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Today’s reminders:
You are worthy
You are allowed to struggle
You deserve to take up space
You are allowed to speak
You don’t need permission to exist
You are not fundamentally flawed
You have the right to acknowledge your feelings without having to justify them.

Take what you need. ❤️
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Today’s reminders:
You are worthy
You are allowed to struggle
You deserve to take up space
You are allowed to speak
You don’t need permission to exist
You are not fundamentally flawed
You have the right to acknowledge your feelings without having to justify them.

Take what you need. ❤️

All of this was helpful to me today, thank you.  I will repeat it as many times as necessary for it to sink in. 
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M-42
H-44
S-20 (mine)
D-18 (ours)
S-15 (ours)
Friends 7y before M
Married 14y
BD 12/14/15 - 2 weeks after 14th anniv.
Divorce final 4/13/16
EA - 9/15-4/16
New GF 12/16
Engaged 6/17 (I found out 8/10/17)
Moved to her State 4 States away - 7/13/17 (told me 4 days before)
Eng. off 8/20/17
Moved back to our State 8/24/17
New GF 2/29/20 (Told me 4/22/20)
Married her 4/24/20 (Told me 4/22/20)

Link to my journey: 
https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=11618.0

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass - it's about learning to dance in the rain."

"Don't become a container for bitterness.  It's a toxin that destroys what it's carried in."

"Sometimes - some things have to break apart so better things can be built."

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Hello,

As a leader, I took what you wrote and changed it push my mindset interacting with others:

They are worthy
They are allowed to struggle
They deserve to take up space
They are allowed to speak
They don’t need permission to exist
They are not fundamentally flawed
You need to acknowledge their feelings without having to justify them.

And when all else fails: Breathe

((((Hugs)))

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"Always look in the mirror and love what you see."

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I think you should copy that across to the ‘Grace’ thread Ready. It seems to me a pretty good definition.
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M: 50 (48 @ BD)
H: 53 (51 @ BD)
Married 20yrs, together 23yrs
D: 21 (19 @ BD)
D: 19 (17 @ BD)
'Extra D': 19 (17 @ BD)
BD (that I didn't recognise as such) Easter 2018
BD 9th Sep 2018
OW (45, now 47) - he met her in the pub a week before BD, told me about her a week after BD. Thinks 'their planets have collided' because 'their eyes met across the room' and they had an 'instant connection'. Lives with her. Is building a life with her. Jun 20: H plans to buy a block of land and build a house with her.

 

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