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#30: October 14, 2019, 03:24:36 AM
I love that pole barn Still, it's been part of my life for years.  I have a picture of it in my head, along with all the stories of your H coming to 'pick it up'.

Keep posting Still, we all love to hear updates and I would miss you if you weren't here :'(
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Re: Building a better boat
#31: October 14, 2019, 05:05:09 AM
I had to look up pole barn Stillbaffled.  ::) It looks like you put it to good use. Congrats.
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Re: Building a better boat
#32: October 14, 2019, 06:05:19 AM
Still, great to hear your update. I share the small town woes, but am glad you are able to avoid both of them without compromises. You sound amazing and you have been a great support. Love how you turned the pole barn into a profit-making venture. Six pontoons, boats, and multiple RVs....  It must be huge. Would love to see a picture!
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Re: Building a better boat
#33: October 16, 2019, 04:32:10 PM
Well, that is one of the best ways to take a pigs ear and turn it into a silk purse that I have ever seen...

Exactly what I was thinking....well maybe not in such a colorful way. ;)  But I love it that you have made use of that old pole barn. You are the poster child for LBS survive and thrive. Go get em!
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Re: Building a better boat
#34: November 24, 2019, 09:50:02 PM
Great update SB.  I'm glad that the Pole Barn is being put to good use!
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Re: Building a better boat
#35: November 27, 2019, 02:26:25 PM
Great updates and I love that you were able to put that infamous pole barn to good use!! I applaud your strength and resilience. You have been an inspiration to me from the start!
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Re: Building a better boat
#36: November 27, 2019, 07:54:41 PM
SB, I am so glad to bear that you are making money of that pole barn !! And you sound so awesome. I hope I can get to where you are someday. I have come a long way but I still feel like throat punching some peops!

Keep killing it, girl :)
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Re: Building a better boat
#37: November 29, 2019, 07:44:54 AM
SB,

Just checking in on you.  Did you get much snow up there?
We got about 10 inches, more coming with this other storm on it's way.

Hope you were able to get around and had a nice Thanksgiving with family.

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Re: Building a better boat
#38: November 29, 2019, 07:30:34 PM
Hey Thunder! 

I think I'm about to be buried in snow in the next 24 hours.  We're expecting 15 inches by noon on Sunday.  We got 3-4 when you got the 10 earlier this week. 

The boys made it up here later on Thursday from your area and already headed back tonight (Friday) to beat the next round moving in so it was a shorter visit than they had planned.   It was so nice to have them here, even if it was a brief visit. 

We did our annual tradition of gingerbread house making today (a cousin tradition of 25 plus years, give or take a few that we've missed over the years) and I just posted a photo on FB of the latest creations.  The group has grown with the 5 kids (2 are mine and 3 are my brother's) now each having significant others/spouses and six little ones, with the seventh arriving in January.  It's a lovely tradition and I hope that our kids will continue it after I'm gone. 

It's time like these that make me know for sure that my runaway completely lost it and is deep, deep in an abyss somewhere.  What he gave up and lost for what he got is just plain crazy and baffling.  I'll soon be wrapping up four years since BD and it doesn't make any more sense to me now than it did then.  In fact, it makes even less sense now.  Back at BD time I almost convinced myself that I was the reason he left.  Thankfully, at some point, I came to the accurate conclusion that it wasn't about me.   

Thanks to all who dropped by and left a greeting after my latest update about the pole barn and my little RV/boat/pontoon storage side business!  By Sunday those toys will be safe and sound from break-ins and thieves.  The bad guys will have to have some serious snow removal equipment to get to the storage shed! 

 
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Re: Building a better boat
#39: November 29, 2019, 11:26:02 PM
Stay warm SB!

We are getting some snow too but much more in the higher elevations and definitely more in the Eastern part of the State.  Road closures and wrecks were the theme of the day with lots of people I know getting stuck trying to come home.
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Friends 7y before M
Married 14y
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Divorce final 4/13/16
EA - 9/15-4/16
New GF 12/16
Engaged 6/17 (I found out 8/10/17)
Moved to her State 4 States away - 7/13/17 (told me 4 days before)
Eng. off 8/20/17
Moved back to our State 8/24/17
New GF 2/29/20 (Told me 4/22/20)
Marrying her 4/24/20 (Told me 4/22/20)

Link to my journey: 
https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=11404.0

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass - it's about learning to dance in the rain."

"Don't become a container for bitterness.  It's a toxin that destroys what it's carried in."

"Sometimes - some things have to break apart so better things can be built."

 

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