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Glad it helped, RTF. Keep breathing.

Today’s reminder:
I focus on what I can control instead of what I cannot.
The panic I feel is only temporary.
I am doing the best that I can.
I have been through difficult obstacles before and I have come out strong.

Also: Shut up, Fear, no one, asked your opinion!

We’re all okay. Just might take some extra effort.
Hope everyone is hanging in there!
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A convo with someone today reminded me of one of my favorite, favorite books that I had forgotten about, and also a forgotten memory of how much this book helped me in the first 3-6 months after BD.  So I wanted to put it here before I forget, in case any newbies stumble into my thread:

Writing Down the Bones
by Natalie Goldberg

https://www.amazon.com/Writing-Down-Bones-Freeing-Writer/dp/161180308X

It's not about MLC at all.  But the writing exercises in it are great for MANY things, including sorting your thoughts (especially if you're just coming off a BD).
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Attaching - wonderful recommendation, and I thank you for the affirmations along the way. They feel very relevant to the work I am doing right now.
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I always thought breathing was something I did all the time. I mean, otherwise I would be dead right? But since I got my Apple Watch I learned that’s not true LOL as it often tells me to breath 😂
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Me - 28
H - 35
3 children together D3 D6 D8 (D1 D4 and D6 at the time of BD)
Together - almost 8 years

BD & MLCer moved out - November 2017
OW discovered - December 2017
Moved in with Ow - November 2019
Ow met children - December 2019

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LL, hope you like the book!
Sachat, it’s amazing, something like breathing that is supposed to be a given and yet sometimes it’s hard.

Words for today:

My limitless awareness overcomes all obstacles.

There is a way through every block. There is help and I am willing to ask for it. I can find hope in all things, for all things are part of my progress. Today I pay attention to the open doors, the new ideas, the support around me. I can find hope everywhere, and I'm free to explore each moment without anxiety.
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You truly are an inspiration, Nas. 
(((((HUGS)))))
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My first thread:  https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=8164.150

My reconnecting thread:  https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=10524.msg699615#msg699615

Live-in MLCer

Feb 2015: BD. 
Oct 2015: ILYBINILWY.
Apr 2016: Affair discovered
Dec 2017: Seriously reconnecting

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You truly are an inspiration, Nas. 
(((((HUGS)))))

Well in all honesty I’m a little fraudulent - talking the talk but not yet really walking the walk.
But I’m inspired by others and hope to inspire others someday.
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The panic I feel is only temporary.
Well this inspired me to huff and puff towards making a difficult phone call yesterday....which actually turned out to be a good one with a really good outcome. So, frankly, you are inspiring enough for me lol x
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T: 18  M: 12 (at BD) No kids.
H diagnosed with severe depression Oct 15. BD May 16. OW since April 16, maybe earlier. Silent vanisher mostly.
Divorced April 18. XH married ow 6 weeks later.
Healing and growing found here https://littleplotbythesea.wordpress.com

"Option A is not available so I need to kick the s**t out of Option B" Sheryl Sandberg

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You truly are an inspiration, Nas. 
(((((HUGS)))))


FWIW, I think sometimes the saying “fake it till you make it” goes a long way. When I was a teen I did drama class and always got shy performing. However I was told “pretend your confident” and I soon started feeling it.

Well in all honesty I’m a little fraudulent - talking the talk but not yet really walking the walk.
But I’m inspired by others and hope to inspire others someday.
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Me - 28
H - 35
3 children together D3 D6 D8 (D1 D4 and D6 at the time of BD)
Together - almost 8 years

BD & MLCer moved out - November 2017
OW discovered - December 2017
Moved in with Ow - November 2019
Ow met children - December 2019

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Today, for anyone else feeling like they’re in a losing race against time:

Don’t watch the clock;
Do what it does: Keep going.

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