Author Topic: My Story The Pink Fridge is my new normal. 5yrs since BD, H different this year  (Read 1301 times)

Offline UrsaMajor

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New Transmission/gear box?  OUCH!

Really sorry that happened... NOT a nice thing, that is for sure...
Me - 54
STBXW - 48
Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation
S - 12
D - 8
2 Dogs (1 each)
BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Mid-Lifer filed for D
Waiting for final decree

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Offline Treasur

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Really sorry that happened, Milly, but look at you handling it all like a bad a$$ grown up. It is a funny but welcome benefit of this experience that we don't sweat the small stuff and ask for help when we need it, find good kind folks and enjoy the positives.

I wonder if your h has started watching Scooby Doo cartooons with his new word Yikes?....and thinks he would have got away with it too if it wasn't for those pesky adult consequences  ::) :)
T: 18  M: 12 (at BD) No kids.
H diagnosed with severe depression Oct 15. BD May 16. OW since April 16, maybe earlier. Silent vanisher mostly.
Divorced April 18. XH married ow 6 weeks later.
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Offline One day at a time

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All caught up Milly.. I'm sorry to hear about your car. I also get overwhelmed with some of the unplanned expenses at times, I'm lucky that my job covers my expenses but it's the fact that I need to save a lot to pay H off for the house.. One option that I'm contemplating to make some extra money is to rent a room in my house. Not sure if that's common in Italy but maybe something to consider if possible?

How lovely from the mechanic to take you to S's tournament.. I get amazed by strangers who seem so happy to help out when they really don't have to.. And you H..  ??? What's with all the questions? He really sounds like a control freak! Your son seems to have a lot of patience for a teenager. I wouldn't say teenagers like to get grilled with questions..
H - 42 (40 @BD1)
M - 42 (40 @BD1)
Together 15 years, M 8 @separation
No kids
BD1 - 26th Aug 2017 (Not happy, life has no purpose, "we have problems")
BD2 - 22nd March 2018 (Marriage is over, we want different things, confessed EA with someone 12,000 kms away although "she means nothing")
H moved in with parents 11th May 2018 (I asked him to leave as couldn't handle the EA rubbed all over my face)
H moved abroad 29th Dec 2018, not sure if OW will join him or if they are still in contact.
Confirmation H is with OW in her home country  - 3rd June 2019

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Offline sachat3

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Each time I think about starting my lessons. I hear about things like this. Buses are working fine for now ha
Me - 27
H - 34
3 children together D2 D5 D7
Together - almost 8 years

BD & MLCer moved out - November 2017
OW discovered - December 2017

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My actual fear there...sudden mechanical failures that drain you for an arm or leg. :-\
You know this is MLC when you have played emotional hot potato with a pair of crotch-less tights.

Offline KeepItTogether

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He really likes the word "Yikes" doesn't he?   ::)

I hate car expenses--sorry that happened. But so thankful you and S were not hurt and that there was a kind soul to get you to S's match!

Me 47
H 46
S12
BD 5/16
H Moved out 6/16
OW--yes. Worked for H. EA turned into PA while I was in chemo. On again/off again like every high school romance

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I hope you get the car fixed and some 'magic' money to pay!

I feel your pain.  My car broke down just before Christmas of course ::)  It was six weeks before I could get it fixed and it cost $$$$$$$$.  I could have bought a new car for the money but would have had nothing to trade in but a bag of bolts.
"And when they ask you about me and you find yourself thinking back on all of our memories,
I hope you ache in regret as the truth hits you like a bullet and you find yourself replying: ""She loved me more than anyone else in the entire world and I tried to destroy her."  He failed by the way. 
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=8412(Denjef's thread)

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Attaching milly xx
Me 51
H52
Married still, 22yrs
Together 30yrs
BD 20/10/2014
Left first 12/12/2014
10 come backs and leaves again for same ow
Last left 7.03.17.
Ow 16 yrs younger, no children never been married. co worker. EA turned to PA and lives with ow
Divorce bomb drop by him 31/8/17 by solicitor letter after being caught by ow at lunch with me 3 wk earlier. Not yet finalised.
Crazy divorce started by him.
Clinging boomerang for 3 yrs now Vanisher but  twice a yr pops his head up. ow has balls in a vice!

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Attaching.  Sorry to hear about the car trouble.   :(
M-41
H-43
S-18
D-16
S-14
Friends 7y before M
Married 14y
BD 12/14/15 - 2 weeks after 14th anniv.
Divorce final 4/13/16
EA - 9/15-4/16
New GF 12/16
Engaged 6/17 (I found out 8/10/17)
Moved to her State 4 States away - 7/13/17
Eng. off 8/20/17
Moved back to our State 8/24/17
Saw his POF the first month back
1.5y later no signs of anyone new - workaholic

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