Author Topic: My Story Rebuilding Letting go  (Read 772 times)

Offline stillbaffled

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My Story Rebuilding Re: Letting go
« Reply #10 on: October 12, 2019, 07:37:59 PM »
Good luck, NoEx.  I'll be thinking of you. 
BD: 1/1/16
Together 15 years - married 7 years
His divorce final 7/26/16
Married the OW

After all, tomorrow is another day.

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Re: Letting go
« Reply #11 on: October 12, 2019, 08:40:48 PM »
Good luck NoEx! Also thinking of you.

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Re: Letting go
« Reply #12 on: October 13, 2019, 03:42:30 AM »
Just catching up on your thread, No Ex.

I was happy to see the dark purple icon.  Very happy for you two.   :)

I was sorry to hear about your operation.  I'll be prayer for good recovery.

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"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."

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Re: Letting go
« Reply #13 on: October 13, 2019, 04:02:08 AM »
No ex
Thank you so much for your wise, inspiring post.

Wishing you the very best for tomorrow.
Sending you lots of strength and hugs, Loyal xx

Me: 56 (when he left in April 2017)
MLCer: 57 (when he left in April 2017)
Together since: 1986
Married: No
Begin of P`s MLC: around Spring 2010 with breaks inbetween when he behaved like his pre MLC self.
OW: YES , he`s living together with an old spinster who just happens to live up the road.
Animals: 1 doggie, belongs to both of us but MLCers has abandoned him too.

"Surrender to what is, let go of what was, have faith in what will be"

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Re: Letting go
« Reply #14 on: October 13, 2019, 11:39:50 AM »
Thinking of you NoE. Sending you lots of love for tomorrow. xxxx
Married 1989, together since 1984 
BD May 2014,
D25, D22, S15
OW Physical Affair same one. He and she said she turned 34 the month of BD. She turned 52 this year.

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Re: Letting go
« Reply #15 on: October 13, 2019, 06:18:30 PM »
Thinking about you tonight and saying a prayer for you!!
Married 1998
MLC H 48
LBS W 47
D16, S12
BD March, 2016
Left home Sept 4, 2016 - living with parents
H filed for D - July 24, 2017
D final March 14, 2018 - still living at parent's house

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Re: Letting go
« Reply #16 on: October 13, 2019, 08:00:04 PM »
Thank you everyone.  I am humbled by such an outpouring of love and support.   We've all been through so much together,  you are all truly my friends even though I've never met most of you.  I am a stronger and better person because of all of you.  Xoxo
Married 11 1/2 years, together 18.  BD 9/2016, 2nd BD 10/16.  H moved out 10/16.  2 AS's from my first M.  Me 55, H 50. OW 23.  Moved back 4/18.  Reconnecting and working on our M.

"And once the storm is over, you won't remember how you made it through; how you managed to survive.  You won't even be sure if the storm is really over.  But one thing is certain; when you come out of the storm, you won't be the same person that walked in...that's what this storm is all about."

"The trick is to enjoy life.  Don't wish away your days, waiting for better ones."

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Re: Letting go
« Reply #17 on: October 13, 2019, 09:57:28 PM »
No ex,

  You will be in my prayers tomorrow. Rest easy. Also, prayers for you surgeon that he may have steady hands.

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Be a pineapple; Stand tall. Wear a crown. Be sweet on the Inside.

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Re: Letting go
« Reply #18 on: October 13, 2019, 10:02:48 PM »
wishing you the best, noex
me 55, H 51
S13, S9 & S9
M 1/98

7/16 - BD - PA - OW
Monster until 1/17
T&Gs until 8/18
No legal action

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Re: Letting go
« Reply #19 on: October 14, 2019, 04:38:41 AM »

Hugs and prayers for you today. So happy to see the purple icon as well.

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