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#110: October 16, 2020, 11:02:15 AM
Here for you SF xx
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#111: October 16, 2020, 05:17:24 PM
Slow Fade,

Sorry to hear your news. Praying that the Lord guide the doctors to help you be restored to full health.

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Re: Sometimes Darkness Can Show You The Light
#112: October 16, 2020, 05:28:21 PM
Big hugs and prayers, SF.
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"Unconditional love is the highest of high standards, and while we are letting go of our need to control the process of anyone else, we are taking within our lives complete accountability for our own experience."

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#113: October 16, 2020, 06:52:49 PM
I am so sorry SF and will be keeping you in my prayers....life just seems to take these turns and it's hard. xo
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#114: October 17, 2020, 06:31:18 AM
Sending you love SF

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Re: Sometimes Darkness Can Show You The Light
#115: October 17, 2020, 01:31:27 PM
Sending you a big hug and lots of strength, Slow, to face and get through this extremely difficult new challenge. We are here for you. x
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#116: October 17, 2020, 01:48:04 PM
Thank you for the support. Just when you think things are settling down life throws you a major curve ball.

I got test results back and they informed me that I have endometrial cancer. They are sending me to an OB oncologist. I don't even have words. I had the same biopsy three years ago and it was negative.  I don't even know what to feel, so many emotions swirling around in my mind...... :'(

Sorry to hear your diagnosis SF.  I just had to deal with my mother (63yrs old) finding out she had the same cancer, back in February.  The results came AFTER she had a hysterectomy, and they confirmed there were cells found in the biopsy.   Thankfully, it didn't penetrate any tissue and was contained to her uterus.   

I'm not sure the circumstances of your diagnosis and I hope it was caught early enough - that form of cancer seems to be the most forgiving and treatable.   I'll send a prayer out for your health and recovery.
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#117: October 17, 2020, 09:50:33 PM
Slow Fade while I can provide no reassurance without knowing the details of the biopsy, I can tell you that many types and stages of endometrial CA are curable. Things are going to be okay. Just have them explain everything to you in detail.
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Re: Sometimes Darkness Can Show You The Light
#118: October 18, 2020, 01:20:33 AM
So sorry to hear your news SF.  Really hope it has been caught early. As lj has mentioned, many have a very good outcome when caught early.  Sending love, hugs and prayers, kikki
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#119: October 19, 2020, 09:18:36 AM
Thank you everyone for the prayers and good thoughts.   :-* :-*  I will take all I can get. A Cancer diagnosis is much like bomb drop; everything stops and your mind goes numb. Fear is a constant companion at this point. LBS diet is in full force.......seems very familiar!  :P ;)

I did talk more with my doctor and she said that the pathologist staged the cancer cells at stage 1 which is good news. Bad news is that they won't know if there has been any spread until pathology results after the surgery.

Stage 1 is great, but I'm nervous about the surgery as well. I'm feeling my mortality....... :(
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