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#10: October 19, 2024, 05:34:45 PM
Is that a form of parental alienation?
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#11: October 20, 2024, 04:28:44 AM
It is an attempt to.

It is not working.
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#12: October 21, 2024, 01:49:18 PM
That must feel horrible within. I wish you strength to endure this stage.

Since she is playing dirty now, you can likely expect more of the same in the future. Right now time is your ally, use it wisely and focus on things that should benefit you in hearing.

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Re: Help Please 5
#13: October 22, 2024, 04:47:10 AM
Is that a form of parental alienation?

Yes it is and should be documented, especially the coercion part and the not allowing the girls to talk to their father via means of fear. That will NOT go over well in court.....
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#14: October 22, 2024, 05:08:17 AM
Thoughts and prayers your way, both with the trial and the heart condition.
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#15: November 05, 2024, 11:18:48 PM
So we were in Court Monday with my application to get more time with the girls. I have basically sought equal time.

She has filed a response seeking that my time gets reduced from 5 days to 3 days. There is no particular basis other than there was conflict between us in the early days. That is true when I was in shock and it was merely text messages.

I have been spared allegations of domestic violence which I know others have had to endure. That never happened but I know it often is raised.

I politely sent an email suggesting that the ongoing parenting battle would damage both of us and offered to settle for 6 days.


I did not get a rejection but I simply got asked for more space and it was suggested I had not given her space. It has been 2.5 years and I have barely seen her. It is just so sad. She is no happier and has blown up her life for no purpose.


I am confident we will get there in the end. I know I did the right thing but it is just so frustrating.
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#16: November 07, 2024, 04:05:00 PM
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So very frustrating! Some people never see their kids, they walk out of their lives and don’t look back. You are trying to be a good parent and fight to see your kids and your running into such resistance, it’s so unfair and unnecessary, thoughts and prayers  your way.
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#17: November 07, 2024, 07:21:59 PM
Thanks Baxter,

Girls are back with me. They are happy and positive.

They will talk to the Court Psychologist and I think things are better than when they spoke last time. Last time they said equal time. They are more likely to say that than before.

They are just in a terrible spot. I feel for them.
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