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#130: September 20, 2024, 05:28:42 PM
In the last 36 hours, I’ve had a slew of emails come in addressed to my long vanished ex.  A sports betting newsletter, some program benefit emails, a Genesis customer survey…not sure what’s up but my sympathetic nervous system doesn’t love this. Probably nothing but guess I have to add “check my credit report” to my already way overflowing plate.

Reminder to all LBS that after many years and many tax returns together, your ex will always have access to your social security number. 🤬
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#131: July 19, 2026, 07:41:56 PM
Been a very long time since I thought about this thread. I got an email recently, it was very cryptic and not signed and I would’ve been really confused if not for the fact that it came from the email address with the full name (first, middle, maiden and married)of my former husband‘s partner. And all the email said was “ I know you saw him.” Oookkkayyy???? I most certainly have not. And don’t wish to. Literally no idea what it means.
I chalk it up to just bat $h!te crazy though I do admit, I did have a near panic attack at first just because she’s connected to him and, well, he’s him. And he’s not a good person. And I am a good person, and I deserve to be safe, among other things.
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The artist is the child who survived. ~ Ursula K. Le Guin

The desire to be loved is the last illusion. Give it up and you shall be free. ~ Margaret Atwood

The degree to which a person can grow is directly proportional to the amount of truth they can accept about themselves without running away.

You think *your* pain and *your* heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but then you read. ~ James Baldwin
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#132: July 29, 2026, 09:15:13 PM
Sounds like she might be losing it. Rightfully so. I bet that was a little jarring. My
Phone rang in December and it was my ex MIL. I stared at it in shock and then it disconnected. I decided that she hit the wrong Susan. My ex Husbands new wife goes by Susana. I’m sure she was calling for cmas ideas as that is what she did with me. I blocked her. Never want to see that again. Lol
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There is almost something harder about someone being alive and having to lose what you believed to be true of them than someone actually dying.

Married July 1991
Jan 2018 BD1 moved out I filed for Div/ H stopped it
Oct 2018 moved back
Oct 2020 BD2
Feb 2021 Div-29 1/2 years
July 2021 Married OW
Feb 2022  XH fired
June 2022 XH bring OW to meet family due to xMIL illness
May 2023 went NC after telling XH we could not be friends
Aug 2023 XH moves w/o OWife
May 2024 xMIL visits XH/OW in their new home
Aug 2024 cut relations w/XH fam.
Dec 2025 granddaughter born( XH not told)
                   XH did not send his kids and grandson bday or xmas gift this year.
May 2026 grandson due ( XH not told) born April 27th
Mar 2026. XH loses second job
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#133: Today at 06:35:24 PM
Wow, he must be up to some sort of shenanigans with another woman and she's assuming that is you?  Crazy.

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