[MadLuv]

I just think some love deeper and are more acceptable to faults in others. Have better communication skills and most of don’t need that high of a new car, new person, big trip…..that’s mature love and relationships. To be grateful with where you are. Who you are with. I don’t think anyone in a marriage doesn’t at times look at their spouse and think “ who are they?” There are pikes and valleys. Comfortability with time and I think MLCers get bored. Harbor resentments. Chase those high school
Romance feelings. They aren’t ever happy or satisfied. When I asked my XH a year after he left if he was happy he stated “ I hate when you ask me that” I think that says it all. They are never truly happy.  I also think it reverses. They first find the exit as relief when we are in shambles, but then we grow and learn and survive and that’s when all their pushed aside emotions and escapes stop working. We pay at the beginning. Theirs is delayed. That’s how I feel now.

[Dragonfly33]

Update

So, I just saw a picture of my ex with another young woman from my home country. I‘m emphasizing this because when he BDed me, he told me the reason why the marriage failed was because we had two different cultures. So much about culture, now he‘s unto the next girlfriend who comes from where I come from. That‘s after I guess he broke up with the sporty one and from his pattern I guess he cheated on that one with this new girl. And the journey continues. To be honest, I don‘t think the case with my ex was just Mlc, I am almost convinced he‘s just a habitual cheater and a liar. And as painful and horrifying what I experienced in 2019, in hindsight I‘m glad I‘m out of that marriage. I think it was hard for me to process it because I saw him they way I wanted to see him and turned a blind eye on how he actually mentally and emotionally abused me. I am glad I am out of that toxic dynamic. That doesn‘t mean I don‘t love my xh, I think I still do because after all we also shared some good moments. But now I can safely say , even if I‘m not in a relationship, I will never come back to that person again. I firmly closed that door because I realized, this person is nor capable of a lasting relationship and of being a loyal and respectful partner. He will always be seeking for validation from another woman and he will always be seeking for novelty and the adrenaline it gives him. And for those who are new in this please focus on your life and what is front of you. Build yourself and do not waste your time waiting for a big return. If they return and you are willing to accept, then it‘s a double win for you as you have become a better person and you have your partner back. If they don‘t, you still win because you have become a better version of yourself. Keep taking that step forward in front of you even if it‘s scary. You will have a different satisfaction of yourself once you find your authentic self again detached from the MLC monkey show.  I wish everyone here a true healing and a peaceful life away from the MLC $h!teshow. It’s my 7th year now since MLC and I feel that the distance between me and my ex has reached a point of no return. No more hopes, no more longing. I still remember good and fun memories but I don’t wish to be back with him anymore and I don’t hate him anymore. I finally opened my eyes and see him for what he truly is and I don’t want such person in my life.