Author Topic: My Story Secs, Mins, Hours Turned to Days, Weeks, Months  (Read 2022 times)

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My Story Re: Secs, Mins, Hours Turned to Days, Weeks, Months
« Reply #80 on: October 01, 2019, 08:03:21 AM »
Oh Rose....Please don't worry and fret over not responding.  I don't post her to get reactions.  I post to get things out of my system.  Once I start typing things just flow and help me release.

As for it being a biggie.....I just don't know.  He is so lost and it is so sad.  There is a part of me that wants to run away from him yet there is a part of me that likes to see the show unfold.  I don't mind peeking in as long I can stay detached and not let his shennanigans hurt me.  I feel confident right now I am at that point.  I am sure this will change as things change and I will adapt at that time and do what I need to do for me.  Protect me....help me to continue to grow. Continue to live my life without my ex best friend. 

I can look back and see so much change yet I can see how some things didn't change at all.  I fear seeing him hurt.  That I don't want to see, yet I know he has to hurt so he can learn and grow.  Just like I had to hurt after BD so that I would make the changes I needed to make to become a better person through all this!

  I miss the fun loving man I used to know and occassionally I see glimpses of this.  Then I see the selfish man who I don't know and I just want to slap him along side the head and tell him to get his crap together he is loosing his family and doesn't care. 

Just really weird.  Another day....another opportunity!  Time marches on!
10.29.17 BD-Moved out to OW/A began in  6.17
3.5.18 OW moved away/H moved in with F
3.19.18  H moved home into spare room 
7.14.18  Moved to be with OW (another state)
9.4.18  Moved back-Living with Parents 
11.1.18  OW moved back.  H living w/her in D's basement room. 
11.18 - H started visiting on holidays
11.26.19 Call from H.  BIL died suddenly.
1.19 - H announced to my inner circle that he moved to sisters  inc all belongings
2.19  H volunteers to house and dog sit whenever.
Spring 19  H visiting house and doing chores on a regular basis

4.83 Started Dating
8.10.85  Married

D -29 Married with 2 children  Lives Local
S - 27 Engaged in Prof School across country
3 Dogs (he left them all behind - taking care of them but not really visiting or interacting with them yet)

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Re: Secs, Mins, Hours Turned to Days, Weeks, Months
« Reply #81 on: October 02, 2019, 07:06:55 AM »
In the world of MLC, I don't get to post a lot of positives.  I have one to post today!  Yeah!

My H gave my D a hug last night!  He initiated it!   First one since October of 2018 when she was in for surgery and he was with her before she went in.

She was blown away and very happy!

We both know this probably won't last.....but just it happening is awesome!  So happy for her!
10.29.17 BD-Moved out to OW/A began in  6.17
3.5.18 OW moved away/H moved in with F
3.19.18  H moved home into spare room 
7.14.18  Moved to be with OW (another state)
9.4.18  Moved back-Living with Parents 
11.1.18  OW moved back.  H living w/her in D's basement room. 
11.18 - H started visiting on holidays
11.26.19 Call from H.  BIL died suddenly.
1.19 - H announced to my inner circle that he moved to sisters  inc all belongings
2.19  H volunteers to house and dog sit whenever.
Spring 19  H visiting house and doing chores on a regular basis

4.83 Started Dating
8.10.85  Married

D -29 Married with 2 children  Lives Local
S - 27 Engaged in Prof School across country
3 Dogs (he left them all behind - taking care of them but not really visiting or interacting with them yet)

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Re: Secs, Mins, Hours Turned to Days, Weeks, Months
« Reply #82 on: October 02, 2019, 08:09:29 AM »
Yeah a hug!! Good on him.

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Married 15+ years with 2 children
BD1 - 2016
BD2 - 2017
BD3 - Sept 2019
MOW Mar 2016-Jan 2018
OW2 - Feb 2019, age 30
H left home Oct 2017 to stay with his parents
Bought a family Puppy mid 2018 - referred to as ā€˜Pā€™

Link to advice by my mentor, Phoenix, on what to tell the children about H leaving - reply #33 (it had a glitch)
https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=9313.30

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Re: Secs, Mins, Hours Turned to Days, Weeks, Months
« Reply #83 on: October 02, 2019, 09:15:06 AM »
Rose - Weird how such a little thing just made her day.  He pulled away from her worse than he pulled away from me.  So sad.  However, she is a strong young lady and is fighting through this too.

She knows it could be another year before another comes...she just enjoyed for what it was. 


So Rose....how are you really doing?  You doing ok?  IM me if you just want to chat or vent!  Just take care of you! 

You are also one strong woman and your H is in such a bad place that he can't see it!  So sad!
10.29.17 BD-Moved out to OW/A began in  6.17
3.5.18 OW moved away/H moved in with F
3.19.18  H moved home into spare room 
7.14.18  Moved to be with OW (another state)
9.4.18  Moved back-Living with Parents 
11.1.18  OW moved back.  H living w/her in D's basement room. 
11.18 - H started visiting on holidays
11.26.19 Call from H.  BIL died suddenly.
1.19 - H announced to my inner circle that he moved to sisters  inc all belongings
2.19  H volunteers to house and dog sit whenever.
Spring 19  H visiting house and doing chores on a regular basis

4.83 Started Dating
8.10.85  Married

D -29 Married with 2 children  Lives Local
S - 27 Engaged in Prof School across country
3 Dogs (he left them all behind - taking care of them but not really visiting or interacting with them yet)

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Re: Secs, Mins, Hours Turned to Days, Weeks, Months
« Reply #84 on: October 10, 2019, 12:55:19 AM »
Lovely your D got a hug from H! So lovely to imagine her face and yours. Little steps and far between but still progress.
Married 1989, together since 1984 
BD May 2014,
D25, D22, S15
OW Physical Affair same one. He and she said she turned 34 the month of BD. She turned 52 this year.

 

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