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#20: May 10, 2020, 08:46:05 AM
Hello,

Not much going on, but I did want to take the time and wish all the wonderful mothers out there a Happy Mother's Day. I am always amazed at how much time, care, and most of all the love you provide your children each and every day! Make sure you take today off, my wife is still lounging in bed, enjoying her Nespresso and bagel I brought to her. She has no plans for the day at all!

So enjoy your day and know how much all of us respect and admire mothers around the world!

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#21: May 10, 2020, 08:48:40 AM
Thank You Ready!!!  Have an awesome day!!
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BD-October 2018-ILYBNIL, wants a divorce, this after I found out about OW 1(EA), OW2(PA) no longer together.  I believe he is single. 
April 2019 He got an apartment and moved out.
Oct 2019-Apologized for a years worth of monster behavior.  Still wants to start divorce this Spring, is distant, but friendly.  Tries more with kids, but mostly just helps haul them around(superficial).
Spring 2019 H agreed to put off the divorce another school year to keep the kids and I from moving back to TX.
2020-He has continued to help out when asked and be polite.  I do think he questions his choices at times.  I do not believe he has OW.
Oct 30 2020-He wants to get back together.  I am unsure.

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#22: May 10, 2020, 04:45:57 PM
Thank you, Ready.  Very much appreciated!  ;)
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#23: July 15, 2020, 07:58:23 PM
Wow,

The past few months have been highs and lows. On the low part, someone stole my cellphone and laptop out of my car. So a few really bad days of changing accounts and deactivating my phone. Learned after the fact on how to save all my information to the cloud LOL So I lost all my contacts and a lot of documents, but I have recovered and moving ahead.

At my new house, we have a sunscreen. It serves no purpose and living with an Asian family means we keep our shoes outside. When it rains, we have to go and bring all our shoes back in. So my dad drew up the plans, I got a city permit and on my week off from work, my dad and I built a covered patio. It is all done except for the paint and I will get it done this weekend. I was so tired, but I look out my glass sliding door and feeling pride at my project.

Now my wife and I will shop for some nice outdoor furniture and a fire pit. Yep, a fire pit. Ready the pyro is happy!

We start professional development next week with the teachers and we are bringing the students back 4 days a week full time. It has been a tough decision as most are keeping the students home on distance learning. We have implemented a safety plan and if we can keep the staff safe from each other, we believe we can benefit our students best by bringing them back into the classroom. We offered our parents full time online program or the four day a week plan and surprisingly 60% of our parents want the students back in school.

I just pray and hope that we are making the right choice and everyone stays safe. If you can, please say a prayer for the staff, students, and parents.

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#24: July 16, 2020, 04:40:38 AM
Ugh- the cell phone and laptop loss are so hard. You don´t even know all that you´ve lost until you need something.

Congrats on the building project- practical and you got to spend time with your Dad.

Fingers-crossed for the school. I worry about the school community. Teachers seem to be the disposable cog in the engine of getting the economy up and running. The remote was hard on everyone and probably not very effective but the price for the risks is so high.

Be well, stay well,
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#25: September 13, 2020, 06:34:28 AM
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Thinking about you and hoping you're enjoying your new patio (and fire pit)!
Has your wife's business been able to open back up yet?
Has the safety plan for your teaching been working well?  It would be interesting to hear because so  many colleges are doing such diverse things (some totally virtual still, some with dorms open, hybrids, etc.).

Let us know how/what you're doing...
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#26: September 13, 2020, 07:11:23 AM
Ready from one pyro to another, I'm excited for you.   ;D
You'll love the fire pit!

Prayers going up for all staff, students and parents that this stays safe for everyone....and God bless teachers!  They are truly hero's in my book.
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#27: September 13, 2020, 05:37:51 PM
Hello,

Thanks for checking in.

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Thinking about you and hoping you're enjoying your new patio (and fire pit)!

Two more weeks and it will arrive. Last week, I rented a powerwasher and cleaned the entire patio. It was over 100 degrees and no one really wanted to be outside. By the time the furniture arrives, it will be cooler and I look forward to spending some quality time with the wife on the love seat!!!!

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Has your wife's business been able to open back up yet?

We just got the web page and the point of sale system going. No sales yet, but we are both confident as we head into the winter, we will start to take off. We are using the time now to fine tune the operation. There is a lot to learn and I think it is best to go slow until we have our system in place.

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Has the safety plan for your teaching been working well?  It would be interesting to hear because so  many colleges are doing such diverse things (some totally virtual still, some with dorms open, hybrids, etc.).

We started virtual with the teachers working in their classrooms with no students. So far with one month in, no positive cases. We have had to send some staff home for two weeks but it was because a family member in the household tested positive not anything from the site. We submitted waivers to the county and state to open our elementary students to come to school for in person instruction. So in two weeks, students may be at two of our sites. Keep your fingers crossed! Right now I have been busy with reports to the state and training our site leaders on how to observe classroom teaching and providing feedback to improve instruction.

On a sad note, one of the teachers I worked with as a vice principal and as a principal passed away last Thursday. She was 66 and it was from ALS.  She was a little odd, always followed the beat of a different drummer. I put my youngest daughter in her class years ago and my daughter loved her. She always spoke of my aura as being beautiful. She would say, "It's so beautiful and filled with love. I wish you could see it."

She was a good teacher and never had a mean bone in her body. So sad that she isn't here, but I know she will find herself in a better place.

Everything else is going well. Going to watch a little more football before I go to be and wake up for another week of work.

((((Hugs))) and more ((((Hugs))) to everyone,

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#28: September 13, 2020, 06:06:26 PM
Ready -
Great update.
Enjoy the fire pit when it gets there.
Good luck with your wife's business.
Stay safe in the school - glad they seem to be able to work out in-person teaching in the near future.

I'm sorry about your friend's passing.
It's lovely about the aura -

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#29: September 13, 2020, 11:57:24 PM
Thanks for the update Ready. I'm so glad you've returned to the board. Reading updates about normal things like patio furniture, firepits, the wife and the loveseat gives me hope. Maybe someday I'll be living that kind of life again.

Thank God we had football this weekend. Thank God.

So sorry for the loss of your friend.
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