 7/17
a consistent semi-vanisher in the same small town

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Re: Happy 3rd (BD) Anniversary to Me!
« Reply #16 on: May 01, 2019, 06:06:31 PM »
Following along Kit

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Re: Happy 3rd (BD) Anniversary to Me!
« Reply #17 on: May 01, 2019, 08:59:36 PM »
Omg I am beyond flattered and humbled that all of you awesome folks are here with  me!  Also, there might have been a little Rose tonight so....


I would like to share this evening’s convo with the MLCer:

H: “Can S come to the game tomorrow night? It’s the D2 championship game. Kind of a big deal.”

Me: “No it’s too late in the eve. It’s a school night.  Sorry.”

H: “All the other kids are going.”

H: “I’ll have him home by 9:30.”

H: “Please.”

Choosing my battles......

Me: “Good Lord—ok. But please feed him this time.”

H: “I will. Sorry.”

And really.....did a 46 year old man-boy/judge  actually say “all the other kids are doing it?????”

Wow. So MIL  May go too bc she thinks OW is going—pretty good chance. And she wants a fight. Is it wrong that I secretly love this?

Anyway, just another installment of “As the Dysfunctional World Turns” .....
Me 47
H 46
S12
BD 5/16
H Moved out 6/16
OW--yes. Worked for H. EA turned into PA while I was in chemo. On again/off again like every high school romance

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Re: Happy 3rd (BD) Anniversary to Me!
« Reply #18 on: May 01, 2019, 11:47:51 PM »
KIT

He’s so like a teenager isn’t he. Well done for picking your battle and also pointing him in the direction of feeding S.

Rose 🌹
Married 15+ years with 2 children
BD1 - 2016
BD2 - 2017
PA with MOW Mar 2016-Jan 2017 then EA
H left home Oct 2017 to stay with his parents
Bought a family Puppy mid 2018 - referred to as ‘P’

Link to advice by my mentor, Phoenix, on what to tell the children about H leaving - reply #33 (it had a glitch)
https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=9313.30

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Re: Happy 3rd (BD) Anniversary to Me!
« Reply #19 on: May 02, 2019, 12:16:27 AM »
Following along KIT. You have come so far in 3 years, you can be proud of yourself.
Your last post says alot about your H, he is like a teen.
I think that you have made a good decision in letting your S go to the game. Picking your battles is so important, we cant constantly be in a battlezone can we?

This stuck out from your opening post:-"I found a handyman who fixed the gates, installed a new iron one in front of the house, lots of security cameras and lights too, regularly cleans my rain gutters, and pretty much anything I need him to do. "

Go you, thats just what you Need, somebody to clean your "gutters"  ;) (im bad)
Married - 19,5 Years pre BD
Together - 21,5 Years
Me: 45
W: 45 (Acts 25)
BD 1: 10.01.2017
BD 2: 24.02.2017 OM 28 (now 30) Trainings partner. W is actually getting People to accept them.
2 Sons - 19 & 21
1 Dogs and a cat.
Own home . Sold!
Divorce Date 21.08.2018
T1  http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=8671.0

 

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