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#80: January 11, 2020, 03:18:27 AM
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Re: Meet up in the UK anyone?
#81: January 11, 2020, 09:26:06 AM
Another thought - if two houses are needed, then one house for anyone who wants their own room.   Another house for those who are fine sharing.   Keeps things simpler.  How many want their own room - get the right size house.   Same with the sharing house.   Math would be easy too otherwise its a bit of a headache to sort that out. 
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Re: Meet up in the UK anyone?
#82: January 11, 2020, 01:00:56 PM
Another thought - if two houses are needed, then one house for anyone who wants their own room.   Another house for those who are fine sharing.   Keeps things simpler.  How many want their own room - get the right size house.   Same with the sharing house.   Math would be easy too otherwise its a bit of a headache to sort that out.

I was wondering about that, particularly as people might have different budget constraints.
Good idea.
How would you feel about coordinating booking the Singles house, Anon?
And maybe someone else could organise the Sharing house?
I don't mind being the local advisor and tour guide but I'd prefer not to organise the bookings really.
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Re: Meet up in the UK anyone?
#83: January 11, 2020, 01:48:29 PM
I have lost track of the numbers. Can we not fit in one house? If we do two houses, one for singles and one for sharing, will that work? Rarely will houses have all rooms that can be turned into 2 beds. I'm not sure that when people say they would share, they would sleep in a double bed with someone else.

I would say, let's go for the largest house available. Tell everyone the costs for rooms on their own, and costs for sharing. Let's see who commits at this point. Let's see if we really do have spillover. If we have a core group that would fit in one house, and who are willing to commit right now to a deposit, let's just rent one house. Then based on how many extras come along, we can look at finding them a second house.
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Re: Meet up in the UK anyone?
#84: January 11, 2020, 02:24:17 PM
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Can we not fit in one house?
That would be great to get into one house.   At the moment, it doesn't look possible.  So far 13 people have said they are in and there is a 14th person (Didot) who is seriously considering.   The largest house is 7 bedrooms (#2) and some of those bedrooms have to stay as solo rooms because, yeah,,, none of us would be crazy about sharing a double bed with someone.    The #2 house can accommodate 10 only and it's hard to tell the bedrooms that could be for just one person, but I doubt it would be more than 2.   

I do agree the next step is to confirm who is interested for the entire time and who is just coming for a few days.  Those coming for a few days can do a smaller airbnb or something.  Also,, who is ready to contribute their share to the deposit once a we have agreed on house(s) to rent?  That could be very soon.

The 13 people currently on the list -
1.  can you guys confirm your interest again
2.  are you able to cover your share of the deposit now?  Amt. depends on #people and the house we choose.   
3.  share a room or your own room?
4.  Staying the week?  Or just a few days?    (The 'week' might only be 5 or 6 days).

 

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Re: Meet up in the UK anyone?
#85: January 11, 2020, 03:07:48 PM
If it helps....my sleeps 12 was based on this description e.g. 1 bedroom with 2 poss singles on gf, 2 bedrooms with king size (not for sharing), 1 bedroom with 2 poss singles, 1 bedroom with 2 singles and finally 1 bedroom with 2 bunk beds that sleeps 4 sober/nimble lol....ergo max of 12 people or min of 6 not sharing


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Re: Meet up in the UK anyone?
#86: January 12, 2020, 08:26:35 AM
Yes I can confirm I am interested
Yes I can cover my share of the deposit now
I would really like my own room
I would plan to be stay the week.

Anon
I know you said you wouldn't mind going to London before the meet-up but if you were thinking of also extending at the end (I'm working the week before)and wanted to visit other places - as we will probably visit London and Cambridge whilst at Southwold (is this doable Treasur?) I was thinking maybe Oxford and the Cotswolds - probably too far to travel to the lake District or Cornwall, then I could join you - I'll have my car - just a thought

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Re: Meet up in the UK anyone?
#87: January 12, 2020, 09:09:08 AM
I am really considering this trip .. I cannot 100% commit as a few things in the air ( father has surgery date pending etc). But if all falls into place...I am a comin! I would need my own room as I apparently hugely snore … ugh. Sounds so exciting and an adventure is just what I need !   
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Re: Meet up in the UK anyone?
#88: January 12, 2020, 11:01:18 AM
I would prefer my own room. I can pay my deposit now.
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Re: Meet up in the UK anyone?
#89: January 12, 2020, 03:05:34 PM
Sorry I've been out of the loop. So it looks like the plan is for Southwold  in September? I'm still very very interested but worried about committing in case I find a job and do not have vacation flexibility. 

One random thought - and not to hijack what has worked for the group before- is there a nearby inn (or Highclere castle) where some of us could book rooms and then not inconvenience the group if we have to cancel? Have the meet ups ever been at inns? I know a private house is lovely and a good place for prosecco at 1 am and probably more cost effective, but a few jobs ago I went on lots of corporate retreats at inns and retreat centers and our large group was always able to find our own space.

True confession, have never been to the U.K. before .... I would hope to stay the week and would love to explore a bit longer, too. Desperately need some fun and adventure with wonderful company.

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