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My Story My third thread: Still living in interesting times
#110: January 23, 2023, 11:55:11 PM
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Me - 60, xW - 54
Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation & 21 at D-Day
S - 15, D - 12
2 Dogs
BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Divorce final 30 August 2019
Moved on in life

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My third thread: Still living in interesting times
#111: August 17, 2023, 04:23:12 PM
Hey Moon

I’ve just caught up. Can’t believe it’s been 5 years since BD.

How are you doing now?
Rose 🌹
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Married 15+ years with 2 children
BD1 - 2016
BD2 - 2017
BD3 - Sept 2019
MOW Mar 2016-Jan 2018
OW2 - Feb 2019, age 30
H left home Oct 2017 to stay with his parents
Bought a family Puppy mid 2018 - referred to as ‘P’

Link to advice by my mentor, Phoenix, on what to tell the children about H leaving - reply #33 (it had a glitch)

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#112: September 19, 2023, 11:42:17 AM
Hi Rose.
Good to hear from you.  Hope you’re keeping well. 

Yes, 5 and half years now.  It was our WA earlier this month.  I didn’t think it would make it to 16 years but the divorce is still rumbling on.  We seem to be stuck at getting a financial agreement sorted.  She keeps asking where it’s got to but then goes out of her way to tinker with the order which slows it all down again.  To be honest, I’m no longer all that bothered.  She’s got her life now (she appears to have bought a comic merchandise shop with her new BF, despite having a successful career of her own - although she has been on gardening and sick leave from that recently). Although from what my daughter’s say she and the BF argue a lot.  She and her Bf also went on a short holiday the other day and it wasn’t until a couple of days later that I realised that it would have coincided with our WA. 

But I’ve moved on now as well, and by and large pretty happy with where I’m at.  It’s not been easy getting here but things seem to have settled down.  Tbh I’m looking forward to getting the divorce done so I can truly say that that chapter in my life has closed. 
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Married: 2007
D12 and D9
BD2: Feb 2018 EA discovered
August 2018, I move to own place.  June 2022, asks for divorce


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