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#10: June 19, 2019, 02:53:24 PM
I'm still here RT!
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Re: Crazy Train to Nowhere - 8
#11: June 19, 2019, 04:36:47 PM
Coming along for the ride
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M 53
H 48
M 12 years; together 17 years
D18, S28
Summer 2014 - H wanted to runaway
9/14 I was diagnosed with Breast cancer
11/14 Surgery for BC..3 day after my father dies
11/14 BD 2 days after surgery. I have no passion for you.
2/15 moved out
Dated each other all year affection back on..
3/16 moved home
7/16 Diagnosed with Breast cancer again
8/16 No affection again. I knew something was wrong.
9/16 Another surgery for Breast Cancer
9/16 BD 11 days after surgery discovered -EA with much younger W from Work. That is over. I think he has meaningless flings. Work is his mistress
10/16 I filed for D (financial reasons)
10/16 I moved out.
10/16 Now off and on vanisher
5/17 Divorce final

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Re: Crazy Train to Nowhere - 8
#12: June 19, 2019, 06:43:24 PM
Following along....
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BD: 1/1/16
Together 15 years - married 7 years
His divorce final 7/26/16
Married the OW

After all, tomorrow is another day.

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Re: Crazy Train to Nowhere - 8
#13: June 24, 2019, 09:40:56 PM
Following along....... :)
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"And when they ask you about me and you find yourself thinking back on all of our memories,
I hope you ache in regret as the truth hits you like a bullet and you find yourself replying: ""She loved me more than anyone else in the entire world and I tried to destroy her."  He failed by the way. 
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=8412(Denjef's thread)

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Re: Crazy Train to Nowhere - 8
#14: June 25, 2019, 03:51:14 AM
Me too  :)
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Left home Jan 12 2013
OW confirmed Feb 2013
Moved home April 11 2014
BD again in April 2017 - clinging. 
Moved home again March 2020
Moved out July 2017
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Re: Crazy Train to Nowhere - 8
#15: July 09, 2019, 06:37:35 PM
Quick update. All is well!

H spent a lot of time with my family when they were here. Even cake over the night before they left specifically to say goodbye.

He took the kids for a several day stretch. They seemed ok. I enjoyed some time on my own. H and I are in a comfortable relaxed place. I’m dating a man I like very much.

Funny story:
H called earlier to ask if I wanted dinner. He had S and was grabbing dinner. Said he was texting me and wondering why I didn’t answer. Turns out he was texting the lady at the car dealership offering her dinner 😂😂😂😂.

Kids and I leave in the morning for a trip home to be with my family. We are all excited.
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Re: Crazy Train to Nowhere - 8
#16: July 09, 2019, 09:04:17 PM
Attaching

I feel your pain with the description of D's issues with the shooting and H's reaction.

My two older kids were evacuated from their High School for a bomb threat.  Full SWAT came into their school and they had to be bussed to another High School.  Unbeknownst to me until a bit later, H was on a plane with his GF to New Orleans.  I got a read receipt on my text to him and he NEVER responded.  Not once.  It turned out all okay in the end but was so terrifying in the moment.  To add to it, my youngest went missing during that time too.  He was supposed to ride with the older kids but didn't realize they had been bussed, so he got turned away from the High School by the police who thought he was a walker who lived in the neighborhood (we had done a transfer from our school and lived about 3 miles away).  He had never walked before.  Finally my mom was able to find him along the road walking.

I will never forget how alone I felt that day and how much of the single parent burden I felt.
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S-20 (mine)
D-18 (ours)
S-15 (ours)
Friends 7y before M
Married 14y
BD 12/14/15 - 2 weeks after 14th anniv.
Divorce final 4/13/16
EA - 9/15-4/16
New GF 12/16
Engaged 6/17 (I found out 8/10/17)
Moved to her State 4 States away - 7/13/17 (told me 4 days before)
Eng. off 8/20/17
Moved back to our State 8/24/17
New GF 2/29/20 (Told me 4/22/20)
Marrying her 4/24/20 (Told me 4/22/20)

Link to my journey: 
https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=11404.0

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass - it's about learning to dance in the rain."

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"Sometimes - some things have to break apart so better things can be built."

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Re: Crazy Train to Nowhere - 8
#17: July 10, 2019, 05:29:10 AM
So nice to hear you like your H, even more important than loving him in my opinion.

Love the dinner story, woman must still be waiting for the food  ;D
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"And when they ask you about me and you find yourself thinking back on all of our memories,
I hope you ache in regret as the truth hits you like a bullet and you find yourself replying: ""She loved me more than anyone else in the entire world and I tried to destroy her."  He failed by the way. 
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=8412(Denjef's thread)

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Re: Crazy Train to Nowhere - 8
#18: July 10, 2019, 07:38:19 AM
Have a wonderful trip.
Happy to hear you and the kids are well.   ;)
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Re: Crazy Train to Nowhere - 8
#19: July 10, 2019, 10:16:36 AM
Have a great trip RT.  I once texted S's coach asking him to come out and help me carry in groceries.  :P  It happens. 
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BD March, 2016
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H filed for D - July 24, 2017
D final March 14, 2018 - still living at parent's house

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