Hello all. Hope you are doing well.
I don't post anymore as nothing to report. BD was 2012 and husband a vanisher. Thought I would add a quick update as we got messages from him recently. Mine was to do with something we own together and which he wants to sell. No surprise there. I deleted the message. No interest in anything he has to say, nor am I willing to return any calls.
Even contacted the kids
. Said new job and moved state, seemed happy. Added he recently had a bad illness (HAD not has) and can they contact him. Kids were upset to hear from him and deleted his messages.
This was the person who abandoned his family and withdrew all finances, contact and support, and who put his children through emotional turmoil, as well as never asking how they are or even sending a dime for food. A particularly vile man.
These calls came when we were all experiencing another stressful time, so the sound of his voice was truly unwanted, as well as his requests.
To anyone new to the site and reading this, I was in your situation and consumed by his behaviour and abandonment. We made it to the other side, and now have zero interest in him at all. I'm sure OW is probably still hanging around and waiting for her payday. Who knows, don't care. All we care about is we want him to go away and never contact us again.
There was a time when all I wanted was for him to come home. That too, passes.
Stay well everyone, and focus on you.
Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning.
Albert Einstein