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#10: November 25, 2021, 08:36:42 AM
UrsaMajor - I accept my punishment.  :P

However, I might have to argue the whole balance thing. Okay, maybe not balance, but the stove is remarkably level.  ::) Although that last less than one eight of an inch off on the front is driving me a bit nutty. I will resist fixing that on my own and have told myself that will be addressed when I repaint the cabinets in the kitchen. And, I will ask for help. The threat of a wet noodle lashing and being scolded by my doctor, not to mention bruises that I really am not liking, I hopefully have learned my lesson.
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#11: November 25, 2021, 08:21:45 PM
The threat of a wet noodle lashing and being scolded by my doctor, not to mention bruises that I really am not liking, I hopefully have learned my lesson.

Hi MourningDove,

The true threat is having much worse complications than just the bruising which require another surgery.  Please just take it easy and make sure your body heals after your hysterectomy.   Some things can be done with the assistance of others who can help.   

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#12: November 26, 2021, 02:56:55 AM
UrsaMajor - I accept my punishment.  :P
Love you too my dear  :-*  ;D ;D ;D

However, I might have to argue the whole balance thing. Okay, maybe not balance, but the stove is remarkably level.  ::) Although that last less than one eight of an inch off on the front is driving me a bit nutty. I will resist fixing that on my own and have told myself that will be addressed when I repaint the cabinets in the kitchen.





And, I will ask for help. The threat of a wet noodle lashing and being scolded by my doctor, not to mention bruises that I really am not liking, I hopefully have learned my lesson.

Ask BEFORE You start maybe?"

The threat of a wet noodle lashing and being scolded by my doctor, not to mention bruises that I really am not liking, I hopefully have learned my lesson.

Hi MourningDove,

The true threat is having much worse complications than just the bruising which require another surgery.  Please just take it easy and make sure your body heals after your hysterectomy.   Some things can be done with the assistance of others who can help.   

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Re: Every Storm Runs Out of Rain - 8
#13: November 26, 2021, 09:58:20 PM
HeavenlyFocus - Your concern is valid and I needed the gentle reminder. I know that the general rule of thumb for healing is 8-10 weeks, but this doctor had told me that any major surgery along these lines should really come with a warning that it takes your body nearly a year to be able to get back to full healing. He had reminded me the last time I saw him. And, I have tried to be mindful of that, except I realize part of my problem is not even stubbornness to ask for help, but truly a zone I get in - that is, I am so used to having to do things for myself the past few years, that I don't always think. I need to slow down and stop. I have no desire to be a superhero, nor is the idea of having some other surgery - especially because of my stupidity at all appealing.  ;)

UrsMajor - Hmmm- the wedge of pie from the middle. I mean, there is a certain logic to it, I suppose - if one doesn't like the ratio of crust to filling.  ::) Had I wanted to mess with FIL, that would have pushed him over the edge. Before MLC, Xh would have seen the humor in that.

I spent a good portion of today working at the gallery. It had been a good day, with several interesting visitors with one being an artist who came to paint in the gallery. Sometimes, artists will stop by and use the space to work and it allows customers to see a work in progress. This artist is an older woman in her eighties and I absolutely love spending time with her. She is a spitfire - a kindred spirit and today we were alone for a very long time. It allowed us to talk about things that we have never really touched on.

We began discussing our different heritages and it is clear we both enjoy learning about different cultures and about history. We had a delightful couple of hours where she painted and I was keeping busy moving some things about the gallery, as some pieces had sold from the current exhibit and I needed to fill the empty spaces with pieces that made sense with the current theme. It is not an easy task, if done properly. I put a great deal of thought into what went on those walls just as my coworker who worked with me has. We have both been so mindful of respecting the job we initially did and are trying to maintain that tone that was set. It was the type of task that didn't require a lot of concentration, so having a conversation was a nice addition to the day. She is one of those people that truly inspires me and embraces all of life's challenges with a certain gusto.

I left work and had to put air in my tires on the way home. The weather was getting nasty and D had called to tell me she had stopped at home, but she was going to go to her BF's as they both had exams to study for. S then called and said that Xh invited he and his GF down to the cottage for the evening. It was a last minute invite.

I had really not considered it was Black Friday today. The gallery is immune to that particular event and I have only ever gone out once to shop on that day and vowed to never go again. It was far from enjoyable for me. I prefer a pace along the lines of strolling down a village street and going into shops. I am not a fan of the mall nor fighting crowds in general, and especially for the holidays. I believe it is in part due to the memories I have of shopping with my F before Christmas and going from store to store in the village where I grew up.

Because I was going to be alone, I decided to take advantage of the solitude and go look at washing machines. I didn't want input from the kids, TBH or my parents. I had no intention of buying anything tonight. I was trying to wrap my head around all of it. And, I am usually one to research things before a big purchase. The very first washing machine I ever bought when we were in the house took me 9 months to decide on. I knew we would need a new machine eventually and it wasn't a necessity in the moment. I approached every big ticket item that way, as did Xh. We were well informed. That went out the door with the MLCer. And, I myself, have made some rather abrupt decisions since the divorce, although I don't regret them. My car was certainly something that I went in and just committed to, but as my F had pointed out, Xh and I had owned several cars from that manufacturer over the years, and the model I bought was just like the very first car I bought when I was out of college. I knew what I was getting into and I have purchased every car I have owned from that dealership.

The refrigerator was the next situation along those lines, but again, that was largely in part due to knowing I needed to order one ASAP and with the Covid delays, as the timing was just as everything was shutting down, I was on borrowed time. As it was, it took 3 months for the refrigerator to arrive.

But this? Even though it is something I need fairly soon, if I want to avoid going to the laundromat or doing my laundry at my parent's for any length of time, yet, I had plans to research it over the weekend. Instead, I found myself driving towards the home improvement store near the mall. As I drove, it still didn't click with me that it was Black Friday. It took someone else reminding me to make it click. It made me laugh a bit, but then I realized the sudden invite from Xh for S to come down was really awful. It made me pause and really wonder WTF? He couldn't invite S for Thanksgiving dinner nor of course D, but he is choosing to have S there tonight. It made no sense, TBH. And my only concern was how D might feel once she got wind of it. It is not something I can fix, and it is not my issue to be concerned about, except I would be the one reaping the "benefits" potentially in the form of D perhaps having a bit of a trigger.

I wandered about the appliance section and narrowed down some ideas. I couldn't find a single person to help me in that area, and walked around the corner to find a young man standing in the aisle. I recognized the name, as it is not a common name and he had helped my parents with a plumbing problem some time ago and they continually gush over how helpful he was. Right away he offered to help me. I know better than to assume a young man my S's age is not on top of things and no matter what the age, I sometimes ask something I know the answer to in order to assess whether I have someone who really knows what they are talking about or to see if they are going to try and dazzle me with some BS. This young man not only knew his stuff, when he didn't know something he not only admitted it, but found someone who would know the answer. He would apologize if he didn't have the answer right away and I laughed telling him I honestly respected that. I realized that frankly with the delays in deliveries and the fact that I have a card with them that would give me 0% financing for 24 months - that I really wasn't going to do much better. I can pay that off quickly, but it will take the pressure off a little having that buffer of time. It was all done in an hour and I drove home. I was in a bit of shock. It is not like me at all.

When I came home, I had told someone jokingly I thought I was going to cry. Thing is, I realized it wasn't really a joke. I make light of things like getting bruises and hurting myself, or stressful things like this major purchase, but it is to sometimes help me get through the shock and process. I was okay until I came into the kitchen and saw that my kids had behaved like teenagers today and neither had bothered to do their dishes or empty the dishwasher. I am not used to this behavior and I had spent yesterday working my butt off to not only clean the kitchen ahead of the cooking but stayed up to make sure the kitchen was clean this morning. To come home and see this was infuriating and defeating. And, neither kid was here for me to address it with. I considered leaving it until morning and going to bed, but I couldn't stand the idea of getting up and having to face the mess. I begrudgingly took care of it, full well ready to read them both the riot act later.

S came through the door a short time later. I didn't lose my temper, but told him I was incredibly upset and he apologized. I asked what the big event was at Xh's and he said it was odd. Xh just wanted to see him. S shrugged and said it was rather strange. We left it at that. Then out of S's mouth came a question that I know from the phrasing was from Xh. I could feel myself bristle. It was a question about what had happened with the job at the university. I bit my tongue and wanted to call Xh and rip his head off. He is poking and wants to rile me up - I know this side of him too well. I told S that I will gladly share with him, but it is not to be something I want to share with Xh, as there are more than enough rumors that have circulated around about me over the years thanks to Xh and company. S understood what I was getting at.

But, it was in this moment that the tears just came tumbling out. S was visibly upset - thinking it was his fault somehow. But it wasn't . I just told him I am tired. I am tired of being alone and making decisions about everything on my own. I am tired of being strong and independent when sometimes I don't want to be. I don't want to have a pity party and have anyone think I am a victim, but I am truly just wishing for a time when maybe, just maybe I can quit having to hold it all together and somehow not have to have this weight on me. S gave me a hug and said he never really realized how much I have had to carry on my shoulders since Xh left. I laughed and said that it isn't that I wasn't capable of buying a washing machine, and it honestly isn't about the washing machine so much as I am just tired of feeling like I am in attack mode and have to put out this or that fire. This whole year has been especially hard that way and I haven't been able to really just stop and catch my breath.

S was getting ready for bed and I said he was not to worry, as I told him I will figure it out, as I somehow always do. He smiled and said that was very true and he said it is something he truly admires about me - my resilience.

I am not feeling at all resilient right now.
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#14: November 27, 2021, 08:45:08 AM
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I just told him I am tired. I am tired of being alone and making decisions about everything on my own. I am tired of being strong and independent when sometimes I don't want to be. I don't want to have a pity party and have anyone think I am a victim, but I am truly just wishing for a time when maybe, just maybe I can quit having to hold it all together and somehow not have to have this weight on me. S gave me a hug and said he never really realized how much I have had to carry on my shoulders since Xh left. I laughed and said that it isn't that I wasn't capable of buying a washing machine, and it honestly isn't about the washing machine so much as I am just tired of feeling like I am in attack mode and have to put out this or that fire. This whole year has been especially hard that way and I haven't been able to really just stop and catch my breath
I so get this!!! Just had a similar convo with my S28. I just finally said. Hey, I have made a lot of excuses for your F behavior, but bottom line He treated me horribly. I have had a rough year. I am allowed to struggle. It’s been a trauma, so has it been rough? Yes, but I will make it through, but I am not covering for your F and his choices anymore and I would like the same compassion that is being shown to him and his crisis shown to me from the crisis he has put me in.  I have told both my adult children. This has been rough. I miss my beat friend and husband, but I will make it through. I just ask for little i sight or mention of him to help me get a little distance and healing happening on my end. Not forever, but for now.

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Re: Every Storm Runs Out of Rain - 8
#15: November 27, 2021, 06:34:55 PM
I filled in for one of my coworkers at the gallery for part of the day, as she had an emergency. It was incredibly busy and made the hours fly by. It was then that S called me and asked if I could stop at the home improvement store on the way home to pick up some supplies. I told him to send me a list and when I found the extensive list, I had to ask what was going on. He sent a smiley face back and said I will be very happy.

Three hundred dollars later and armed with new electrical wiring and GFCI outlets and switches among the list, I arrived home to find S had been busy working all day. He had installed the new light in the newly designated linen closet and was in the process of working on the bath vent system and the vanity light. The wallboard isn't up, but we had both agreed that it made sense to address some of these things and set them in place with the walls open and accessible. We understood the vanity and the vent will have to come back down, but we will have an easier time of resetting things. What I hadn't realized was S decided that he was going to completely gut the bathroom wiring and redo what Xh and FIL had done in the first place. Part of S's degree program is electrical and the students had the option to receive certification in some of those fields on top of the actual degree. S has pursued every one of those options and he is very fussy about following code and zoning laws.

S laughed when I opened the linen closet and turned the new light on. I was giddy. Little things amuse me.

S's good friend has been helping him all day and S's GF was making dinner. The dishes had all been done and the kitchen cleaned.

S and I chatted as he was working away. He then recounted part of yesterday's visit. Beyond asking how his visit was, I typically don't ask. S was annoyed about part of the visit, in that Xh is pushing for S to not go to work right away after college. He told S that he should take 6 months off and travel. S had a scowl on his face when he was telling me, saying how clueless his F is. Yah, wouldn't it be nice to just take off 6 months, but S admitted that he finds work motivating and frankly, he will have college loans to start paying. He has bills and responsibilities and wants to buy a house sometime in the near future. He has plans and he told Xh he can't afford to take that amount of time off. It was then Xh said he would give S money for his bills for a couple of months. S asked me why does it feel like Xh is trying to control things? He stopped paying for S's education and now wants to give S money. I didn't say what I was thinking, which is based on Xh's MLC history, he is not liking the fact that his ability to control S is now slipping away slowly.

Then came a nugget of information that made me sort of smile and laugh a bit. Perhaps a bit of MLC knowledge that I needed to hear. If only because it tells me that it was not just here where the MLC fixes have been occurring.

S mentioned he used Xh's shower while he was down at the cottage. Xh made some remark about how he cannot believe the bathroom was not done and S reminded him that the pandemic and other factors have made it a bit difficult to make happen - including the fact that I am doing so much of this on my own. I only have so many hours in the day and have had to wait on supplies. Just yesterday I was informed my window order has been pushed back yet a couple more weeks. It is looking like it will be here mid January - if I am lucky. S reminded Xh that I had moved the heat run and have had to repair the joists underneath where the tub used to be. It has not been a small job. S snarked that he told his F that I was doing it right this time.

So, when S was mentioning the shower he told me that Xh got so excited because he wanted to show S something. He had fixed the shower. I asked what was wrong with the shower. S started laughing.

When Xh and Schmoopie decided to embark on this cottage renovation, it was a huge job. Xh was there continually and the agreement he had with the OW was that he would do the work for free in exchange for rent. It wasn't a little job. It meant exterior walls and the like were torn down. Xh was all about the aesthetics as was OW. It is not like Xh of the past who would focus on both aesthetics, but was also concerned with structure and that it was done correctly the first time. Ah, but Xh was in love or lust and couldn't wait to move out of the house and get into his new digs. He spent hours tiling the bathroom and I have seen pictures over the years. The rooms that Xh actually finished are beautiful.

But it would seem the MLCer's rushed jobs are coming back to haunt him. He had not checked the water lines when he installed the shower. He installed them backwards to that the cold water and hot water were flipped. It has been a bit of a problem. Xh is bored with fixing his motorcycle again. Not surprised. He has a vintage camper he started renovating that OW thought he would enjoy working on. That hasn't held his attention, and he has moved on to yet another project and idea. This is not a shock to me, as that was going on just before MLC hit. Filling the void with things instead of dealing with issues. More material things and projects to avoid really digging deep.

The shower, in order to fix this mix up required Xh tearing out all of his tile work and redoing the entire shower stall again. He was quite pleased with himself S said. S just shook his head as he told me this story, and said he thought it is rather telling that the MLC fixes didn't just apply to here. Xh's lack of interest in this house had nothing to do with us or our house.

It is not something I am focusing on. It brought me some level of amusement, but it also just confirmed that MLC didn't magically stop when Xh moved into his fantasy life. Part of it makes me sad for him, but only in that had he actually done the work on himself, maybe he would have a relationship with the kids. What dawned on me when I was thinking about this though was that I didn't think it was sad that he couldn't have worked it out with me.

It had struck me earlier in the day when my M brought up something about my divorce and I told her that it doesn't hurt anymore, but I don't like focusing on it. I said it started to feel like every time someone brought it up it was like having buried someone and being asked if the body could be exhumed - over and over again and analyzed to see what went wrong. I told my M that I am done trying to figure it out in that sense. I grieved the marriage and who Xh was. I hold the happy years with some fondness and am not bitter, but I truly am happy focusing on what is possible now. I told her that as far as I was concerned my marriage and divorce has now been cremated and the ashes have been scattered.

I am still tired tonight, but the little bits of progress my S has made today have made me feel like I can tackle more tomorrow. I needed that bit of help and it was even better that I didn't even have to ask. It is the best type of present. I even joked as I unpacked the light fixtures for S and cut the boxes open. I pretended to be surprised and kept saying "oh, I shouldn't have. How thoughtful of me". S and his friend were laughing at my goofiness. They are so used to my antics. LOL
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#16: November 28, 2021, 11:45:58 AM
My giddiness hasn't subsided. It's amazing how one can appreciate the little things like lights back in the bathroom or in the linen closet.  ::) It prompted a conversation with the kids and I this morning about gratitude and taking things for granted.

S's friend "C" is looking at houses and filing paperwork for loan approval while he has been staying at my parent's house. He has a good opportunity possibly with a guy he works with who wants to move out of state and they are in the process of discussing the sale of the house. It is looking like a good solution if all falls in place. That said, "C" has still been looking at places to not only get a handle on what is available but knowing he may not be able to count on this all falling into place. One never knows.

The search online of houses in the various counties has been quite an eye opener for my kids. Yes, we have had a disaster and it is not how I would like to be living, but we have had to adjust to the various delays. My S mentioned that while we have projects to complete, we have heat, water and nice things. This came about when he and D found a picture of a house for sale that they recognized. They knew the kids that grew up there. Good kids and from a family that worked very hard. The house is for sale and it said it is a fixer upper. Now, they have encountered several of those in their many searches with "C". This is in a very nice neighborhood but it always needed repairs. The kids had very little, it was clear, but they never complained. When my kids saw the interior shots of the house they were in shock. This was not just living in a construction zone. It was evident that the family cared about what they had, as things were taken care of, but there was not a stove to cook on. Just a hot plate and those types of things that the kids see in dorms. Plastic covering all of the windows for warmth. It was frankly humbling.

This morning, we talked about gratitude. I am grateful I had the $300 to update the electrical. That is a huge amount of money for some people. I wasn't thrilled about spending money on that, but this morning I wasn't complaining. It made me feel very different as it did the kids. We have a great deal to be thankful for, in spite of the struggles that fell upon us since the whole MLC blow up.

It puts the kids and I back in a thought process about Christmas. Xh and I before MLC always were of the same mindset when it came to Christmas. We kept things to a dull roar. We didn't go into debt for the holidays, nor did we spend more just because we had more money. From a young age the kids were aware that other kids didn't have gifts. They willingly picked angels off of the various trees in the community and took great joy in buying for other kids. But, MLC changed that for a bit. Xh and I had a budget we would set, and then in MLC he would just come home with some gift that was ridiculously expensive. I now look back and realize it was him trying to buy the kids and cover the guilt - at least that is my suspicion.

S had worked late into the evening last night and I told him to leave the mess for me to deal with this morning. He hesitated, but then went off to bed. I found myself actually enjoying the cleanup, from the sheer standpoint is that it felt like progress in that room that has been stalled so many times this year. It somehow doesn't seem as overwhelming right now - that is, I can at least feel like the completion may be within reach.

Even the washing machine purchase is no longer stressing me out. I am focusing on positives. When my sister told me two of her friends had to buy new washing machines and they are not arriving for 3 months, I am glad I made the decision I did. My stress was about having to make this large purchase on what felt like a whim. I like being spontaneous, but not with my money as such - at least when it comes to that type of commitment. I am now comfortable with the decision I made and let go with a good cry the other night.

My work schedule is very light over the next few weeks. I literally found out that I am not on the schedule after the 17th because of how the holidays fall. I have a small commission to finish up, but it gives me a great deal of flexibility until the first of the year.

Maybe that balance I so desperately need will be a bit more attainable, at least for a little while.  ;)
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#17: November 29, 2021, 05:46:49 AM


<snort>

It IS kind of funny how the little things can bring so much pleasure...

As for xH and his "suggestion," I REALLY hope that S doesn't actually BELIEVE that xH will give him money... or that there will be no strings attached... But S has been down this road with xH before with the road trips, etc...  ::)  Seems xH has a VERY short memory that he seems to have forgotten that a few months ago he was busy trying to hose S over and he expects that everything just magically got swept under the MLC Carpet....
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Re: Every Storm Runs Out of Rain - 8
#18: November 29, 2021, 01:02:44 PM
UrsaMajor - That is how I feel - LOL. It takes so little to make me happy - honestly.

As for Xh's latest "scheme" - and, I am sorry, that is my now very perhaps jaded take - S is not biting. He has planned on taking a couple of weeks off and starting a job after the new year, but he knows that taking 6 months off is not really what he wants to do. He likes work and is part of the reason he wanted to finish this semester was because graduating in December gives him a jump on the others who have to wait until May, when every other kid graduates. Besides, S has indicated he has Xh's number.

I told my sister about the offer from Xh and her first response was "what is in it for Xh"? Uh huh. I guess I am not the only one who has become suspicious of the MLCer's motives. Maybe it is just some dream of reliving his own after college experience. Oh, wait - right that was traveling for a month with me around Europe - LOL.  ::)

I know OW had convinced Xh that traveling the world for several months was a great idea. Yah - if you have the means to do so or IDK - some sort of plan.

It is not my concern in terms of what Xh decides to do, unless it somehow affects me. My initial thought was, "how nice, but has anyone considered that S still lives with me and I am currently paying for things (aside from car and insurance payments - that I agreed I would cover while he was in school. Things like health insurance and phone, etc, and IDK S going off and traveling on my dime for 6 months when I haven't had a vacation in 8 years might make me really pretty grouchy. LOL. S was  the first to point out that he wondered if that offer from Xh to pay S's bills included those bills.  ::)

The bigger thorn in my side is how that just cuts D again. She said it doesn't bother her, but S and I both know that it is painful. Xh quit paying for S's education and hasn't helped D, fine - but now he wants to pay for S to go play for 6 months. D snarked that it probably meant that S is going to be Xh's chauffeur on some cross country trip again.

I am not upset about it. It is going to play out how it is going to play out. S has to figure this one out. He knows my feelings without me saying a thing. When he told me he was thinking of taking a couple of weeks off I didn't get upset. He has earned some time off and if he can afford to go, great. I told him I would give him some money to do so instead of a gift to be unwrapped at Christmas if that was his choice. I am not going to prevent him from traveling just because I can't right now. But, 6 months? Better start saving, kid. LOL

The puppy came back last night. The kids were laughing when she came charging into the house searching for me. She curled up next to me on the couch right away and has been my shadow all day long. S had purchased a new training collar for her. She understands the beep and I am grateful for that. The fresh snow and the ability to run around the orchard wore her out and she has been sleeping near my all day long. She was lying in the sunshine streaming through the windows in the bathroom as I worked on built in cabinet framing.

Progress - slowly but surely.  :)
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#19: November 30, 2021, 04:02:05 AM
D snarked that it probably meant that S is going to be Xh's chauffeur on some cross country trip again.

That was EXACTLY what my first thought was too.... and, since xH was "paying S's Bills," S could pay the gas for the trip too, right?


I'd love to have some snow for the doggo to run around in instead of the cold, grey, rainy mud that we have...
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