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#10: May 31, 2022, 05:26:52 PM
Thanks, MadLuv!!!!
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Everything has a beginning and an end. Life is just a cycle of starts and stops. They're ends we don't desire, but they're inevitable and we have to face them. That's what being human is all about.  -Jet Black, Cowboy Bebop
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#11: May 31, 2022, 05:31:18 PM
Oh JB  :'(

Sorry to hear today was the day.
Really feel for you buddy.

I hope it gets easier..... soon.

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#12: June 01, 2022, 01:17:35 AM
I’m sorry too, JB.
No matter how your perspective evolves with time/events or how much better life gets from here (and it will if only bc divorce is a draining process), this wasn’t your choice or where you thought your marriage or old life  would end up. And that always feels a bit sad perhaps, even if everything else in life is going ok.
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H diagnosed with severe depression Oct 15. BD May 16. OW since April 16, maybe earlier. Silent vanisher mostly.
Divorced April 18. XH married ow 6 weeks later.


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#13: June 01, 2022, 01:30:15 AM
I remember that day (August 31, 2019) very well myself.

xW was as happy as a clam and all smiles....

It took me a while (of course, we had already been separated 3 years prior and the process had taken 2 years due to her not providing the needed paperwork so I wasn't surprised.

This is just one more thing to add to the heaping plate of poop that is MLC. 

And "Congratulations?" WTF? "Bittersweet?" Seriously?  Seems that the paralegal needs a bit of ... well, let's just say personal experience might not be amiss to allow them to acquire some empathy....  ::)
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House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Divorce final 30 August 2019
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#14: June 05, 2022, 07:52:20 AM
For today's occasional installment of inspirational songs, I bring you the Johnny Adams rendition of "There Is Always One More Time."

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tSqvsCmvB1A

(Not from the gospel show, this was used in the movie Bowfinger.)
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#15: June 05, 2022, 02:14:47 PM
That’s a good one and never had heard it!!
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Married July 1991
Jan 2018 BD1 moved out I filed for Div/ H stopped it
Oct 2018 moved back
Oct 2020 BD2
Feb 2021 Div-29 1/2 years
July 2021 Married OW
Feb 2022  XH fired
June 2022 XH bring OW to meet family due to xMIL illness
May 2023 went NC after telling XH we could not be friends
Aug 2023 XH moves w/o OWife
May 2024 xMIL visits XH/OW in their new home
Aug 2024 cut relations w/XH fam.
Dec 2024 D33 expecting baby ( XH not told)
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#16: June 07, 2022, 09:25:49 PM
Consequences... Just got a text from ex-wife saying she just realized that her car insurance card expired, asking if she's covered until the end of the month or if she needs to get insurance now. I just told her she'd need new insurance now, didn't bother telling her that I took her off as soon as the decree came out from the court. (I'm not even sure that insurance was valid after she changed her address to a different state.)

I also happened to look at my email, and saw a password reset request for my car insurance account. Coincidence? I think not.
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#17: June 07, 2022, 09:33:58 PM
Yes JB.  Amazing when they realize there are consequences.  She’ll have to figure things out on her own.

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#18: June 07, 2022, 10:05:36 PM
HAHAHAHAHAH..... sorry JB, I couldn't contain myself  ;)

Funny how thoughts and reality creep in when they least expect it.
Well, some adulting will have to take place won't it?

It's a good thing, but a little funny  ;D

You handled that so good!!

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#19: June 08, 2022, 12:54:33 AM
Quote from: JohnnyBravo on June 07, 2022, 09:25:49 PM
Consequences... Just got a text from ex-wife saying she just realized that her car insurance card expired, asking if she's covered until the end of the month or if she needs to get insurance now. I just told her she'd need new insurance now, didn't bother telling her that I took her off as soon as the decree came out from the court. (I'm not even sure that insurance was valid after she changed her address to a different state.)

I also happened to look at my email, and saw a password reset request for my car insurance account. Coincidence? I think not.

Darn those pesky consequences.... Wait until she finds out what new insurance is going to cost he...

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Me - 61, xW - 54
Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation & 21 at D-Day
S - 17, D - 13
1 Dog
BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Divorce final 30 August 2019
Moved on in life
Survival Instructions for Newbies
Site Map
 
A "friend" will not "stand by you" no matter what you do. That is NOT a friend. That is an enabler. That is an accomplice.
A REAL friend will sit you down and tell you to your face to stop being a firetrucking idiot before you ruin your life and the lives of those around you.
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