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#130: December 29, 2024, 12:45:49 PM
I spend the holidays alone  and at year 3 of doing it I am fine with it. I do think that learning to be alone and ok is a very good place to get. When I do things with others now it is intentional. I want to enjoy my interactions and I want to also learn to enjoy my time alone. This whole experience alters so many things internally and externally, but I do think we all become much more introspective and with that better to ourselves and to others.

Hope you have a great year ahead
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Married July 1991
Jan 2018 BD1 moved out I filed for Div/ H stopped it
Oct 2018 moved back
Oct 2020 BD2
Feb 2021 Div-29 1/2 years
July 2021 Married OW
Feb 2022  XH fired
June 2022 XH bring OW to meet family due to xMIL illness
May 2023 went NC after telling XH we could not be friends
Aug 2023 XH moves w/o OWife
May 2024 xMIL visits XH/OW in their new home
Aug 2024 cut relations w/XH fam.
Dec 2024 D33 expecting baby ( XH not told)
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#131: December 31, 2024, 09:34:04 PM
Happy holidays and new year! It was my first go of the holidays alone- glad to hear the second (and the third for you, MadLuv!) was a much better and enjoyable one!
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#132: January 01, 2025, 07:10:16 AM
Hello F and M

Happy New Year!!! Thank you for your updates and kind consideration. You are never truly alone:)
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#133: January 01, 2025, 09:38:17 AM
Hello,

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I spend the holidays alone  and at year 3 of doing it I am fine with it. I do think that learning to be alone and ok is a very good place to get. When I do things with others now it is intentional. I want to enjoy my interactions and I want to also learn to enjoy my time alone. This whole experience alters so many things internally and externally, but I do think we all become much more introspective and with that better to ourselves and to others.

This is where you are fine with who you are and learning to accept who you are as a person. I have gone back and seen the personal growth you have made since bomb drop. Particularly, I like the fact that you want to enjoy your interactions. In my opinion, quality is always better than quantity.

From my perspective and very limited, if you are better to yourself, then it in turn builds the capacity to be better for others.

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Took up yoga, joined the YMCA, and volunteer at the local farmer's market every Saturday morning. Applied to be an evening mentor to adult ESL students. My alcohol consumption has decreased significantly. Thanksgiving is not nearly as sad as last year. I will still be alone, but I practice gratitude everyday, and there is so much to be grateful for. So it comes down to a family dinner I will miss. But there will be plenty in the future, so its ok.

This is all so good and it truly reflects that you are moving forward. Keep writing and making positive affirmations that define you. Just as you gave to your marriage, you are still giving to others. These are such healthy actions that build you as a person.

Keep going strong and I truly believe that in the upcoming year, you are going to continue your great growth.

Have a great day,

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