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My Story Ready for 2020 A Decade after Bomb Drop
OP: December 29, 2019, 02:50:06 PM
Previous Thread: https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=10253.150

I can only wish everyone a happy new year as we all move forward working on ourselves, and making the best of our situations and lives. As I look forward to 2020, I can reflect back on 2019.

Wow, 2019 was another amazing year. High points, going to my ceremony for my Doctoral Degree in January, cruise to the Bahamas for my birthday, new job assignment as a Superintendent of Instruction, oldest daughter's marriage, family trip to New York, and finally, a phone call from my ex apologizing to me. I also focused on getting healthy and fit.

I also learned how to fold my laundry condo style and wash windows without leaving streaks!

I thought 2018 was incredible, 2019 was a solid encore, and now 2020 brings more goals and opportunities to build a better life for me and those around me.

Right now, I am home watching my Broncos play and waiting for the laundry to dry. Then a little binge watching with my wife while I fold laundry and then time to clean the shower. (Not all things are fun!)

I am going to spend next week taking care of a few things around the house and typing a few documents for work. It will be another hard run as we implement new strategies and a focus on student learning. Also opening a new school in August. Yikes!

However, I am up for the challenge and with the right mindset, I know great things will happen. My wife and I continue to grow together and build a life as a couple. We have our moments, but we confront our issues and work on our conflicts rather than avoid them.

Which brings me to my goal for 2020 for the forum. I really am going to focus on the LBSer and conflict avoidance. I have been thinking about this for the past few weeks and a post by Law Professor has really intrigued me. I am reflecting on my own situation and others. Something to research and ponder for the upcoming year.

(((Hugs))) and more (((Hugs))) to everyone and here's to a fantastic New Year!

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Re: Ready for 2020 A Decade after Bomb Drop
#1: December 29, 2019, 03:29:08 PM
Congratulations Ready for such accomplished recent years. 10 years sounds like eternity. I just passed 5 th year mark, and still not there where I want to be professionally and financially. My hope for 2020 is to finally get there and have a life. Can I ask you how long did it take to regain your professional and financial stability after BD. Thank you.

Happy New Year to you too!
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Re: Ready for 2020 A Decade after Bomb Drop
#2: December 29, 2019, 03:47:43 PM
Hi Ready, so happy to hear your life is just getting better a d better. What an achievement yo gain your doctorate degree. Congratulations.

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Re: Ready for 2020 A Decade after Bomb Drop
#3: December 29, 2019, 04:02:27 PM
Great to hear, Ready!

I just love to hear success stories.  Makes me feel like this whole rotten nightmare will eventually end.

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Re: Ready for 2020 A Decade after Bomb Drop
#4: December 29, 2019, 05:09:38 PM
Ahhh, Ready, you sound great!!  So many high points for you the past few years, and I know they didn't come accidentally or by mere chance...they came because you made them happen.  You GAL, you moved forward, you used time wisely.  Bravo, my friend!!

And, the Broncos happen to be Big's team...so you have good taste there, as well  8)  And, as another bonus, you are just as passionate about becoming healthier and more fit, just like me.  Crazy that this journey had to made to bei g us together, but life works in mysterious ways, and I'm glad to call you friend!

All the best to you and yours in 2020.  I look forward to following you escapades and will be cheering from the sidelines!
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Re: Ready for 2020 A Decade after Bomb Drop
#5: December 29, 2019, 05:10:13 PM
Hi Ready,,, I don't think I know much about your journey but this post of yours is so inspiring.  So I'm going to attach, listen, and learn from this 10 year veteran.  I hope one day I get to where you are - and I like the focus of your 2020 goals for the forum.  :)

 
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Re: Ready for 2020 A Decade after Bomb Drop
#6: December 29, 2019, 05:21:13 PM
Hi Ready,

You are truly a guiding light to us all. You are one of the people I listen to when you give advice. your story is inspiring. You are a shining example of what a complete and healthy person looks like.

Thank you for being there for all of us. You have touched so many
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Re: Ready for 2020 A Decade after Bomb Drop
#7: December 29, 2019, 05:35:23 PM
Ready -
Attaching...

Thank you for the wise words you so often provide.
Looking forward to your thoughts on conflict avoidance for 2020.

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Re: Ready for 2020 A Decade after Bomb Drop
#8: December 29, 2019, 05:41:23 PM
Congratulations on an amazing year Ready and wishing you continued success in 2020.
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Re: Ready for 2020 A Decade after Bomb Drop
#9: December 30, 2019, 01:10:02 PM
What a blessed few years!  Happy New Years!!
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April 2019 He got an apartment and moved out.
Oct 2019-Apologized for a years worth of monster behavior.  Still wants to start divorce this Spring, is distant, but friendly.  Tries more with kids, but mostly just helps haul them around(superficial).
Spring 2019 H agreed to put off the divorce another school year to keep the kids and I from moving back to TX.
2020-He has continued to help out when asked and be polite.  I do think he questions his choices at times.  I do not believe he has OW.
Oct 30 2020-He wants to get back together.  I am unsure.

 

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