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« Reply #40 on: October 10, 2019, 06:56:30 AM »
Yeah wanting to marry you after a coffee is basically because he is gonna black widow your ass!
You know this is MLC when you have played emotional hot potato with a pair of crotch-less tights.

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Re: Remember the finish line, and keep going.
« Reply #41 on: October 10, 2019, 07:36:40 AM »
Yeah wanting to marry you after a coffee is basically because he is gonna black widow your ass!

Uhmmmmmm ... It is the FEMALE Black Widow that eats the male after coupling

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Re: Remember the finish line, and keep going.
« Reply #42 on: October 10, 2019, 05:56:10 PM »
Oh boy, definitely the male-version of a bunny-boiler for sure!

Yes Savvy, you absolutely deserve a good man. And I think he will be there before you know it.
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Re: Remember the finish line, and keep going.
« Reply #43 on: October 11, 2019, 05:23:09 AM »
You guys are so funny, glad to give you a laugh😊 most of us could do with a little comic relief.

Ursa, you crack me up!  I almost dropped my phone when I saw your GIF 🤣

The next time my friends think it’s a good idea for me to date, I just might have a jolly good think about it first if he seems a little too keen!

If anyone knows a decent, sane man, please send ASAP - thanks 😊
"And when they ask you about me and you find yourself thinking back on all of our memories,
I hope you ache in regret as the truth hits you like a bullet and you find yourself replying: ""She loved me more than anyone else in the entire world and I tried to destroy her."  He failed by the way. 
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=8412(Denjef's thread)

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Re: Remember the finish line, and keep going.
« Reply #44 on: October 11, 2019, 06:01:31 AM »
Yeah wanting to marry you after a coffee is basically because he is gonna black widow your ass!

Uhmmmmmm ... It is the FEMALE Black Widow that eats the male after coupling



Irrelevant details. Thanks for spoiling my joke Ursa!
You know this is MLC when you have played emotional hot potato with a pair of crotch-less tights.

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Re: Remember the finish line, and keep going.
« Reply #45 on: October 12, 2019, 07:00:30 AM »
Savvy,

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If anyone knows a decent, sane man, please send ASAP

I say this with love....and a great deal of sarcasm....did you actually just post this on a website for left behind  Midlife crisis spouses.....uhmmmmm

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Re: Remember the finish line, and keep going.
« Reply #46 on: October 12, 2019, 06:48:19 PM »
Savvy,

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If anyone knows a decent, sane man, please send ASAP

I say this with love....and a great deal of sarcasm....did you actually just post this on a website for left behind  Midlife crisis spouses.....uhmmmmm

🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣

I did indeed Courage ;D ;D Totally get the irony! I suppose there comes a time,  especially after six years, that enough is enough.  My mission here is to finish my Psychology Degree and help as many people as possible who are going through similar life events.  I want to do this as a volunteer, possibly through the women's shelters or other agencies who help people in crisis (not necessarily MLC) but all life crisis'. So, these days the focus isn't on XH, but on extreme disorders of the brain of which MLC is one, and to help as many people as possible.  Not everyone stays here because they want reconciliation, but as a woman who has gone through immense trauma and aggression from a person I once loved more than anything, I hope my being here can help prevent some of the LBS's from making the legal mistakes many do, and lessen the despair and heartache they suffer as a result of the very selfish act of MLC.  Yes, I do know they can't 'help' it, but it's no excuse for the extreme things they do which most of never totally heal from.  The ow/om's are welcome to the shell of the former self MLCer's truly are.  The ow/om will never know the real person and the love we shared with them, that's for our memory only.

Morte, I am certainly not eating cafe man - ewwww.  I think he will keep contacting though, he's one of those once smitten, never go away type guys ::)

On other more exciting and happy things, I have been so busy!  I posted the other day I barely have a day to myself and things are ramping up even more.  I went to an old school friend's church fete and I forget how much I love this woman. We spent some time together reminiscing, I've known her since I was six years old, so lots of water under the bridge since then.  Spent the next day with another friend shopping in a really huge shopping center, my feet will attest to how many steps we did ;D  We had lunch and were so deep in conversation about some really incredible stuff, we went to another place for dinner.  She lives a long way from me, so I stayed the night and then received a call from another friend wanting me to come for lunch, so I packed up my stuff, gave my friend a huge hug and we planned another get-together during the week and whisked myself off to my other friend, got into another incredibly deep conversation with her too, and spent hours at a beautiful Malaysian restaurant savoring all the treats, and there were lots!  We left as the place was closing, I think the owners wondered if we had glued ourselves to the seats ::) but we were having such a wonderful time!  Went back to her place for a pot of tea before I left for the drive home.

I'm going out again today to visit a few markets and enjoy the sun and have dinner with a couple of other friends, so if you would like to joint us, we are leaving soon :)

My house is spotless, I did a huge Spring clean the other day and the place looks so gorgeous.  I am thinking of getting some more super squishy cushions and a new rug so we have the most comfortable home around!  I have done lots little things with furniture and decorating over the past years and it's now looking really good.  I still have lots of projects to go, so will start before the weather gets too hot here.

I love how we all seem to get back on our feet and live so well.  So for all the newbies, happiness does happen again, and you can be happier than you've ever been before. 

One of my friends knows a guy who is super gorgeous, respectful to women and an all round nice guy.  His wife passed away many years ago and he has dealt with her death in an amazing way, really did some work on healing and getting to know himself.  She thinks he would be very suited to me and is hopefully going to organise a date! 

Seems I am being sent some wonderful experiences lately :)
"And when they ask you about me and you find yourself thinking back on all of our memories,
I hope you ache in regret as the truth hits you like a bullet and you find yourself replying: ""She loved me more than anyone else in the entire world and I tried to destroy her."  He failed by the way. 
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=8412(Denjef's thread)

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Re: Remember the finish line, and keep going.
« Reply #47 on: October 13, 2019, 06:20:59 AM »
Keep your spider senses about you. If you do go on the date I hope it turns out better for you.  :)
You know this is MLC when you have played emotional hot potato with a pair of crotch-less tights.

 

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