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#20: October 12, 2019, 06:58:50 PM
I recently went on vacation by myself and got back on Thursday. I went to San Diego and enjoyed the sun. The last day was hard because I talked to my attorney. For some reason, the emotions came over me. It was nothing in particular. I just didn't want to deal with legal stuff on vacation. I cried in my hotel room before I headed to the airport.

While I was at the airport, I made the decision to call my h and arrange a meeting to ask about meeting up this weekend. We agreed in a previous email to sit down and talk about how to move forward. It was a risk and I wasn't expecting anything. It was more to help heal me and move forward.

We met this morning. He still didn't look great, but he was very attentive and we talked for an hour. He actually apologized for being hurtful a few weeks ago with the divorce papers. I accepted his apology. He finally acknowledged how depressed he was over the last few years and talked about going to therapy. He said he wished things were different, and I agreed. He wasn't upset about me getting an attorney. He talked about how much he cared about me  - wanting what is best for me, him, and the dogs. We got into about how we struggled to communicate and expressing our needs. The biggest thing we talked about was the death of my mom and acknowledging that. We never talked about that day since it happened (this was a year and half ago). We both really shut down after that and admitted how much we hurt each other. We hugged and kissed each other on the cheek. I wasn't expecting so much to come out of this conversation. We went on with our days. He's going to Europe next week. Who knows what will happen next, but I have no expectations going forward. I don't hurt as bad today as I did yesterday.
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XH 38
Me 39
T 13 years
M 7 years
BD 1: 7/17
BD 2: 3/19.
Moved out: 4/19
Confirmed ow on social media. They’ve been talking since 1/19 at least. He still keeps her secret. She has posted selfies of them together.
D 11/19

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Re: jazzy03's story
#21: October 21, 2019, 09:37:11 PM
A lot has happened.

All my suspicions were true. The OW was with him on the trip to Europe. They are coming back tomorrow. I confronted him over text, which probably wasn't the best idea. He never confirmed it over text, but said "it doesn't really matter". Right.
 They are meant for each other really. All about the social media show. All her damn photos on twitter. All about herself. All about himself. They both look terrible.

I blocked them both on social media because it was hindering me from moving forward.

My attorney sent the response to the divorce today too.

Tonight, I received a message from a mutual friend that he made a FB post that we are no longer together and that he wishes his friends would be respectful to me. I'm not sure what triggered this action.

Forward I go.

Sigh.
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XH 38
Me 39
T 13 years
M 7 years
BD 1: 7/17
BD 2: 3/19.
Moved out: 4/19
Confirmed ow on social media. They’ve been talking since 1/19 at least. He still keeps her secret. She has posted selfies of them together.
D 11/19

 

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