Author Topic: MLC Monster Shocks sis recovered MLCer 11  (Read 5557 times)

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« Reply #70 on: November 08, 2019, 01:01:36 PM »
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What else did you do to escape the depression and numbness?  I assume OM was a part of that? 

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Re: Shocks sis recovered MLCer 11
« Reply #71 on: November 08, 2019, 02:35:07 PM »
Hi Mego

I would hop on a plane every 3 weeks to get to om and stay there for four or five days. I could live my fantasy and escape my numbness by living a life totally opposite of my real life. It was enough it was exciting because I could be someone else.
I had a tattoo, tongue piercing and changed my style of dress, my hair and had fillers in my lips. It’s mind blowing but I did those things and more.

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Re: Shocks sis recovered MLCer 11
« Reply #72 on: November 08, 2019, 02:59:11 PM »
Hi SS, when deep in the fog what did your dreams consist of, was it dreams of your new fantasy life, your pre MLC life or just random dreams you normally would have had. The reason I ask this is to see if the fog controlling your fully awake and conscious mind was also present in your sleeping subconcios mind and in absolute control.

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Re: Shocks sis recovered MLCer 11
« Reply #73 on: November 08, 2019, 03:20:23 PM »
Dreams, yes, very interested to know about your dreams
BD End of April 2017
Moved out - kind of, May 2017
Denied affair
Cycled hard April - Oct 2017, my son figured out affair, I confronted husband, we were going away as a family for the weekend - H monsters hard and files for a D end of Oct, 2017
D final Sept 2018
Many touch and goes
He lives in monster, kids haven’t been with him overnight since Jan 2019
Moved in with MOW, a former friend of mine, May 2019

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Re: Shocks sis recovered MLCer 11
« Reply #74 on: November 08, 2019, 05:12:54 PM »
WOW Jackolar, what a GREAT question!!
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Re: Shocks sis recovered MLCer 11
« Reply #75 on: November 09, 2019, 03:58:08 AM »
Yes it is.

My H used to fall asleep on the couch and I watched his face.  He looked really upset, like he would get this frown on his face, sometimes his face would turn red, breathing was off, then he would wake up suddenly and look at me like he was in a daze.

A few times I asked him if he was having a nightmare and he would say, no I don't think so, I don't ever really remember my dreams, maybe I don't dream.   ::)

It was quite bizarre and I had forgotten all about this until you were asked about your dreams.  It appeared he was in real distress.
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Re: Shocks sis recovered MLCer 11
« Reply #76 on: November 09, 2019, 04:44:25 AM »
Thank you folks, if there’s enough interest I may start a thread. I’m learning leather craft at the moment so I’m absorbed with that right now. I find hobbies a great distraction technique to stop me dwelling on things and reduce anxiety.
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Re: Shocks sis recovered MLCer 11
« Reply #77 on: November 09, 2019, 05:40:02 AM »
Hi Jack

I don’t think I dreamt if at all but if I did then I have no recollection of them.
Great that you’re occupying yourself with things you enjoy. That’s the best thing to do. Keep up the good work

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Re: Shocks sis recovered MLCer 11
« Reply #78 on: November 09, 2019, 06:37:25 AM »
Ss when you Bd, was it because your h found out or did you just tell him. My reason for the question is when I got the  bd. It came across as he was proud of himself but yet was crying like a baby one minute. By morning told me he was going to kill himself. Talk about the range of emotions. I didn’t say much... it was disturbing to watch
M 53
H 48
M 12 years; together 17 years
D18, S28
Summer 2014 - H wanted to runaway
9/14 I was diagnosed with Breast cancer
11/14 Surgery for BC..3 day after my father dies
11/14 BD 2 days after surgery. I have no passion for you.
2/15 moved out
Dated each other all year affection back on..
3/16 moved home
7/16 Diagnosed with Breast cancer again
8/16 No affection again. I knew something was wrong.
9/16 Another surgery for Breast Cancer
9/16 BD 11 days after surgery discovered -EA with much younger W from Work. That is over. I think he has meaningless flings. Work is his mistress
10/16 I filed for D (financial reasons)
10/16 I moved out.
10/16 Now off and on vanisher
5/17 Divorce final

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Re: Shocks sis recovered MLCer 11
« Reply #79 on: November 09, 2019, 06:43:23 AM »
There seems to be a common belief, ShockSis, that MLCers get much worse before they might get better in the sense of going much deeper into the 'tunnel' after a while. Looking back, how many years after BD do you think you were at your most MLCish? Was there in fact a 'deeper bit of the tunnel'?
T: 18  M: 12 (at BD) No kids.
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