[UrsaMajor]

Time to hammer...

[MadLuv]

Home improvement projects that I used to go non stop, now have to be done in bits here and there. So, I hear ya!!!  Hey, I’m a texan!!!  Glad to see your enjoying some travels

[JohnnyBravo]

Hey, I’m a texan!!!  Glad to see your enjoying some travels

I probably get along better with most Texans than most New Mexicans...

Well, well, well... Had my weekly call with my stepmom and sister this morning, and my stepmom commented that she hadn't seen my ex-wife post anything on Facebook in a long time. (I didn't think they were still connected as friends, so I don't think she would see anything normally.) This afternoon I get a screenshot from my stepmom, showing posts from my ex that she's moved back to her hometown (where we met and got married) and got her business license to resume working there.

I didn't really need to see that, but... (My stepmom probably forgot the "don't keep me posted" memo. ) Not a big surprise, but I guess she didn't make all of the friends or find the adventures she expected on the east coast. I wonder if her sister moved back as well, since her hometown has become a very expensive place to live. Her sister could have finally retired, but I imagine she would have gotten tired of moving all over the place at my ex-wife's behest.

This is sooner than I expected; based on our ten years, ex-wife seemed to get bored of things at the five year mark. She was reeeeeeally eager to leave the northwest when we moved here; in particular she was tired of her old friends not reaching out/setting up events/wanting to hear her roller derby stories any more. I guess she can get another year of exciting catching up with them, and then go back to being ignored.  Oddly, a week or two ago I received a password reset code email for my FB account. I think that's her trying to see what I'm up to, based on previous similar events. She never did untag me from our photos together.

I'm not sure why this feels unsettling, although I know a lot of you out there get a little off-kilter from later contacts, etc. I still miss her, but I don't think I could ever trust her again, and who knows what she's been up to in the meantime. There were red flags when we were dating that I let slide, but hindsight is 20:20.

Back to busy projects at work and around the house. Hopefully I can find a break long enough to take a little vacation; I've got an in-state motorcycle trip planned out, and got myself a SPOT Tracker so I feel better about venturing off into remote areas by myself. I'm not sure when I'm going to have time to go camping, either; it's been too hot this summer.

I hope you're all doing well!

JB

[JohnnyBravo]

p.s. just to clarify, I'm not wishing hard times for my ex... I'm glad she's moving back to a familiar place where she's comfortable, but I'm not sure it's going to be the miracle cure. The place has changed significantly in recent years (one of the reasons she was originally happy to leave), and we all change too. If she hasn't resolved any of her unhappiness, "wherever you go, there you are."

[FaithWalker]

p.s. just to clarify, I'm not wishing hard times for my ex... I'm glad she's moving back to a familiar place where she's comfortable, but I'm not sure it's going to be the miracle cure. The place has changed significantly in recent years (one of the reasons she was originally happy to leave), and we all change too. If she hasn't resolved any of her unhappiness, "wherever you go, there you are."

Yes if they don't do the deep work and are just looking for a miracle cure a change of location means nothing in the vast scheme of things.  Clint Black and co-writer Hayden Nicholas definitely got it right.

[JohnnyBravo]

Sitting here with a power outage and not tired enough to go to bed (on the plus side I haven't seen a thunderstorm this awesome in a while), and realized the moderators deserve a shout out for keeping things running on the board. Reopening old threads, removing legal names, etc. Thank you all!

And Faith, you pulled the scab off of one of my great musical regrets: the year we moved here, Clint Black did a free show at the city July 4th celebration, and I didn't go see it!    (The other regret was not buying one of the last tickets to see Steve Martin play banjo in a show with Edie Brickell at Seattle Symphony Hall.)

Hugs to all who are struggling.

JB

[MadLuv]

Only on here once and a while, but had to comment on the 5 year boredom. That seems to be another common thing amongst these MLCers. Boredom, need for change, outside validation and so on and so on.  Kudos to you for wishing her the best. I don’t think I feel that way anymore, but my X seems to be an extreme case with his actions that I think a little karma would do him good. Hahah

Funny how your step mom watches a little. I’m sure if my mom was a live she would do the same.

Man, the Steve Martin would have been cool!!!!

[FaithWalker]

And Faith, you pulled the scab off of one of my great musical regrets: the year we moved here, Clint Black did a free show at the city July 4th celebration, and I didn't go see it!    (The other regret was not buying one of the last tickets to see Steve Martin play banjo in a show with Edie Brickell at Seattle Symphony Hall.)

oooh sorry to reopen a wound

That is a bummer that you missed out on a free Clint Black show!