[Gypzziroze]

This was all in text...BD August 18th, 2020 and havent seen him since.

Me: Do you love me?
H: I hate when people say love conquers all. I heard I love you everyday in a previous relationship that nearly landed me with a domestic violence charge. You tell me you love me everyday, but when you see no evidence of it, they are just words.
(That one stung, because he KNOWS I have loved him since we were together at 15)

H : I have been trying to keep it together for everyone else, now it's time for ME. That may sound selfish, but it's how I feel.

H: I'd hoped you'd change after we got married, but that was evident the night you drove the truck backwards. 🤔🤔 🤷🏻‍♀️

H: Its time to look after ME.

A few others I cant recall right now...but 😳

[Shockandawe]

Ooooo let’s see if I can remember some of the best!!

I don’t hate you I just have very strong feelings of ill will toward you. When asked why he didn’t know.
We really should not have married because I didn’t want to but did it because I thought you would like it! WTF!!
You wouldn’t let me go on my bicycle ride that time. (He bought a wheel to ride his bike indoors when raining and I suggested he would probably be better off riding in house one particular day when it was torrential rain).
You never let me do anything. I always supported him in everything.
You should have married the best man!
I pretended to love you all through our relationship.(16 years).
I have always done everything for everyone now I’m going to do things just for me.
I’m not in another relationship I just live with ow!
When you were fat it made it difficult to love you.
I have always loved you.
It’s because we’re from different countries.
You never listened to me.(He never told me he was unhappy till BD)
She (ow) and I are selfish people and we’re going to live our lives happily and you’re just going to have to accept it.
If you hadn’t had a miscarriage things would have been different.(That one really hurts).
I will probably come back if things don’t work out with ow!

That’s just a small selection of crazy hurtful things he has said.
It’s just words, put no weight to them they’re all crazy.

May God bless you all.

Shock

[Marchingforward]

Many of the same:
ILYBNILWY
We have nothing in common.
We don’t have a future.
You don’t support me.
I can’t risk what might happen with my kids in 5; AP, or 15 years if I stay w you. (Just days after telling me what a great future we have in store for us).
I love you but I’m conflicted.

[megogirl]

“I don’t hate you I just have very strong feelings of ill will towards you.”

That has to be my all-time favorite line from an MLCer.  BRAVO!

[Dismiss3]

A few I’ve heard:
“We grew apart”
“I’m a mess”
“I’m an S.O.B and I know it”
“I’m losing my mind”
“I know you don’t believe me when I say I have no control”
“I’m depressed”
“You don’t want to travel when I retire” (not true)
“I still have love and feelings for you “
“I’m just waiting for a mental breakdown”
And the list can still go on for a bit...My MLC H is a Clinger.

[Shockandawe]

I just hope, when all this is done that the love is still there.
I know I’m going to regret this but it’s something I have to do.
You should date other people but I know you would never cheat on me.
I have always been selfish. (He was the most unselfish person I ever knew).
I have lived a lie throughout our relationship.
ILYBNILWY, then I love you then I don’t love you then I have never loved you.
When I die I want people to remember my name like Cartier (he has cut his hours at work to make and sell jewellery).
I’m going to make jewellery so I can give money to the people I care about, that’s me and you, us.
We never had any good times. Cherish as I do the good times we had.
The ow is going to help me budget (something we did together, so far he’s massively in debt which is something he never was).



Crazy crazy crazy and this is why I absolutely refuse to get back on the crazy bus. I’m standing over here watching it all fall apart around him.

May God bless you all.

[Gypzziroze]

Remembered a few more:

"I" cant have a comfortable life if "I'm " the only one working 🤔🤔🤔
A few days after BD when speaking to one of his best friends..."I dont plan to not talk to her again, I want us to be friends".... seriously??
Heard the the grapevine a few nights ago from another mutual friend that had dinner at H moms, when he asked H how we were doing ..." We are doing good. She is doing good. We just have some things to work out"  wish he would let me know that 🤔

[Philadelphiagirl]

My favourite from the many I remember......

During a telephone conversation about the children -

Me - it sounds like I am talking to a stranger.

Him - I am a stranger to you now - you do not know me. I do not know you.

Me - Sigh.

He had been gone 14 days.

PG x

[Thunder]

Wow...I got something very similar, Philly.

Me: This is just SO not like you.

Him:  Yeah...well.....I don't feel like me anymore.

sigh

[LBS_Les]

My favourite from the many I remember......

During a telephone conversation about the children -

Me - it sounds like I am talking to a stranger.

Him - I am a stranger to you now - you do not know me. I do not know you.

Me - Sigh.

He had been gone 14 days.

PG x

My W had said something similar. For the first few months after BD, she kept saying "I cant believe you dont even know me".  Ya, youre right - the woman I know isn't a cheater and bratty kid LOL

She said she doesn't know me (Um, okay?), and that we are two completely different people because now she eats Free Range eggs LOL