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#120: October 19, 2020, 10:01:24 AM
SF, glad to hear that what your doc knows so far is good news. Adding my good thoughts to those of the group. You have shown such strength navigating the challenges of the LBS journey. I hope that the surgery confirms that the disease was in an early stage and that all goes well in your recovery.
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#121: October 19, 2020, 11:59:43 AM
I'm sorry to hear about this SF. Stage 1 is definitely good news but I completely understand the fears about surgery and then waiting for path.  I will keep you in my prayers.
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#122: October 19, 2020, 01:38:05 PM
Hello,

Just sending prayers your way and know you are in my thoughts.

((((((Hugs)))))) and more (((((Hugs)))))

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#123: October 19, 2020, 01:44:05 PM
Slow, so glad the news so far, stage 1, is good. I bet you're scared, who wouldn't be. But this initial diagnosis is good and that makes it pretty good so far. I don't want to undermine in any way what you are facing, it's huge of course, just wanting to focus on today's news because we never know what the future has in store. We learnt this at BD. Sending you hugs and support. x 
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#124: October 19, 2020, 05:09:10 PM
I'm just one more person letting you know you're in my prayers.
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"I'm slowly learning to expect nothing and appreciate everything."

Together 28 years, married 27
Two adult kids, ours

BD #1: 2016 - EA
BD #2: 2018 - FA
W moved out - June 2019
OM#3 - July 2019
W asks for divorce - August 2019
Divorce final - September 2019
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My thread: https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=11537.new#new

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#125: October 20, 2020, 02:37:16 PM
Thank you everyone. I can feel the positive energy all around. Thank you so much.  :-* :-* :-*

Surgery is scheduled for November 2nd. I'm still numb. Out of work for a month. Not the kind of vacation I really wanted!  :P
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Re: Sometimes Darkness Can Show You The Light
#126: October 20, 2020, 05:28:53 PM
Having a plan makes a huge difference and at least allows the spin to slow down. Give yourself a lot of slack- it takes 6 weeks to fully rebound just from anesthesia. I dearly hope your h is coming to the fore to take over a lot of responsibilities and is offering emotional support- rather than being more scared for himself than for you. Sending warm fuzzy thoughts your way, FTT
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#127: October 21, 2020, 08:08:17 AM
Thank you FTT.

H is stepping up. He will be here for the first week to take care of things. Then I have a wonderful son and some friends who will go from there.  I feel bad that I won't be able to visit my Mom for a bit. We will have to try zoom visits, but those haven't always been successful with her lately. She sets the device down and wanders off!  ::)

I think God is telling me in no uncertain terms to slow down. I've been trying to do everything for everyone.......nothing like a slap upside the head to get your attention! ;D ;)
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#128: October 21, 2020, 07:46:37 PM
Sending you good thoughts. 
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#129: October 24, 2020, 04:32:47 PM
Adding you to my daily prayer list SF
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Friends 7y before M
Married 14y
BD 12/14/15 - 2 weeks after 14th anniv.
Divorce final 4/13/16
EA - 9/15-4/16
New GF 12/16
Engaged 6/17 (I found out 8/10/17)
Moved to her State 4 States away - 7/13/17 (told me 4 days before)
Eng. off 8/20/17
Moved back to our State 8/24/17
New GF 2/29/20 (Told me 4/22/20)
Married her 4/24/20 (Told me 4/22/20)

Link to my journey: 
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"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass - it's about learning to dance in the rain."

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"Sometimes - some things have to break apart so better things can be built."

 

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