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#80: April 02, 2024, 04:40:09 PM
You’re one of the strongest women I’ve ever met TS.  Onward!
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#81: April 02, 2024, 06:03:21 PM
Thank you  TS for your update and willingness to share your journey.

Wishing you and your husband the opportunity to grow and find one another again .
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#82: April 03, 2024, 12:38:33 AM
Thanks for the update TS.....

What a "long strange trip it has been" eh?
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Me - 60, xW - 54
Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation & 21 at D-Day
S - 16, D - 12
1 Dog
BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Divorce final 30 August 2019
Moved on in life

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Re: MLC ShmemLC
#83: April 03, 2024, 04:22:03 PM
Hey,TS, great update and good advice to the newbies, especially about protecting themselves financially and emotionally.  These MLC'ERS  really do a number on themselves and everyone unfortunate enough to get in their way.

So glad for H seems to have come to his senses, and that things are going well with your reconciliation.  You and I are on opposite sides of the reconciliation coin, but our stories are proof that happy endings can come from either side, and that it is as many say, a sample of one of one 😊
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#84: April 04, 2024, 01:27:10 AM
Good update TS! I'm so happy for you that your H found the way back home quickly enough, but I can imagine it's still a hard pad to walk especially if he has difficulty talking about everything that has happend. Maybe that comes further on in the reconcilliation.. don't let him sweep things under the rug. That's probably a big foundation under everything that has happened, he needs to learn to face difficult things and communicate. It's nice to hear that his behaviour towards you has love and kindness in it!

I agree with BB, totally on a different path than you but it's still good for newbies to see that there are different paths towards happiness and healing.

In my situation the destruction my xH created is too much to overcome for me..
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Together for 15 years, married for 4 years
H: 33, me: 33, D: 1,5
BD: april '22 (EA + 'I want to live alone, have no responsibilities')
Left home: june '22
Divorce final: october '22

“They didn’t cheat because of who you are. They chose to cheat because of who they’re not.” ~ Charles J. Orlando

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#85: April 04, 2024, 10:03:43 AM
Wow, read your update and your story and the one sided Limerance and all matches alot of mine, except my XH went further in. Just goes to show you also that stories can be similar and the MLCer damage, avoidance and strength also determines their journey.  So happy for you.  Wishing you continued forward moving progress and hopeYou can continue to update when you have the time.
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Married July 1991
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