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#70: January 10, 2020, 12:09:23 PM
Shining Star is in too. And I reached out to Hero as well.
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Re: Meet up in the UK anyone?
#71: January 10, 2020, 12:10:07 PM
Maybe give us your top 3 prefs in order in next couple of days?

Fwiw as the woman on the ground, mine would probably be 5, 2 or 4  :) - all sleep 12 plus there is a spare room at my house lol. Or no 1 if we think we need the max number!  Most options have a couple of solo doubles but most involve sharing.....and even some elegant grown up bunk beds lol

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Plus maybe dogwalker or Morte as visitors but not included in accommodation?
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Re: Meet up in the UK anyone?
#72: January 10, 2020, 02:03:29 PM
Kit - yay for a birthday twin!

I’m happy with all accommodations they all look nice. I tried finding a fault with atleasy some but failed so I like all 😂
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Re: Meet up in the UK anyone?
#73: January 10, 2020, 02:14:33 PM
Maybe we should consider 2 houses.   And cancel one (for no fee?) if it turns out we don't need it.    If I remember, there was a lot of interest in Tuscany but eventually it pared down to 12 confirms and booked the house based on that.   Then a few more dropped out, and another joined in, and when all the dust was settled we were 9 people.   It was fine because with 12 there were 6 solo rooms and 3 double rooms.   In the end, we all got our own bedroom and bathroom. 

Best to expect the final number to reduce somewhat between now and a month or two before we leave.   If everyone does show up, then lots of double rooms.   If a few drop out then more solo rooms,, but it does mean a cost adjustment if that happens. 

Whatever house we choose it needs lots of bathrooms.   Two people to a bathroom is ideal, 3 people is pushing it a bit but still doable.   So if we are 12 people we will need a house with at least 4 bathrooms but preferably 5 or 6 bathrooms. 

Kit,, so happy to hear you are in!  And Shining Star and maybe Hero too.    I pm'd Didot but no answer yet.   If our final number for the entire time is more than 12, looks like we will need another house.

And,, I've been told I snore so unless that's just another big fat MLC lie, then I would prefer a solo room.   ::) 

Treasur - I didn't realize you lived so close.   You actually have accommodation you can rent out?  If so, let's try to use it!
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Re: Meet up in the UK anyone?
#74: January 10, 2020, 04:04:05 PM
Apparently, I snore at times, too, just a little my S25 tells me, so I'm happy to share but maybe with another snorer so I'm not a nuisance?

I will give my top 3 tomorrow, although I'm happy to go with whatever the majority prefers. Oh, and Anon is very right about being prepared for the numbers to fluctuate right up to the end. We should be consider that. Would love it if any LBSes in the UK who decide last minute that they can come down even for just a night, as long as they're willing to find themselves an air B&B or little hotel by themselves.
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Re: Meet up in the UK anyone?
#75: January 10, 2020, 04:05:36 PM
Not that it matters, but S is 15 not 25, so who knows if he's being polite about my snoring or rude.
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Re: Meet up in the UK anyone?
#76: January 10, 2020, 04:41:29 PM
Treasur,,, here are my thoughts on accommodation:

#1, #4, #5 - are my picks if we only need one house.   They all have 5 bathrooms and sleep either 12 or 13 (maybe). 

#1:   is the priciest but it's also right at the beach, is very luxurious, and has some great views.  This would be my choice.  Sleeps 13 max. even when maximizing the 2 per room opportunity. 

#4:    cost a bit less than #1, but it looks like its a couple of blocks from the beach, it's luxurious but not as much as much as #1 and it doesn't look like there are ocean views.   I'm not sure how to fit 13 people sleeping in the house.  I can see 12 people and that is maximizing the two per room opportunity.   The other beds cannot really be shared - double bed, 2 king beds (well maybe shareable,,,).  I don't see where the 13th person will sleep unless there are 3 in the super king size bed?  And I am assuming that 2 bunk beds means 1 bunk bed for 2 and another bunk bed for 2.   If it doesn't mean that, then I can only see room for 10. 

#5:  is also nice and on the beach, but,, while I was looking at the availability suddenly the 18th and 19th days grayed out which means someone just booked it.  So unless we pick a different week, this one is out.

#2,#3 and #6: none of these have enough bathrooms if we all stay in one house. 

But,,, if we need two houses, then my picks are #2 & #3 over any of the other houses.    Enough bathrooms (3 in #2 and 4 in #3) and both cheaper by quite a bit than 1, 4 or 5.   Possibly more opportunity to get a solo room in these houses too.   

It's going to be tough to choose a house or houses until we know more about who is coming for sure, and is prepared to pay a deposit, and also who wants their own room and who is okay with sharing (and saving some money). 






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Re: Meet up in the UK anyone?
#77: January 11, 2020, 12:53:39 AM
Anon well summarised.

They all look lovely. But I agree we should look at #2 and #3

I might sound like a princess but would prefer my own room if possible, don't mind paying more for this.

#1 sleep 13 but 4 of these beds are bunks and in the same room - getting up to the top bunk after a few glasses of prosecco might be a challenge!
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Re: Meet up in the UK anyone?
#78: January 11, 2020, 01:31:19 AM
we’re all a bit of princess! We get to be now after BD!

Yeah I mean, If I had to share I would but if I was top bunk I would probably sleep on the floor. Don’t fancy breaking an arm just to get some sleep 😂 I’m a very clumsy drunk 😵
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Re: Meet up in the UK anyone?
#79: January 11, 2020, 02:15:34 AM
I broke my toe in tuscany..it is all just part of the process.  ;D
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