[JohnnyBravo]

This randomly popped up in my YouTube feed this morning, about "let go or be dragged." (It looks like there are a lot of videos about that concept, but I couldn't resist someone named The Functional Melancholic.) He puts a lot of different angles into 34 minutes, but the idea that people get stuck in the Bargaining phase struck me as the most interesting.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sAKG_LFOT1E

[Nas]

I like this take:
https://psyche.co/ideas/true-resilience-is-not-about-bouncing-back

Bold emphasis is mine:
“I find resilience talk cowardly. It makes pain tidy. It replaces responsibility with admiration. Praising endurance is easier than changing conditions…
The language we use matters. When we tell people to be resilient, we ask them to stay the same. When we talk about recovery, we invite change. One hides pain; the other honours it.…”

🎵 https://youtu.be/NRI5fDAtw5s?si=BhxwqM4tJqnuF4Po

[xyzcf]

This book is getting a lot of press:

Strangers: A Memoir of Marriage
Book by Belle Burden

It's as though the idea that a spouse leaves a good marriage and it is a complete surprise to the LBSer is something new...We all could have written this book, and it is uncanny, the "similarities"

Although I have not read it and I am not sure I will..I think from the little I know, it reaffirms that this happens and it truly has nothing to do with us.

Here is Oprah's interview with the author:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ctXbYb8OdEk