[Nas]

https://www.ukessays.com/essays/psychology/men-and-midlife-crisis-coping-with-trauma-causes-and-treatment-psychology-essay.php

“ Researchers and psychologists also argue that traumatic experiences at childhood are likely to have a severe-long-life effect that can transit to adulthood. Children who were traumatized at early ages view the world as unfriendly, unsecure, dangerous and frightening (Eth, 1994; Terr, 1991). If this experience is not resolved, it transits to adulthood, multiplying and setting the conditions for future trauma. This can precipitate the experiences of a mid-life-crisis.”

🎶  https://youtu.be/MhEm4S-4v_U  🎶
 Someone take these dreams away
That point me to another day

[WHY]

This is a good read:

https://www.resources.soundstrue.com/transcript/underneath-the-midlife-crisis/

[xyzcf]

This article reaffirmed to me that their crisis was inevitable. It had little to do with me. It resulted from they was they were formed...even with fantastic parenting, issues arise that are not dealt with. Thanks for sharing

[Nas]

https://psychcentral.com/health/self-concept

“ the three core parts of self-concept are:

Ideal self: your vision and ambitions of who you want to be
Real self (self-image): how you currently see and perceive yourself
Self-esteem: how much worth and value you believe you have.

If your ideal self did not match the reality of your real self, he suggested your self-concept was “incongruent,” and your self-esteem was likely to be negatively affected.”


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Take it to the bridge
throw it overboard
See if it can swim
back  up to the shore…

[Nas]

https://hbr.org/2022/01/when-a-major-life-change-upends-your-sense-of-self

“Part of what makes identity paralysis so difficult to overcome is that it isn’t just your idea of who you are that gets stuck in the past. It can also cause you to get stuck in the emotions associated with that past. Whether you’re ashamed of a prior role or decision, angry about the circumstances that led to your current situation, or feeling hopeless, scared, or any other challenging negative emotion, getting stuck in these feelings can block your transition (even if you are ready for it cognitively).”

🎶 https://youtu.be/QeZkLV3ZjeI
When love breaks down
The lies we tell,
They only serve to fool ourselves,
When love breaks down
The things you do
To stop the truth from hurting you…

[MadLuv]

https://www.healthcentral.com/article/autism-spectrum-disorders-raise-depression-risk

Good article on is it Depression and or Manipulation

[Nas]

Book rec:

https://www.amazon.com/No-Bad-Parts-Restoring-Wholeness-ebook/dp/B096NHMV2R

I recommend also downloading the audiobook as it has helpful exercises guided by the author between chapters.

[Nas]

https://healingwellcounseling.com/blog/trauma-survivors-why-relaxation-techniques-dont-work-and-what-to-do-instead/

For the longest time, the inability to find comfort in “relaxation techniques” reinforced the idea that there was something “wrong“ with me. I could not relax. Meditation was too still, yoga was too slow. I felt waves of panic during breathing exercises, and the weighted blankets that everyone raves about caused me to feel instantly trapped and unsafe.
I even experienced some similar feelings in self-care situation. Sitting in a hair stylist’s chair for so long, knowing I was unable to walk out at any moment because my hair was covered in dye, made me anxious.
If you’re experiencing anxiety and trying to calm yourself but finding it more distressful, don’t get discouraged. These are some alternative techniques that *might* help:

https://healingwellcounseling.com/blog/grounding-techniques/


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[Treasur]

I was the same, Nas. Silence, stillness was too hard for quite a few years. Walking helped.

[KayDee]

Wow, talk about good timing, I just found out I have high (low end of high) blood pressure. Given that I have a low BMI, eat healthily, exercise regularly and don't smoke AND I've never had high BP before, I suspect anxiety. I too find that the breathing techniques just make me more conscious of trying not to be anxious (I need to get a grip  ). Yes, I agree with Treasur about walking and also yoga is great to focus on your body and just be present. I find the yoga community an additional bonus, being in a supportive and trusting environment is really life affirming.