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Discussion Old Timer's Thread #6
OP: March 10, 2021, 01:55:34 PM
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10 years ago I rescued a 2 1/2 year old labrador retriever. Her name was Kaci. She was the first thing that made me smile in 1 1/2 years.

She and I bonded immediately. She came into my life in the darkest of times and sometimes it wasn't fair to this creature, that I was so sad, so unavailable...she was always at my side. If I got up to leave the room, she would quickly find me.

When she was 5, she became blind but she adjusted to that as well.

She had suffered from dementia for the past 1 1/2 years so she has been a challenge at times....she slept a lot but continued to be at my feet (and under my feet) and perked up at meal times. She would stand in front of the pantry door until I gave her a treat.

This morning, I said my final goodbye to my girl. The last 24 hours, she deteriorated and it was time but I did not want it to be time.

This gentle creature...who I loved. Who gave me so much love, a huge emptiness resides inside. This is going to be hard for time to come.
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Re: Old Timer's Thread #6
#1: March 10, 2021, 02:06:01 PM
I am soo sorry. That is a whole body pain and brings on sobs. She came into your life and saved you at a low point and you stuck around to help here at her low point. The loyalty of a pooch is awe inspiring. I´ll be thinking of you as you deal with the loss of Kaci and the new routines. Hugs,
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#2: March 10, 2021, 02:28:17 PM
I'm sorry, the loss of a pet is so incredibly painful.  My thoughts are with you.
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#3: March 10, 2021, 02:31:16 PM
Biggest of big hugs, xyz. I had to make that decision last Friday for my shepherd/chow boy. We'd just celebrated his 15th birthday the Monday before, but I knew we were on borrowed time. He had a slew of issues we'd worked around for a long time, but he'd started having daily seizures, so there was no way to continue. I still have cats, but even they are a little beside themselves that the routine has changed and their best buddy isn't in his normal cuddle spots.  :'(  There is truly nothing like the love and loyalty of a dog.
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#4: March 10, 2021, 03:32:28 PM
I'm so sorry, xy. I know what it's like to lose a doggie we adore. I try to think of the positive, the fact you had your wonderful and loving Kaci at a time you desperately needed to be loved unconditionally. Big hugs x
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#5: March 10, 2021, 04:01:47 PM
Xyz, I can’t tell you how sorry I am. We lost our almost 19 year old kitty last year, about a month before BD, and it was heartbreaking even though we knew it was coming. Much as we love the remainder of the feline family, when you have a special bond like that, there is an emptiness that lingers. My heart goes out to you.
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#6: March 10, 2021, 04:23:28 PM
Dogs are taken from us far too soon. We can only hope we made their lives happy for the short time we were blessed with their presence. I know for sure you did, xyzcf. My condolences during an awful time.

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#7: March 10, 2021, 09:26:44 PM
Xy,
I’m so sorry for the loss of Kaci.
I’m grateful that she was there for you and I’m quite sure she felt very loved by you as well.

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#8: March 10, 2021, 10:19:28 PM
I'm so sorry, xy -- It's horrible.  I'm glad she was there for you, I'm glad you were there for her.  Losses like this when we've already had so much loss seem even harder to bear.  Thinking of you.
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#9: March 10, 2021, 10:57:50 PM
This is very sad news XY. I’m currently watching my old staffie girl roll around on the lawn. I was thinking just before I read your update, that it will be awful when it’s time did her to go. Sending big hugs.
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