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My Story They just don't understand 3
« on: July 28, 2019, 09:42:22 AM »
Can someone link my page, please and Thank you

Previous Thread: https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=10617 - UM
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Re: They just don't understand 3
« Reply #1 on: July 29, 2019, 06:34:32 PM »
Thank you UM  ;D
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Re: They just don't understand 3
« Reply #2 on: July 30, 2019, 02:51:30 AM »
Thank you UM  ;D



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Re: They just don't understand 3
« Reply #3 on: July 30, 2019, 04:12:14 AM »
Um has like 5 jobs now.
You know this is MLC when you have played emotional hot potato with a pair of crotch-less tights.

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Re: They just don't understand 3
« Reply #4 on: July 30, 2019, 05:22:55 AM »
Um has like 5 jobs now.

I just lost one..... I used to have a 10-15 second blurb on a local radio station (Pop/Rock) every weekday morning but, after 2 years, they decided to end it (which is JUST fine for me too). I never expected the gag to run more than a couple of weeks, let alone 2 YEARS!

So now I am down to four... BUT I will go back to school in September in a Certificate program that runs for 4 years....
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Re: They just don't understand 3
« Reply #5 on: July 30, 2019, 02:24:56 PM »
Um, did I say thank you.  ;D
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Re: They just don't understand 3
« Reply #6 on: July 31, 2019, 01:17:06 AM »
Um, did I say thank you.  ;D

Yep!  That is how the whole discussion about my myriad jobs started.... all beginning with a GIF...
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A REAL friend will sit you down and tell you to your face to stop being a firetrucking idiot before you ruin your life and the lives of those around you.

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Re: They just don't understand 3
« Reply #7 on: August 10, 2019, 06:15:39 PM »
  I've been doing a lot of reading on HS for the past few weeks. I have nothing really to add to my story at this time. H has been real quiet. I do have a question to ask about though.

  The no contact, dim contact or contact, I've read about these and in my situation I don't contact him, but I do answer when he emails me. The only way for me to contact is by email. There are times that I have wanted to email him and ask a question about our car, but I don't because I've read to just leave him be. I know that I can figure things out with the car and take it in and have it serviced or repaired without a problem, but H is a mechanic and I have wanted to just get advice to make sure I'm not getting ripped off when I go to a shop.

  My question is do I just email him and talk like normal or should I just leave him be and handle things the best I can? What is the answer to contact? H has never monstered at me. He has monstered to other people about me though. Can someone give me advice on this please?

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Re: They just don't understand 3
« Reply #8 on: August 10, 2019, 06:43:54 PM »
My opinion is that only because he is a MECHANIC, it's perfectly fine to do so.  You are only seeking a business-like answer.

Otherwise, *no way*, because it would be seen as nagging/pressure.
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Re: They just don't understand 3
« Reply #9 on: August 10, 2019, 07:20:00 PM »
My question is do I just email him and talk like normal or should I just leave him be and handle things the best I can?

My question is why do you need someone else's advice on what to do? This is not a life altering decision.
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