The TV series and the movie Ann was not an appealing character. To me its wasnt so much MLC because the husbands tried to talk to them and reach them and connect. However the jump to a much younger woman than makes it seem more like MLC. I think MLC is rooted in avoidance and so our MLCers harbor resentment and leave. They don't miraculously become healed and are able to communicate and handle life better. They go to someone they think is easier. It looks great at first because they have relief from exiting a relationship they thought was the cause . They pour all love and attention they have wanted to share but were to resentful to. Its a fantasy and escape that is unsustainable.
My XH has bought a huge house snd he lives alone. His new wife still lives in our old condo. For 2 years now. They see each other on most weekends. Sounds like a great marriage . They do not live together and I heard thats an Avoidants dream.
There is almost something harder about someone being alive and having to lose what you believed to be true of them than someone actually dying.
Married July 1991
Jan 2018 BD1 moved out I filed for Div/ H stopped it
Oct 2018 moved back
Oct 2020 BD2
Feb 2021 Div-29 1/2 years
July 2021 Married OW
Feb 2022 XH fired
June 2022 XH bring OW to meet family due to xMIL illness
May 2023 went NC after telling XH we could not be friends
Aug 2023 XH moves w/o OWife
May 2024 xMIL visits XH/OW in their new home
Aug 2024 cut relations w/XH fam.
Dec 2024 D33 expecting baby ( XH not told)