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Author Topic: My Story New chapter.....hope of living, breathing & healing despite never ending MLC

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Thanks for letting us know, BS. I was thinking about you this morning.
Glad to hear how it went and not surprised at all.

Might I humbly suggest though that a) don't borrow trouble as my gran used to say but breathe out until the end of May, enjoy your girls and feel proud that you did what was necessary to protect them in these difficult times and b) use the time to see if you can find a way to break the habit of fearing what he will do in the future.....it's a common and understandable after effect of surviving abuse, but in a funny way it lets him exercise a kind of control without even being there? Maybe something silly even liking a big jar marked FN (f**kwit nonsense) that you throw small change in towards the legal bill lol. Anything really that makes him seem small and you feel big....


You definitely have a point Treasur. The abuse does make you fearful.  I don’t think I fear him as much as I did as there’s really not much else he can do to me that he hasn’t done already. Now it’s the disturbance of my peace that I fear and fear the possibility that this conflict will never end. I just want some normality and conflict free communication. I know nearly 3 years is nothing in MLC terms but I’m  starting to realise that this could carry on forever. Just working so hard to rebuild and when he comes back to disturb my peace I feel like I take steps backwards. Need to become fearless and not wait for the other shoe to fall all the time. I like the jar idea for sure 😀
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You know. I was half suspecting your H would tell the judge you made Coronavirus, infected the world just to stop him seeing the kids 😂

I am honestly in awe of how strong you came across and handled the BS that was thrown your way! I give you the biggest of big virtual hugs

Sachat...so true about making the Coronavirus up. My bff said the same thing lol.

The one thing being in court sooo many times has given me is strength to deal with all the legal stuff.
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It’s unfortunate but I guess practice makes perfect. Atleast there are silver linings to the clouds. So to speak.
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Me - 28
H - 35
3 children together D3 D6 D8 (D1 D4 and D6 at the time of BD)
Together - almost 8 years

BD & MLCer moved out - November 2017
OW discovered - December 2017
Moved in with Ow - November 2019
Ow met children - December 2019

 

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