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Off-Topic What's growing in MY part of the world
« on: June 05, 2019, 12:42:16 AM »
There was a suggestion in another thread that an Off-Topic thread be started to share what we LBS's are growing in our lives, be it gardens with flowers, vegies, fruit, kids, animals... heck, I guess even weeds if that is your thing...

So, here it is....

and my contribution of the day is this rose.... I planted it last year.  It is called a "Naomi" and the reason I got it is as a bit of a dedication to a lovely young lady from my church that did me the great honor of asking me to be her Confirmation Sponsor - Of course, her name is... Naomi.... so it fit perfectly....

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Re: What's growing in MY part of the world
« Reply #1 on: June 05, 2019, 12:53:01 AM »
Nice 1 UM, should be a cool Thread  ;)
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Re: What's growing in MY part of the world
« Reply #2 on: June 05, 2019, 02:41:38 AM »
It's Winter here and been bitterly cold, not like in the UK and to rest of Europe, (let's not mention Brexit0   :-X but cold for us.   The Winter vegetable planting didn't happen because I was busy with lawyers ::)  I will definitely plant in Spring which can't come around fast enough.......

I'm thinking tomatoes, capsicums (peppers), beans and lots of basil and parsley.  Yum.......
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Re: What's growing in MY part of the world
« Reply #3 on: June 05, 2019, 03:09:25 AM »
It's Winter here and been bitterly cold, not like in the UK and to rest of Europe, (let's not mention Brexit0   :-X but cold for us.   The Winter vegetable planting didn't happen because I was busy with lawyers ::)  I will definitely plant in Spring which can't come around fast enough.......

I'm thinking tomatoes, capsicums (peppers), beans and lots of basil and parsley.  Yum.......

I have 6 Chili plants that are growing so far too ... all various levels of "nuclear waste" spicy (10+) - a white Jokola Bhut, a yellow one, an orange one, a Trinidad Red scorpion, and 2 others... We'll see how they turn out... Parsley, Cilantro, Lavender, and the rest flowers... Oh yeah, a red current bush... I decided not to plant strawberries this year as all that accomplished was to make a mess from the bird eating them before I got to them...
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Re: What's growing in MY part of the world
« Reply #4 on: June 05, 2019, 03:16:10 AM »
I can recommend drying chilis if you get lots...a dehydrator is fab but hanging them up to airdry is fine too. There is an Italian thing called peperoncino...a dried mixture of chilis and a kind of herbes de Provence put through a food processor which keeps for ages in a jar and is easy to use as a seasoning or blend into a paste. Be careful though...the chili dust in the air has a kick  :)
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Re: What's growing in MY part of the world
« Reply #5 on: June 05, 2019, 03:24:42 AM »
Recipe please Treasur!  I usually make Passata, even have a machine to push the tomatoes through - hand cranked though. XH used to grow the tomatoes and I would bottle them and make garlicy beans with passata, they were yummy! XH and I had NOTHING in common though :o
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I hope you ache in regret as the truth hits you like a bullet and you find yourself replying: ""She loved me more than anyone else in the entire world and I tried to destroy her."  He failed by the way. 
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« Reply #6 on: June 05, 2019, 03:51:50 AM »
I normally do half dried chilis and half dried mixed herbs that are shop bought...bit like the mix in the Italian seasoning here. http://www.eatingwell.com/article/290912/diy-seasonings-herb-mixes-you-can-make-at-home/ Just throw them all in a food processor and go whiz until the chilis are the same sort of size as the herb bits. No needs to take the seeds out or mess around. Then store in a clean glass jar with a lid. Will keep up to a couple of years easily.

You can sprinkle it, use to make a paste for a marinade or sauce, to make a chili oil or dressing or use with garlic and spaghetti for a quick pasta all'olio. Sautéed some pale green cabbage with a sprinkle of it for my uncle, and he loved it! The one caution is a little goes a long way, so usually a teaspoon is enough! My h used to love it...in fact I made my own as a surprise gift for him after we used up a jar we bought at a market in Rome...strange bc we obviously had nothing in common either!
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Re: What's growing in MY part of the world
« Reply #7 on: June 05, 2019, 04:17:42 AM »
I dried my last batch of chilis in my convection oven at 50 deg C... Took them a couple of days and I had to put a spoon int he door to hold it open a wee bit to let the moisture escape... A small dehydrator would probably work better though..
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« Reply #8 on: June 05, 2019, 04:54:25 AM »
Ok, definitely growing chilies as well!  I'll start a list so I get myself organised for Summer.
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I hope you ache in regret as the truth hits you like a bullet and you find yourself replying: ""She loved me more than anyone else in the entire world and I tried to destroy her."  He failed by the way. 
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Re: What's growing in MY part of the world
« Reply #9 on: June 05, 2019, 09:37:24 AM »
No flowers on my patio this year.  Too many bees and it's hard to sit out there, especially in the Spring and Fall.

So I have 2 patio tomato plants which are growing really well and already have tomatoes on them.

Then just a beautiful, full English Ivy hanging plant.
I need a few more green plants and a Hummingbird feeder.  Love those tiny birds!  It's so amazing to watch how fast their little wings go.

I miss my big veggie garden, but not enough room for them now.

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Re: What's growing in MY part of the world
« Reply #10 on: June 05, 2019, 10:58:15 AM »
We have yellow and dark pink roses growing in the terrace. Also pelargonium, hybrid fuchsias, azaleas, several cacti and a few more plants. No vegetables.

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« Reply #11 on: June 05, 2019, 11:08:57 AM »

Personally, I am growing more and more inner peace.

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Re: What's growing in MY part of the world
« Reply #12 on: June 05, 2019, 11:53:09 AM »
Does creating fake trees indoors count? I have now completed my second imitation wisteria vine tree in the TV room. It feels very tropical now.

I have three rose bushes outside (Chrysler Imperial-red, Bewitched-pink, and Voodoo-orange) and an apple tree that went crazy this year.

I hope to get to my yard and garden as soon as I get my mother's house cleaned out. In the meantime, my patience and tolerance for dealing with situations that move at a snails pace is growing.
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Re: What's growing in MY part of the world
« Reply #13 on: June 05, 2019, 12:56:20 PM »
What's growing in my LBS world?  A new found love of animals. (Especially dogs)

In Feb 2018 I had my D (who was a senior at HS and at home) pick out a dog for her to have.  My H was going through OW withdrawal at the time and was so far off the family radar that he didn't even register that we had a dog for quite awhile.  When we first brought our little pug home, I thought to myself "what have I done?"  She was very odd looking and I had not had a dog around for 25 years. 

This dog has brought so much joy, love and laughter to our entire family.  She helped my D and I form a new bond, She has been the one and only confidant throughout this entire process and was the first thing my H started to connect with when he started to come back around.  When my D is stressed at school she facetimes our dog.  When I am having a bad day I leash her up and take her out.  I've made new dog park friends, I've gotten to know my neighbors again and I have something that is always there for me. 

My D told me the other day that when she gets done with school she is going to have to get her own dog, because this one is mine.  I agree.  I can't imagine life without her now.  :)
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Re: What's growing in MY part of the world
« Reply #14 on: June 08, 2019, 03:58:53 PM »
My purple clematis I planted after I moved in is doing wonderfully growing up the trellis and should soon be on the fence soon.  Looks a lot like this:



S14's raspberry bush is growing wonderfully as well.  Has some blooms, but no raspberries as of yet.

I was given a strawberry plant as a Summer going away present from a student and plan on planting it soon, as well as purchasing and planting a rose bush.

Other than that, I did not have time in my schedule to buy and plant any flowers in planters or hanging baskets, but last weekend I happened upon a store that had all theirs clearanced out for 50% or more off so I purchased a pot for near my front door, one for my backyard patio table, and 4 hanging baskets that are in my backyard.  One hanging on my back fence, one hanging from the eaves just outside my french door so I can see it through the window and two on my iron butterfly stands on either side of my backyard patio.  They are beautiful and so far I have managed to water them when I get home from work and keep them alive.  Just need to fill the hummingbird feeder and put it back out.

My little patch of grass had been sorely neglected last Summer after I hurt my calf and doggie did his business there, but since the winter snow and rains, it's growing and I've been fighting to get it under control.  I did a bunch of yard work last weekend after neglecting it since doggie passed away in February and had to put on heavy gloves to pull several waist high or higher thistle weeds that had taken over, along with about 30 tree starts that smell awful.  The cat hates how I smell when I come in from pulling those tree starts, which grow 2-3 every day and are super annoying.  S14 shows no interest in wanting to help me with yard work and even less interest since he and D17 started helping out my M and SD this past week with their yard.  I have a little old-fashioned push mower to mow the grass, and while it's a pain in the butt, it's sometimes therapeutic too.  And the yard is hidden from view by a 6 foot wooden fence, stained a beautiful redwood color so if I don't get to it right away, only the next door neighbors suffer when they stare at it from their upstairs windows.   ;D

Thankfully the front grass and the hedges are all taken care of by the HOA so the front compound where everyone drives in and parks looks beautiful all the time.  It's really nice in the Spring as we have many blossoming trees.  Now everything is green and leafy and shady.
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