[titleholder]

Oh ML it is good to hear from you! I’m happy that you responded so quickly when you were experiencing those symptoms and I’m happy that you’re ok <3 Our body goes through so much stress after BD and somewhere sadly that takes its toll..

I don’t see my xh as a sweet man. I see him as a weak man that only cares for him welf. Only cares about how he feels.

After all these years I can agree so much with these words! I think this is the base of a lot of MLC’ers..

When I was just out of the hospital and my baby in the NICU instead of stepping up and taking care of our D my xH took every excuse to bring my D back home early to me and instead of helping me he gave me more job while I was healing from a C-section and high bloodpressure in combination of the stress of my baby being in NICU. It showed me again that he’s so weak and only focused on this needs, when things get difficult I’m the one that has to step up, even when I’m shattered in 1000 pieces.

Take care ML! Hopefully your body will find it’s balance again!

[MadLuv]

Thank you Title. I’m so sorry you were put through so much with a new baby. It’s always mind-blowing all the different stories. I think the lack of empathy is the hardest to comprehend when your a person of extreme empathy.

My daughter had her third and final child in April. A boy names after her father’s Dad. So she has 2 children that have never met their grandfather. Out kids have no contact with any of their fathers family at all.  It has been over 4 years since his kids have seen him and i think over a year with no communication at all. It’s truly shocking that a father who lost a daughter is not involved with his kids or grandkids. He is a ghost. After 30 years.

One thing I have come to realize is that in order to live that disconnected you really can’t ever truly connect with anything. It has to be a pretty superficial life of numbness.