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#40: May 29, 2024, 01:22:03 AM
Congrats. That is the most awesome thing.

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#41: June 02, 2024, 05:21:40 PM
Congrats on the happy baby news!  Sounds like you have quite a lot to look forward to this next year between trips and babies. 
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#42: August 03, 2024, 07:36:44 PM
Congrats Grandpa Ready!  Greece is on my bucket list, but next up is London next month.  I'm super excited!
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#43: December 30, 2024, 01:18:17 PM
Hello,

I am sitting in my hotel room with my wife in Frisco with one more day before I fly back to CA tomorrow morning. We have been here for one week and I have had a great time with my parents and my brothers as well. My youngest brother came up and smoked some ribs for everyone. The only downside has been that my wife has had a very bad cold and has spent most of the week staying at the hotel as not to get anyone sick.

Of course I am excited to get back home as I am now looking at pictures of my first grandbaby! Both the baby and mom are doing fine and I am so happy for my daughter. She is going to be a terrific mom and with her husband, they will have a wonderful family.

As for all my friends on the forum. I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas and I am wishing all of you to have joy in the upcoming year.

Please be good to yourselves and know how much I care for all of you!

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#44: December 30, 2024, 05:48:22 PM
I just signed on and see your wonderful news!!!

Congratulations Grandpa!

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#45: December 30, 2024, 06:30:09 PM
Such good news Ready! You will be an absolutely wonderful grandfather...so much joy! Congratulations!

Hope for the best New Year's ever...for all of us!
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#46: December 31, 2024, 03:13:13 AM
Love this news Ready congratulations!! You’re going to be an awesome grandfather, no doubt about it!
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#47: January 01, 2025, 04:31:17 PM
Congrats, Ready!  Wonderful news about the newest addition to your family!
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#48: January 01, 2025, 05:19:34 PM
Congratulations on the baby. My daughter just had my granddaughter also. I saw you put you were in Frisco. Was the in Texas? If it was you were so close to my location. Hope you got home safe and glad to hear things are still moving forward.
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#49: May 13, 2025, 10:28:57 AM
Hello,

It's been a while so a few personal updates. Grandbaby is doing great and is just a doll. She is now four and half months old and has a personality coming out. We call her angry baby as even at her small state, she yells at her father when she doesn't get her way! But she is really calm.

However she spent the day at my house and charmed everyone-so maybe she isn't so angry after all. The reason why she was at my house was I had my 60th birthday party. My wife really went out of her way to make it special. We had a bartender, lots of food, friends and family. Both my daughters were there and I had a blast. There was even a magician and he was fantastic. Most of all, I was so impressed with my wife. She really put a lot of effort in to my party and it was very special. I had never had such an event done for me before and it really touched my heart.

On other fronts, not such good news. My mother fell and broke her hip. She had hip replacement and was in skilled nursing after rehab. She was about to be discharged, but they came in and found her sitting on the floor. She apparently fractured her ankle. The determined it was a not displaced so they will not have to do surgery, but she has to return back to skilled nursing. My dad has had a bad cold and hasn't even seen her for two weeks. He is doing okay, but I worry about him as well.

My younger brother has had ups and downs. I did not post this, but he lost his wife to cancer last year. She was diagnosed in December with lung cancer  (never smoked a day in her life) and was gone in February. He has been all over the place since then. They had been married for thirty years and he has his good days and his bad days which is expected. I suggested counseling and he said he would look into it. I call him every week to check on him as I know that when you first have a loss, everyone is there, but within a few weeks, they leave so I have been intentional by keeping in touch and giving him a sounding board.

My wife and I have had our travels as well. We went to Greece in March. We were in Athens, then Santorini, and then Crete. I loved Athens for the Acropolis, Santorini was just beautiful, but Crete was amazing. I loved the food and the history. If I went back, I would just go to Crete for ten days and explore the North side as well as the South side.

We just got back from Wichita, KS for a wedding and had a blast. Good food and very friendly people. Learned the word Doo Dah Day which means have a chilled relaxed, laid back, and fun day which really describes the city folk. We may go back next September.

I will be back in Texas in late June and July so I can see my parents. I am going to stay home for Christmas so I can help grandbaby celebrate her first birthday.

Just like life, I move forward and deal with the ups and downs of life. However, I can say I truly feel I am in the right place.

Have an awesome day,

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