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My Story Re: Happy 3rd (BD) Anniversary to Me!
« Reply #20 on: May 02, 2019, 12:33:35 AM »
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Re: Happy 3rd (BD) Anniversary to Me!
« Reply #21 on: May 02, 2019, 07:59:34 AM »
OK KiT,

What I REALLY want to know and will have to wait now to find out until tomorrow...

Did H REALLY have S12 back by 9:30 and did he feed him......

I have this mental movie though of him standing there with his fists on his hips, his bottom lip sticking out, stomping, and whining "But Mooooooooommmmmmm ... Allllll the other kids are going...."

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D - 8
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Re: Happy 3rd (BD) Anniversary to Me!
« Reply #22 on: May 02, 2019, 09:30:21 AM »
Kit, joining your new thread and I'm so glad to see you are cycling upwards again.

I'm sorry you have BD anniversary coming up this weekend. That is a tough date for most of us. You will get through it in your usual amazing way. I would be tempted to go all out and make it a great BD anniversary. The one where things are changing in you!

I'm also glad you let S go to the game with your H. Your S will love going. That's what great mums are for!

And your list, what a great job of everything you've done these three years!
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Re: Happy 3rd (BD) Anniversary to Me!
« Reply #23 on: May 02, 2019, 10:11:37 AM »
Just shakin my head here.  ::)

I am with UM, just waiting to see if he was home by 9:30 and was fed a meal. Like a real meal... not cotton candy and skittles.  Because two unsupervised 12 year olds would eat that for dinner.

I am not so secretly cheering for MIL.   
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Re: Happy 3rd (BD) Anniversary to Me!
« Reply #24 on: May 02, 2019, 10:27:08 AM »
"All the other kids are going"   -----  What the what
Are all the other married dads bringing their girlfriends ?

My mind is blown, I must try to find it
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Re: Happy 3rd (BD) Anniversary to Me!
« Reply #25 on: May 02, 2019, 10:32:57 AM »
LOL--you guys are funny!! The big game is tonight. So we shall see. I fully expect I will start getting the frantic texts from H around 9:25 saying they are "running late."

The reason I mentioned the dinner thing was b/c the last time H took him to a home game, he didn't get home until nearly 11. Had no dinner and no shower.  And a little homework left to be done. He was wrecked for the next 3 days.  H was so excited about the big win that night that he was heading out to celebrate. But of course, couldn't be bothered to drive through a Taco Bell to feed his son. I never said anything about that night. That's why I mentioned it this time. And I do think H follows instructions on that level.  And S reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeally wanted to go tonight. So I had to say yes. Besides, apparently all the other kids are doing it!  ::)
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Re: Happy 3rd (BD) Anniversary to Me!
« Reply #26 on: May 02, 2019, 10:33:30 AM »
Are all the other married dads bringing their girlfriends ?


OMG--Dying Schratz! So funny!
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Re: Happy 3rd (BD) Anniversary to Me!
« Reply #27 on: May 02, 2019, 11:33:30 AM »
We have to wait another day... to be continued. Bummer.  I have noticed that they do tend to follow Mom's instructions... like a 13 year old.   

Schratz.... so, so funny.
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Re: Happy 3rd (BD) Anniversary to Me!
« Reply #28 on: May 02, 2019, 07:24:36 PM »
Here's the question I'd like answered - HOW does he know ALL the other kids are going?  Did he ask ALL of them, does he have their phone numbers?  If he has, that's a bit creepy :-X

What a teenage boy he is and I'm not talking about your son, obviously ;D

Hope S gets fed and enjoys the game.

When you find out, what did he feed him? I always find MLCers choices interesting.
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Re: Happy 3rd (BD) Anniversary to Me!
« Reply #29 on: May 03, 2019, 02:57:46 AM »
"All the other kids are going"   -----  What the what
Are all the other married dads bringing their girlfriends ?

There is DEFINITELY a seat reserved for you on the HS "Bus To Hades" for snarky comments but that one is TOO funny!

Me - 54
STBXW - 48
Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation
S - 12
D - 8
2 Dogs (1 each)
BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Mid-Lifer filed for D
Waiting for final decree

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