[SailingAway]

Awesome topic, my ex said some great ones (destroyed me at the time)

You left the marriage long before I did (ok, news to me)
You made my hair gray
I regret ever meeting you (after 20 years together)
There is something wrong with you (this when I was crying about our relationship ending)
I have given everyone everything and there is nothing left for me
I feel dead inside (yet there was something wrong with me???)
I am going to die soon (he was 39 at the time)

And the absolute killer that still upsets me

The boys don't need a father (they were only 8 and 9 years old)

There were plenty more, but those were the ones he said multiple times.

[MourningDove]

I had the MLCer who bought a luxury convertible without my knowledge because OW said he deserved it. Six months later, he fired all but one of his long term clients and said he didn't want to work anymore, put the car up for sale and told me he wanted to move to a third world country and build huts for the poor.

Thrown into that whole nonsense, I heard from him...
- that he had been living a lie for the past 30 years.
- he felt that he needed to see what it was like to live on his own because he had never lived alone. (Funny, he was on his own at 17, having been emancipated and had his own apartment by then).
- after all of this, OW and I probably would become good friends. 
- OW was his soulmate
- maybe in 10 years he would look over and we could get back together
- he wanted to emancipate our S, didn't want to pay support for D, but he wanted custody of the dog.

Looking back, I kind of wish I had noted all of the crazy things. They were painful then, now they make me laugh a bit - pure absurdity.

[LBS_Les]

I got the following:

My soul was dying.
I left the marriage emotionally, long before I left physically.
I dont want to divorce, but I think we need to separate for two to three years and then date each other again.
Its too soon to make a decision on divorce
Im at peace living on my own.   I absorb other peoples energy
We are just so different, you just dont get me at all.
You never supported me
Ive always put you first, its time to put me first

[terra]

- after all of this, OW and I probably would become good friends. 

- You’d really like her. (pleading with me to understand why ow is important)
- She loves me a LOT. (said as if “realizing” it for the first time)

[Thunder]

Let's see....

I just don't feel like myself anymore...
I'm so old, just look at my hands...(he was 46...never looked better)
I think I have sun damage on my neck, it will probably turn to cancer...

Me- how do you just fall out of love with someone like this?
Him - Who ever said I didn't love you?  (Um because you want a divorce maybe)

My favorite...I can laugh at those others but this one stung....
Why should I pay you anything if we divorce?  We should just take care of ourselves. (I was retired...he made $30,000 more than I did)
Well you could just get a part-time job.  I shouldn't be responsible for you.   

[Essential]

Here goes;

It’s not about her, it’s what surrounds her.
I don’t love her but I might in the future.
With her I can be free, she also doesn’t want any kids.
I don’t love you, but I can’t say we’ll never be together again.
I have a colleague who took a five year break with his wife and afterwards they got married again.
You broke up with me.
It really hurt when you said we couldn’t be a throuple.
Last night, when you came by and left waited 20 minutes at the door, hoping you’d come back. (so we could sleep together)
I want to travel alone for long periods. (he never did so far)

Many more, but I don’t immediately remember and will stay out of that void 😅

[Milly]

My H:
I've been unhappy for 10 years
I've been unhappy since the day we married
We should never have married
I never loved you
I don't have any good memories of our marriage
kids are resilient
First we divorce, then we can talk about getting back together again
You disgust me
You're boring
You're always tired
You're a manipulator
You're a liar

[3longyrs]

I've been unhappy for the last 3/5/10 years...depending on her mood
I'm tired of having to take care of everyone
Its time for me to be happy
We want two different things now
You never want to do anything
You work too many hours
There is never enough money
We cant even agree on the dogs...
And yes...Ow is a nice person,you would like her....

[Evermore]

I got all the standard ones plus (said to a mutual friend): "I have fallen out of love with her. That happens all the time. They even write songs about it." and "We never hold hands when we arrive at parties"

[em5731]

 I am not domesticated any more
I am meant to live a different life
We haven't been happy for 5 years
I have done my time being a husband and a father
I just want to work and be happy.
I think its time you should be with someone else
You look good for your age, you are doable
I will visit you on holidays if I can

These are just the ones that really bothered me in the beginning