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Mirror-Work LBS New Years Resolutions (and hopes)
OP: December 31, 2019, 03:01:56 PM
Not to be off-putting as we all know your typical New Year's resolutions go right in the trash a week into the new year..... but LBS's are special: They have drive, determination and perseverance. When the LBS engine gets roaring, better get out of the way.

What are you looking to see/improve/work-on in the New Year with yourself?

Any hopes? Any new dreams?

For me:
(Mirror-Work) I'm going to continue becoming a much better man. Stronger inside and out. More loving, caring, compassionate and patient. I will work on perusing my passions in life, and live it to the fullest. I will maintain my honor and dignity. I will work harder than I have in a long time, perhaps my whole life, but it won't be for someone else.

(Hopes & Dreams) I seek and hope to become stronger in my faith. Learn to listen and hear. I hope to have an opportunity for a career change and start a new chapter (don't know if this is the year or not, but it will happen eventually).  I hope W continues to improve..... she doesn't have to be healed this year, I don't have to know all the answers this year, I don't have to have certainty this year..... but I hope for something good. I hope that I will feel loved from time to time this year. I hope to look like Arnold Schwarzenegger this year  :o ;) :-* (Not the current Arnold...... early 1980's Arnold... LOL!!!)

I think that's more than enough...... I don't have to fix the world, or change the world anymore..... I just need to do my best and make the best of what is.

Sincere hope that all people here have a great New Year's, and I hope that all will have a better year in 2020 than in 2019.

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Re: LBS New Years Resolutions (and hopes)
#1: December 31, 2019, 04:58:14 PM

I hope to carry that drive and continued perseverance into 2020.  What’s the point of Standing if you don’t finally reach the finish line?

So...I guess that’s my survive yet another year.
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Re: LBS New Years Resolutions (and hopes)
#2: January 01, 2020, 11:30:18 AM
Happy New Year to all.

My resolutions are to let go of anger that is only harming me and impeding my growth. There will be lots of self-care, and compassion for myself and my family. I will continue my journey of mirror-work and push myself out of my comfort zone. One day at a time.
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Re: LBS New Years Resolutions (and hopes)
#3: January 01, 2020, 01:14:41 PM
I'm going to revive one the hobbies I gave up after BD... It was part of my life before W,  I did it throughout our M ( there was a time both of us were involved ), and this 10+ month break has been the longest break Ive ever had.

And I'm going to try to read at least one fiction book per month.  Starting with Terry Pratchett's "Moving Pictures" (already on page 15, LoL).

I still dont know if I'm doing this all just to kill some time, or if I'm actually going to enjoy it. But for better worse, I believe the only way to get pieces of my old life back is just "do it'.

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